So my wife was raised in UU, and I see the value her experience had for her in her very different upbringing.. I was raised in Christian churches (evangelical and Episcopalian). I'm an atheist and don't like any form of organized religion. She wants to start bringing our two-year-old son to UU Sunday school citing the progressive and social values which we both share, but she found through church and I found outside of the church.

I've made it clear that I don't want him in a church of any kind, I feel like it taints one's ability to find where they want to be and who they are on their own, even if said religion is about exploration. She's insistent and this could honestly be a breaking point for us. I've said if she wants him to go she has to be ok with me sharing my views on churches and religions. She claims that I'm saying I'd be actively trying to sabotage our son's experience. I feel like I don't have a choice as if we split over this then she'd take him to church when I'm not with him, if I repair this and let her take him then I'm in a place of feeling like I would need to counter everything he's being told and sharing my view of religious frameworks as weak and dangerous.

How does this sit with other UUers? AITA? How does the radical inclusion of UU fit with the rejection of my desire as a parent to let our son come to his own decisions when he's old enough to seek out faith or the need for a religious community?

Edit: I have been to a UU Church, I have read a lot about UU, its beliefs and history, I'm on board with what yall are doing, I have read the RE materials and lessons, and it's great that atheists can go too, doesn't make it less of a church.

Edit II: it's pretty disappointing that the vast majority of replies have tried to sell me on your church and missed the point. I really appreciate the very thoughtful replies and consideration all the same.

Edit III: I think I misspoke, by teaching him the opposite, I meant teaching my views on the idea of churches/religion, ideas around why people need groups and others don't. I'll teach my son about racism and bigotry/non belief in science but from the perspective of how people can become misguided, hurtful amd wrong