I postes recently and had a wonderful response from y'all about fitting in with UU.
I went to a service today and oh my gods was it perfect. Our reverend gave a sermon on beauty and how important it is to recognize it, especially in times like these.
It was meaningful, productive, and exactly what I was looking for. I filled 4 pagea of my notebook with quotes and thoughts and insight! Thank you all for your advice, I'm so glad I went! 💜💜

I've occasionally attended the UU Church in ny town. The reverend is nice, the community is welcoming, the building is beautiful, and the sermons are always meaningful.

As a queer, pagan(ish), autistic, mid 20s person, I'm used to having trouble fitting in, and usually it's obvious why. But I just can't figure out why I feel like I don't fit in here. So far it feels like a mix of being one of the youngest 10% of the congregation and being the only gender non-conforming person there. I feel like a zoo exhibit occasionally and while I appreciate the support, sometimes the extra attention to 'welcoming' me goes too far.

I also feel like my church doesn't 'big talk' enough. They talk about how everyone is and make so much small talk, even from the pulpit, but there's not enough talk about divinity, theology, self improvement, spiritual / religious growth, community support, etc. And when there is, its almost always from a christian perspective.

Am I alone in my complaints here? I feel like the odd one out every time I go.