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The Inquirer Creative Competion

3 June 2025 at 10:12

Submit your creative work to inspire the UK Unitarian community!

Theme: Spirituality

  • What is spirituality to you?
  • What inspires your spiritual path?
  • How does spirituality show up in your everyday life?

The Inquirer invites creatives within the spiritual community to develop prose, poetry, and artwork on the theme of ‘spirituality’ across three competition categories:

  • Prose – 1,500 words maximum.
  • Poetry – 500 words maximum.
  • Artwork – sent in a publishable PDF or .jpeg format.

Submission information

Along with your submission, please send a good-quality headshot and short biography. Your image and biography may be used for advertising, promotion, and social media.

You can submit as many pieces as you wish. Please email submissions to the editor.

Submission deadline

All work must be submitted by 1st September 2025.

Submission fee

The Inquirer will charge a small submission fee of £3.00 per entry. This should be paid by 1st September 2025 via the following link: submission fee payment.

Terms

The work must be previously unpublished. By submitting your work, you agree to grant Exclusive First Publishing Rights to The Inquirer. The work must not be published previously or elsewhere, without written agreement from The Inquirer.

You must be the sole author of the work. The work must not be copied, plagiarised, or AI-generated.

Selection process

Winners will be selected by a steering committee of authors, publishers, board members, and the editor. Our three chosen winners (one per category) will be published in print and online in the September edition of The Inquirer.

The prose and poetry winners will have their work published in full. The artwork winner will have their work published on the front page of the September edition of The Inquirer.

Winners will be provided with a proposed version of the work prior to publication and given sufficient time to review. The Inquirer reserves the right to make minor textual changes to align with The Inquirer’s tone and style guide.

Credits

The Inquirer will list your given name and copyright notice for the work at the end of, or next to, the published work.

You will be credited on the table of contents page, at the end of the published work, and on any social media outreach.

Go to the Inquirer website.

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Notes for 06/01/25

1 June 2025 at 21:47

MAGA - While Trump is trying to ruin universities and end scientific research, letting China pull ahead, he’s expanding the use of the military to “enforce the law,” and quadrupling federal resources for prisons and detention-related facilities. Just like authoritarians in China in the nineties, instead of taking care of the nation’s health, Trump is expending vast resources to surveil and control us. (Sabrina Haake, 06/01/25)

The great line in the movie, The Godfather, was “keep you enemies close to you.” Another version might be “keep your eye on them”. Another bit of advice is “figure out what they’re up to.” Another observation is “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you.” Children raised in dysfunctional families often learn as toddlers to spot trouble at 100 yards and adapt survival strategies accordingly.

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Mental health practice - In my study of healthy aging the idea of "social connections" is emphasized over and over again with very good quality of life measures for people who have them. These connections come in many forms as you and others have pointed out.

Back in the early days of my career as a Psychiatric Social Worker, I worked on many inpatient psych units where we used "Problem Oriented Records". Many times the problem of social isolation was listed with the goal to "expand social support system." The easiest way to help people do this is to join a club and "psycho-social clubs" were very popular. Fountain House in NYC was the prime example. In Rochester, NY we had "Operation Friendship." Churches, civic organizations, sports teams, and other hobby oriented clubs are good possibilities. Lately, to older retirees I have been suggesting volunteering for a favorite cause or charity organization.

People need meaning and purpose in their life and I get to that idea with people by asking, "Finish this sentence: The three things that matter the most to me in my life are ________________, _______________________, and ________________." The answer to this simple question contributes to very interesting discussions that are often strength based rather than problem oriented.

This kind of framing is what I think Yalom means by "existential psychotherapy."

Freud said mental health was "to love and to work." Well, yeah, but what do love and work have in common? Meaning and purpose. How do you, if you do, help your clients find meaning and purpose in their lives? (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 06/01/25)

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The flaw in mental health parity policy - It seems that this discussion is based on the assumption that mental and physical health are the same thing? Are they? What are the similarities? What are the differences?

An argument can be made that the idea that mental health is a medical phenomenon and best managed within the health care discourse is problematic to begin with. Many mental health clinicians subscribe to the bio-psycho-social-spiritual model.

In order to make money in our profit making health care system, the payors have insisted that service be focused on the "bio", that is "medically necessary." Many clients need far more services than just for the bio. Who is going to pay for them and under what discourse? Perhaps the idea that the health care companies should pay for human services that focus on the needs other than the bio is fundamentally misguided. (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 06/01/25)

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Blue Skies by T.C.Boyle describes an extended family dealing with climate change in somewhat satirical ways that contribute to what we are now calling “trauma” in the form of arm amputations as the result of tick infection, and child death as a result of being eaten by a pet python. If you like books that make you think, “My life is a mess at times, but it’s not as bad as theirs” you might like this book. If you’d like my copy, send me the address you want it sent to davidgmarkham@gmail.com. (Blue Skies on Amazon)

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Reading and writing - “I believe that reading and writing are the most nourishing forms of meditation anyone has so far found. By reading the writings of the most interesting minds in history, we meditate with our own minds and theirs as well. This to me is a miracle.”

— Kurt Vonnegut (1922–2007), “Palm Sunday”

~ Follow-up Question:

How does the experience of writing—crafting thought into language—transform private reflection into a shared contemplative act, and can this process itself be considered a spiritual or transcendent one? (Wisdom Letter #291, June 1, 2025)

One of the topics covered regularly on davidgmarkham.substack.com are good books and articles worth considering reading. To what extent do you agree with Vonnegut that reading and writing are forms of meditation?

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After Dinner Conversations is a monthly “Philosophy/Ethics Short Story Literary Magazine.” The March 2025 edition has stories about emotional regulation, weight loss, human evolution, seeing your life depicted in a Netflix series, and in choosing to come back to life you will never die again. After each story are questions for reflection and/or discussion. If you would like my copy free of charge send the address you want the book sent to to davidgmarkham@gmail.com

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DEI works - While the MAGA proponents dislike DEI policies and the Federal Government has sanctioned agencies and countries for implementing them, sociological research shows that the policy works to improve the economy and quality of life for all people. (The Conversation, 05/30/25)

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Lindsey Graham, MAGA senator from South Carolina, has behaved in unethical ways and is not competent to represent the citizens of South Carolina and the United States in the Senate. Vote for Dr. Annie Andrews. (Chop Wood, Carry Water, 06/01/25)

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Notes for 05/31/25

31 May 2025 at 21:25
American Psychosis: A Historical ...

American Doctors Are Moving To Canada To Escape The Trump Administration

Earlier this year, as President Donald Trump was beginning to reshape the American government, Michael, an emergency room doctor who was born, raised, and trained in the United States, packed up his family and got out. Michael now works in a small-town hospital in Canada. KFF Health News and NPR granted him anonymity because of fears he might face reprisal from the Trump administration if he returns to the U.S. He said he feels some guilt that he did not stay to resist the Trump agenda but is assured in his decision to leave. Too much of America has simply grown too comfortable with violence and cruelty, he said. (KFF Health News 05/30/35)

It’s not just the Trump administration but the profit making health care system which contributes to what is being called “moral injury” in American health care providers.

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Competing loyalties of friends and family - As I have aged I have learned that my friends are much more dependable and supportive than my family. Perhaps this reflects more on my family system than society in general, but in my work with clients I find this phenomenon much more common contributing to great grief that is disenfranchised when adult children are not as available to their parents than the parents would like.

The common dynamic is that parents have made many attempts to engage with their adult children and the adult children have rebuffed these attempts or sometimes even "ghosted" the parent failing to respond with many excuses when a connection is finally made. In these situations I frame the experience as grief and encourage the parent to invest in other circles of emotional connection.

Friends are what I call the "intentional family " as compared to the family or origin. The purpose of family has changed a lot over the generations and from culture to culture. Expectations about traditional family dynamics are more based on romantic myth than reality.

So the suggestion for the class of 2025 that they "gather their friends tight' stimulated the question of what about respect and support the elders in their family and in their community?This raises a further question about what is the role of the elder in our current society if there is one? And where does one's loyalties lie to friends or family? When there's a conflict between the competing needs of friends and families, which do you choose first? As therapists how do we help people sort this out? What are our own experiences and how does this countertransference manifest as we frame our discussions with our clients? (David G. Markham to Clinicians' Exchange ton 05/31/25)

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The effect of psychosis on populations - Most people don't recognize the seriousness of Trump's mental illness. He has a grandiose sense of entitlement and omniscience that in a psychiatric setting would be labeled as psychotic. I have worked with many patients like this over my 56 years of practice as a Psychiatric Social Worker. The interesting thing is not Trump's psychosis but the number of people he has spread his psychosis to.

Psychosis can be contagious and spread to groups. This phenomenon is called a "folie au deux" because the psychotic belief system is shared by two or more people.

Another psychological phenomenon which Trump and his followers manifest is what is called the Dunning Kruger effect. The Dunning - Kruger effect is manifested when people low in competence overestimate their abilities. The Dunning - Kruger effect is manifested not only Donald Trump but by his supporters as well.

The hopeful insight is that reality is at times a hard teacher when psychotic beliefs and overestimation of one's knowledge and skills lead to harmful consequences. Because of these likely outcomes, giving power to psychotic people and people with the Dunning-Kruger complex is a very dangerous and ill advised thing to do because the negative consequences for people impacted by the decisions of people suffering from these maladies can be very destructive. The best way of managing these mental health problems is encapsulation and avoidance.

(David G. Markham post to Allnonfiction on 05/31/25)

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Notes for 05/24/25

25 May 2025 at 09:50

Voters have been asking candidates the wrong questions - The Fulcrum

Asking the wrong questions - “If they can get you asking the wrong questions, they don't have to worry about answers.”

— Thomas Pynchon (1937)

~ Follow-up Question:

To what extent can the shaping of public discourse through misdirection or strategic framing function as a form of intellectual control, and how does this influence the boundaries of inquiry in democratic societies?

(The Wisdom Letter #279)

Like cats which chase the shiny object especially in these days of social media and the Trump administration. Asking the wrong questions is especially a problem in the dawning age of AI when the algorithms fill in our questions for us before we even complete the question guessing what it is that we are asking.

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05/19/25 Universal basic income works - A guaranteed income pilot program in Oakland improved housing stability and employment among its recipients, according to a new report from the University of Pennsylvania's Center for Guaranteed Income Research. (Public News Service 05/19/25)

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Incompetent American Voters - It is interesting how prescient The Fifth Risk is the fifth risk being incompetence. We are living it now and it will only get worse with DOGE activities to gut the Federal government. It will take decades to restore what is being destroyed.

The big question I keep wondering about is "What were they thinking?" when they voted for Trump who clearly is, has been, incompetent. The lack of discernment of the American voters never ceases to astound me and I wonder what makes voters so incompetent themselves?

Perhaps there should be a new civics course on the topic of "What to look for in selecting governmental leaders." What would the syllabus for such a course include? (David G. Markham post to Allnonfiction on 05/21/25)

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Self awareness and know it alls - How important is self awareness? I fantasize about walking up to people and asking, "Will you tell me please what makes you tick?"

Self awareness is the first skill in Cindy Wigglesworth's book SQ21: The Twenty One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence.

I often impress on students and supervisees that it is extremely important to know what you don't know. If you don't know what you don't know the not knowing what you don't know will get you into trouble, and sometimes big trouble. I don't have many fears these days but the one that lingers and troubles me is the fear of "know it alls." They are dangerous to themselves and to others.

The statement you made about being ignorant and wise at the same time is right on target. One of the definitions of wisdom is coming to terms with all that you don't know. Out of this wisdom comes humility, curiosity, and an open heart. The amount of my ignorance grows every year of life I am given. I knew everything at 16 and it has been downhill ever since. (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/22/25)

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T-1.V.4. Ultimately, every member of the family of God must return. The miracle calls him to return because it blesses and honors him, even though he may be absent in spirit. “God is not mocked” is not a warning but a reassurance. God would be mocked if any of His creations lacked holiness. The creation is whole, and the mark of wholeness is holiness. (A Course In Miracles)

Peace Pilgrim said, “I look for the Divine Spark in every person and focus on that.” I try to do the same most of the time but sometimes I forget or get distracted or triggered and don’t see the Divine Spark but what I think is something else.

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Public health - Florida's new law banning fluoride in public water systems has drawn sharp criticism from dental professionals, who cite decades of evidence supporting its safety and effectiveness in preventing tooth decay.

Dr. Jeff Ottley, president of the Florida Dental Association, warned that the change will lead to a rise in cavities, particularly among children and underserved populations. (Public News Service on 05/23/25)

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Hurricane damage to increase in US - As hurricane winds become stronger with climate change, losses for U.S. property owners will become significantly worse, especially for those in the South, a new study in Risk Analysis predicts.

By 2060, wind-related losses for homeowners in Southeastern coastal states could be as much as 76% higher, and by 2100, they could be 102% higher, according to the study, which was released May 21.

Texas will experience the highest increase in losses, with 14% higher hurricane wind speeds in the 2050s than today, followed by the Louisiana, Mississippi and Alabama region, the researchers said. (Public Health Watch 05/24/25)

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Most Americans support the measles and other vaccines - Americans overwhelmingly recognize that the benefits of being vaccinated against measles outweigh the risks, a national poll finds.

The Annenberg Science and Public Health survey, conducted in April, found 83% of adults believe the benefits of the measles-mumps-rubella vaccine for children outweigh risks, which are generally minor. Side effects of MMR vaccination can include soreness at the injection site, a mild rash, stiffness or a fever, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. More serious side effects are rare.

The poll also found that 67% of adults correctly understand that vaccines do not cause autism. While that rate is high, it is lower than in recent years, with 71% of people rejecting the connection in 2021. The decrease comes as vaccine and science skeptics appointed by the Trump administration assume leadership of key federal health agencies.

About 70% of Americans believe children should be required to be vaccinated to attend public school because of the potential risk to others, the poll found. While vaccination requirements for schools have long been the norm across the U.S., policymakers are increasingly pursuing measures that make it easier for parents to opt out or loosening requirements. In Idaho, a law that bars schools, government entities and companies from requiring vaccination for participation will take effect July 1. (Public Health Watch 05/24/25)

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Life long learning - “Life is about learning; when you stop learning, you die.”

— Tom Clancy (1947–2013)

~ Follow-up Question:

How does the identification of learning as the essence of life challenge traditional biological or material definitions of living, and what philosophical implications arise when intellectual or spiritual growth is treated as a criterion for vitality? (The Wisdom Letter #284, 05/24/25)

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Innovation Fund Now Open for Expressions of Interest

20 May 2025 at 06:29

We’re excited to announce that the Innovation Fund is now open for Expressions of Interest (EOIs).

This new fund supports bold, creative and hopeful projects that help Unitarian communities grow, evolve, and inspire. Whether you’re imagining a new kind of worship, rethinking how your community is organised, or building partnerships to reach beyond your current networks — we want to hear from you.

You can now submit an Expression of Interest form — a compulsory first step in making an application. It’s a way to share your idea and get feedback early on, before completing a full application.

What are we looking for?
Projects that are imaginative, values-led and future-facing — not just more of the same, but something that pushes your community to grow and renew.

How to begin:
Visit the Innovation Fund webpage for full information and the EOI form.

If you have any questions, contact Nick Butler-Watts, Innovation Fund Programme Manager.

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Adolescence - Netflix series

17 May 2025 at 22:21

This week of May 11, 2025 I watched the 4 part Network series Adolescence. Adolescence tells the story about the arrest of 13-year-old Jamie Miller for the murder of his classmate The series meticulously unravels the psychological impact of the accusation and investigation on Jamie and his family.

As I watch it I was reminded of Andrew Solomon’s 2013 book Far From The Tree which tells the stories of families in which parents have a child with characteristics which separate the child from the parents’ culture such as deafness, dwarfism, autism, other disabilities, sexual orientation, drug addiction, sexual addiction, and crime. How do families navigate a society that stigmatizes their child and by association, them?

If a person is interested in learning more about what families go through when tragedy strikes upsetting the family equilibrium watching this series can enhance the viewer’s ability to empathize, experience deeper understanding, and exercise compassion.

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Notes for 05/17/25

17 May 2025 at 21:53
How's Your Moral Compass?

Examined life - Back in the old days we sometimes called this unburdening "ventilation." Ventilation is getting things off your chest and clearing your conscience. Do people still have a conscience? Having been brought up Roman Catholic at age seven when we made our first holy communion we had our first confession and were taught that prior to confession we were to "examine our conscience" to determine what sins we should confess in order to attain absolution. I don't know if children are taught these concepts and practices any more. I think probably not. That's too bad because these practices develop skills that contribute to the development of virtuous character. These practices have been incorporated into Twelve Step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous. Do you examine your conscience regularly? Socrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living. Wouldn't this be a better world if people regularly examined their life and their conscience and told someone of their findings? (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/16/25)

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New York joins other states in banning cell phone use in schools - On May 14, Alabama Gov. Kay Ivey (R) signed House Bill 166, banning cellphone use in K-12 schools starting in the 2025-2026 school year. This move makes the Yellowhammer State the fourth state to ban cellphone use in schools in May alone:

  • On May 5, Oklahoma Gov. Kevin Stitt (R) signed Senate Bill 139, which institutes a year-long ban on cellphone use in schools and requires school districts to implement policies to enforce it.

  • On May 6, New York Gov. Kathy Hochul (D) announced a school cellphone ban policy as part of the state budget for fiscal year 2026.

  • On May 9, Georgia Gov. Brian Kemp (R) signed House Bill 340, banning cellphone use in elementary and middle schools starting in January 2026.

All those state policies prohibit unsanctioned cellphone usage throughout the school day. Each state's policy exempts school-issued or school-used devices and has exemptions for students with medical or academic needs requiring the use of a wireless device. The Oklahoma and New York policies require a means for parents to contact students in an emergency.

(Ballotpedia, 05/16/25)

The banning of cell phones in schools has important ramifications for young people learning how to pay attention to important things rather than compulsively seeking the next dopamine hit from their electronic device to which they have become addicted. I am hearing in the counseling office about the withdrawal that students and parents are experiencing. The cravings are a significant source of distress. I was talking with a college professor on Tuesday about banning cell phones and lap tops and tablets in his classroom. He hasn’t done it so far but notices the distracted students when he is teaching. (David G. Markham posting to davidgmarkham.substack.com on 05/16/25)

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Data visualization, charts that changed the world - Here is a fascinating 6 minute YouTube video about data visualization in the form of pie charts, dot charts, bar charts that have changed the world. Data visualization hasn’t been around that long, only since the mid nineteenth century. The video is worth watching and thinking about. How often do you use charts both as a viewer and as a creator?

(David G. Markham posting to davidgmarkham.substack.com on 05/16/25)

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Enlightened witness - Alice Miller wrote in her book The Drama Of The Gifted Child that what abused people need is an enlightened witness. The enlightened witness acts as an agent of demystification and provides the validation for the person being gaslit that they are not crazy. This is a very important function of a psychotherapist and often the reason that people seek therapy even when they are not consciously aware that this is what they are searching for. (David G, Markham in email to colleague on 05/17/25)

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Loving people in the flesh - “It is easy to love people in memory; the hard thing is to love them when they are there in front of you.”

— John Updike (1932–2009)

~ Follow-up Question:

To what extent does the human tendency to idealize others in their absence reveal a deeper discomfort with the unpredictability and imperfection of real, embodied relationships, and how might this preference for memory over presence shape our understanding of authenticity in love? (From The Wisdom Letter #278)

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Being stupid - “A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.”

— Saul Bellow (1915–2005)

~ Follow-up Question:

Can the conscious choice to ignore truth in favor of comforting illusion be morally justified, and what are the ethical implications of prioritizing emotional or ideological security over intellectual honesty in both personal and collective life? (From The Wisdom Letter #278)

In psychology this investment in ignorance is called “denial” and sometimes “resistance.” It is a very common dynamic when people are resisting change which is being called for. The call for a new reality creates cognitive dissonance which is very anxiety inducing and leads to all kinds of acting out behaviors to relieve the distress. When people tell me they are dealing with anxiety I usually ask “What are you afraid of?”

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The conscience and moral compass - I think that Freud called the "conscience" the superego.

Super ego can mean many things such as living up to one's own standards and moral expectations and/or the expectations of others.

In our postmodern world where anything goes and anyone's "truth" is as good as anyone else's, we have lost a consensus about an appropriate moral compass.

George W. Bush's Advisor, Karl Rove, said that truth is whatever power says it is.

Kellyanne Conway said in the first Trump Administration that they dealt in "alternative facts."

Ken Wilber described our postmodern world as an age of "narcissistic nihilism."

So without any agreed upon moral compass to guide our decision making between right and wrong what are we to do but wander in confusion, anxiety, demoralization, and engage in activities that hasten our demise as a species? That's where we as psychotherapists come in. We help clients not only with symptom reduction and even elimination, but finding a good way to live that works for them. (David G. Markham posting to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/17/25)

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Notes for 05/15/25

15 May 2025 at 22:38
Mom, Dad Bickering Over Whether They’ve Seen ‘The Bear’

You’re Not The Man I Married—You’re Significantly More Attractive And Loving

(The Onion, 04/15/25)

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Pet peeve - There are so many things to be upset about that are going on in our world today with international news in our internet feeds 24/7/365 that this pet peeve seems trivial. But at age 79 I have limited time and attention on this earth to give to things, and I have decided to be more conscious of focusing on things that matter.

One of things I have noticed is that people just post links on listservs, in emails, and on social media with no explanation. Sometimes they say things like “interesting article” or “FYI.” In the past I have opened the link out of curiosity only to be disappointed that it is nothing I am interested in, or even if I am, why the person is recommending it? What is their intention? What is important enough about the material being linked to that they think it is something that I ought to give my limited and increasingly precious attention to? If the sender doesn’t care enough to take the time and energy to explain why they are recommending the material they are supplying the link to, I don’t care enough to click on it and give it my attention. (David G. Markham on davidgmarkham.substack.com on 05/15/25)

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Over 60 audit courses at SUNY for free - This Spring semester, 2025, I audited two courses at SUNY Brockport: Aging In America, and Gerontology: Health Promotion and Aging in America. The Aging In America was face to face and the Gerontology: Health Promotion and Aging In America was asynchronous. I enjoyed the face to face Aging In America Course very much and the other asynchronous course not so much.

Here is part of an email I sent to the professor in the Aging In America course: One of the things I enjoyed so much about your class was the multimedia and multiple pedagogical methods you utilized in communicating the material in your syllabus to facilitate the learning objectives.

Last night I came upon this 5 minute video from Everybody Loves Raymond about the sex life of his parents. I wondered if this video would be something helpful in that topic in your course?

Thanks so much for allowing me to audit your course and for all the work you put into making the intergenerational learning experience such a satisfying one at SUNY Brockport.

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MAID - Medical Assistance In Dying We’ve been following proposed legislation in New York that would authorize physician-assisted suicide in that state. The bill passed the New York Assembly 81-67 on April 29th, but the bill has not yet been passed by the New York Senate. While it has 25 sponsors in the Senate, 32 votes are needed for passage. The Senate Majority Leader has not committed to bringing the bill to a floor vote, and the position of the New York governor is unclear. The New York legislature typically adjourns in early June. Meanwhile, there has been much public debate for and against the measure, especially from disability rights activists. (Aging With Dignity, 05/15/25)

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Unburdening of shameful secrets - Why, after so many years, do people tell me their secrets? I don’t think it’s for forgiveness. I’m not a priest, rabbi, or pastor. I can’t offer some sort of sacramental absolution or formal forgiveness on behalf of God. No, when someone shares a shameful secret with me, it doesn’t feel like confession. It feels like an unburdening.

On Living by Kerry Egan

One of the things I have noticed over the years is the shameful secrets that I come to learn about as a Psychiatric Social Worker. After 56 years in the trade, there isn't much that surprises me any more. And then just when I think I've heard it all, somebody shares with me something I haven't heard before, or at least not in the same way, in the same context.

Edwin Friedman taught that the most therapeutic factor in a good psychotherapeutic outcome is the therapist's non anxious presence. With experience comes wisdom and with wisdom comes lower and lower levels of anxiety.

If I was looking for a therapist for myself or someone else I would be looking for someone with wisdom. Can wisdom be measured? Is it something you sense and learn about a person? I have learned that wisdom has nothing to do with age. I have met young people who are "old souls." They have wisdom beyond their years and I have met elderly people who seem obtuse and impervious.

Unburdening in the presence of wisdom is a precious experience the value of which is without monetary designation. I call it "grace". Can you use that word in a sentence? (David G. Markham posting on Clinicians' Exchange on 05/15/25)

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The Cracked Looking Glass by Katherine Ann Porter

15 May 2025 at 18:49

"The Cracked Looking Glass" by Katherine Anne Porter tells the story of Rosaleen, a spirited Irish woman married to the much older Dennis, living in rural Connecticut. Despite being faithful to her husband, Rosaleen yearns for more excitement and youthful company, often embellishing her stories and creating romantic illusions to escape the mundane reality of her life.

Her tendency to romanticize and her need for social interaction lead her neighbors to misjudge her, suspecting her of infidelity. Rosaleen herself struggles with the contrast between her inner world of dreams and the often disappointing reality. She constantly anticipates "something great" happening, a dream that rarely materializes.

The cracked looking-glass in their home serves as a central symbol, representing Rosaleen's distorted perception of herself and her life, the imperfections of love, and the difficulty of truly seeing reality.

Driven by a dream of visiting her ill sister Honora in Boston, Rosaleen embarks on a journey seeking a change. However, her idealized vision of Boston and a chance encounter there lead to disillusionment. She returns home to Dennis, and in their shared quiet life, they find a sense of contentment despite the unfulfilled dreams and the cracked reflections of their past. The story ultimately explores themes of illusion versus reality, the complexities of marriage, the disappointments of aging, and the possibility of finding peace in accepting imperfect love and life as it is.

As we get older, especially at mid age in our 50s it is common for people to experience a period of disillusionment that, even if we have fulfilled the dreams of late adolescence and early 20s they don’t feel the satisfaction and joy they had expected. They still don’t feel happy and wonder about the paths not taken and the things missed out on. This disillusionment often precipitates a depression or sometimes acting out in ways harmful to self and others like having an affair, abruptly quitting a job, spending large amounts of money recklessly, and taking up mood altering substances and behaviors compulsively. This short story, The Cracked Looking Glass appears in the The Collected Stories of Katherine Anne Porter.

Questions:

  1. Have you passed through a midlife crisis or observed others doing so? If so, what happened?

  2. What factors contribute to some people never being happy no matter what life brings them?

  3. How do you think the disillusionment of mid life can best be handled?

If you’d like my copy of the Penguin Modern version of the Cracked Looking Glass free of charge send me the address you want the book sent to at davidgmarkham@gmail.com.

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Notes for 05/13/25

13 May 2025 at 22:20

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AI - I have found AI to be a wonderful tool that is very efficient in doing research and other tasks. The question going forward is whether humans are controlling the AI or is AI controlling humans? I have been fooled by AI a few times but it was my fault for blindly depending on it. As long as the human being makes conscious and intentional use of it, it can be a great asset in our thinking, studying, and working.

The simple uses of spell check and grammar correction are great, but does this mean that people don't need to learn how to spell the proper use of grammar any more because we have AI to do it for us? What about when we use GPS and it sends us in the wrong direction? What about when the algorithm is supplying prompts that confirm our biases and we don't get new information outside our preferred box? Can AI do effective psychotherapy and human therapists will be replaced by robots? (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/13/15)

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Political scientists Charles Taber, Damon Cann, and Simona Kucsova, for example, presented subjects with conflicting evidence on issues ranging from the legalization of marijuana to the Electoral College. They found that those who started with strong beliefs about these issues became only more entrenched during the study—irrespective of what their starting beliefs were or what evidence they were given.59 The proposed explanation is that the subjects paid attention only to evidence supporting the view they already held.

O'Connor, Cailin; Weatherall, James Owen. The Misinformation Age: How False Beliefs Spread (pp. 75-76). Yale University Press. Kindle Edition.

Bert Faerstein, MSW told in 1969 at Rochester State Hospital, “Dave, it’s hard to argue with a man making sense.” I guffawed so hard that I wet my pants.

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Perhaps the skeptics of health promotion’s ability to lower healthcare costs support the philosopher Woody Allen’s contention: Death is the best way to cut down on expenses.

Haber, David, PhD. Health Promotion and Aging: Practical Applications for Health Professionals (p. 6). Springer Publishing Company. Kindle Edition.

This week the Spring semester at SUNY Brockport ends where I audited a course in the Health Science department entitled Gerontology and Health Promotion and Aging. The main text was Haber’s book. MAID (Medical Assistance In Dying) is now legal in Canada and 11 of the US states with a bill pending in the New York State legislature. Some people feel and other people might think that rather than burdening others, people should die and it is increasingly becoming a legal choice.

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Book - Motherhood - You should read Motherhood by Sheila Heti if you've ever grappled with the societal expectations and personal desires surrounding motherhood, or any major life decision without a clear right answer. Through a candid and often humorous narrative, Heti explores the narrator's years-long internal debate about whether or not to have children, delving into questions of womanhood, vocation, relationships, and the very meaning of a fulfilling life. The novel uniquely blends philosophical inquiry with personal reflection, utilizing unconventional methods like coin flips to navigate the complexities of this deeply personal choice. It's a thought-provoking and original work that sparks important conversations about the pressures women face and the validity of choosing paths outside traditional expectations.

Socrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living. Heti certainly lives an examined life, maybe even over thinks it. (David G. Markham on davidgmarkham.substack.com on 05/13/25)

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Notes for 05/11/25

11 May 2025 at 23:22

Mother’s Day - I have been wondering how women who are not mothers for a variety of reasons feel on this day?

We all have a mother but not always a good parent. Mothering is a biological event, parenting is a psychological and sociological role. We tend to conflate them at a superficial level, but deeper conversations usually distinguish the two aspects of the relationship.

At a broader level women and men can mother and father, that is nurture and protect younger generations, in many ways where there is no biological connection.

Many women and men channel their maternal and paternal aspirations in ways that are not based on a biological basis. I am thinking about therapists, teachers, nurses, and any number of human service workers. (David G. Markham, LCSWR post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/11/25)

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Good psychotherapy - The mental health field has been captured by the medical model in order to efficiently manage the costs by health insurance companies and so they specify that the psychiatric treatment must be “medically necessary.” However, people are not just biological mechanisms. They also have a psychological, social, and spiritual component which must be attended to as well if health is to be achieved and symptoms not merely minimized or possibly eliminated.Optimally, good psychotherapy is not just about symptom reduction but also about the support and expansion of strengths, talents, and abilities. (David G. Markham, LCSWR post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/11/25)

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New York’s congestion pricing scheme raised $169 million for public transit in the first quarter of its operation—while also clearing up traffic jams, reducing car crashes, and making Manhattan considerably quieter. (Chop Wood, Carry Water, 05/11/25)

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Digital or analog controls? - Rejoice! Carmakers are embracing physical buttons again. (Chop Wood, Carry Water, 05/11/25)

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Here is an AI generated podcast 13 minutes long from David Markham's reflections so far on Irvin Yalom's Hour Of The Heart. Obviously, I am biased but I am amazed at how good it is. It's well worth the listen. Let me know what you think. (David G. Markham 05/11/25)

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Motherhood - Not just a sentimental holiday

11 May 2025 at 12:03

Mother's Day some say is an artificial Hallmark Card marketing opportunity rather a more genuine tribute to the role that some women are choosing to play with all the responsibilities it entails.

I am reading Motherhood by Sheila Heti in which she describes the struggles that a 38 year old woman experiences trying to decide if she wants to have a child or not. A woman remarked to me several decades ago "It's interesting that people talk about whether they want to have a child or not, but not whether they want to raise a child or not." So simple but also profound. Having and raising a child are two different things.

The decision by a woman of whether she wants to have and raise a child is life altering.

As you may know the fertility rate in the US is now below replacement levels. Some people might say this is a good thing because the planet Earth is already overpopulated by homo sapiens and may be beyond its carrying capacity. Others worry about what the lack of younger generations means for the older generations and the economic system on which the whole population of homo sapiens depends.

Among US adults under 50 without children, the percentage who say they are not too or not at all likely to ever have children rose from 37% in 2018 to 47% in 2023.

Since the invention of the birth control pill in 1959 societies in first world countries have been radically changed with females entering college at higher and higher rates, and then the professions. With these changes the divorce rate has gone up and the average number of children has gone down. Women are now economically independent and the male roles have changed dramatically from protector and provider to onlooker and simply a source of psychological satisfaction for their female partners.

Along with these social changes the conservative minded in American society have criminalized abortion in an effort to enforce child bearing on females as we see The Handmaid's Tale leave the world of fiction to a real life experience.

On this Mother's Day we psychotherapists would do well to consider what this role of motherhood means for individuals, families, communities, and societies in 2025. The role of motherhood is complicated for both women and men and our society. It is far more than a sentimental holiday.

I would guess that those of us who consider ourselves to be feminist informed therapists might have many ideas about this.

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Notes for 05/10/25

10 May 2025 at 22:00

AI - AI is a tool to augment not supplement. When used properly it facilitates good thinking and good writing. Like the old saying, "Cars don't kill people. It's the nut behind the wheel."

As I have learned more about AI and its utility, I have found it a great asset to my intellectual and writing activities. The big question is "Do I control the AI or does the AI control me?"

Can a person become too dependent on AI and no longer think for themself? Yes.

Is this dependence on AI to the extent that the person loses a basic competence a good thing? No

Could AI take over the world? Yes

Should human beings allow this to happen? No

Is AI a good tool to enhance the performance of a human being? Yes

Will AI ever take over the consciousness of some human beings? Yes

Will AI ever take over the consciousness of all human beings? No

Will a wise human being ever allow AI to do all their thinking? No

Can human beings learn how to use AI to improve their consciousness and performance? Yes.

This has been written by David G. Markham without any assistance from AI.

(David G. Markham post to Allnonfiction list on 05/10/25)

Spirituality - A devout man came to the Baal Shem Tov with a complaint: "I've made an enormous effort to serve the Lord sincerely and honestly, but I haven't noticed any change or improvement. I'm still the same ordinary, ignorant person as before."

The Baal Shem Tov answered: "You've realized you are ordinary and ignorant, and that in itself is a great accomplishment."

There are a lot of good things to be said for giving up the ego.

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Health provider burnout - There are three attributes of physician ‘burnout’—one, lack of sense of accomplishment; two, lack of enthusiasm; and three, cynicism-depersonalization. The studies show that all three are correlated with one and only one variable: the date that the Electronic Medical Record machines came in, and began to take over medicine.” (Samuel Shem, Man’s 4th Best Hospital)

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Growing older gracefully - I am finishing up the two courses I have been auditing this semester at SUNY Brockport: Ageing In America in the Social Work Department, and Gerontology and Health Promotion and Aging in the Health Science Department. I thought I knew all this stuff but I have been humbled because I have learned something new in every class.

Both classes have covered the topic of "Ageism". Exploring this topic has made me much more aware of the myths, prejudices, and discriminatory behaviors towards elders in our society. One professor did a 20 minute riff on sarcastic, snarky, denigrating, and mocking birthday cards. I was already familiar with this genre of "funny" birthday cards, but some of them shocked me now that I am 79. The loss of functioning that comes with older age is not always funny but a serious matter. The question is how resilient is the older person and how willing and able are they to adapt to change?

One of the text book chapters pointed out that most older people can still do the things that they could do when they were younger, but it takes them longer. They are not as fast, not as agile, don't have the same energy levels and so can't perform at the same level in the 70s they could in their 20s but they still can do it. It takes patience, and willingness to continue to function albeit at a slower pace.

I wonder whether "feeling your age" is the same thing as "acting" your age? How is a 75 year old supposed to act? People are different and some people biologically age more quickly than others so I question if chronological age is a good indicator of a person's level of functioning. There are other indicators of functioning more valid than simply chronological age which is true at any stage of human development.

At age 79 having recovered from the quadriceps tendon tears in both legs and 5 months flat on my back in orthopedic rehab I am 90% recovered and up and walking and functioning adequately. Do I feel my age? I don't know. How is a 79 year old supposed to feel?

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Family system dynamics - Yesterday, May 9th was the birthday of 2 of my nine children. Kelly, my third child, turned 56 and Ryan who was killed in a DUI crash at age 8 in 1993 would have been 41. People ask, “How long does it take to get over the death of a child?” The answer is “never.” The parent always wonders what the dead child would have done with their life had they continued to live. In Ryan’s case, I will never know, but had he lived, he would have done great things. I am sure of it. Kelly has done great things and reports that she has a satisfying and fulfilling life. It is always a delight to learn about it, both the good and bad. Nobody talks much about the grief that comes into a parent’s life when their children reach adulthood. Mostly we like to talk about our joys and pride. If an adult child has problems often people are quick to blame the adult child’s problems on their upbringing by the parents, but I don’t often see the connection although sometimes there is one. When adult children fail, the first people they blame for their problems and failures are their parents. This defense mechanism is called “displacement” meaning that rather than take responsibility for their own failures and suffering they displace that responsibility onto someone else. This dynamic is a major contributor to estrangement. (David G. Markham on davidgmarkham.substack.com on 05/10/25)

Psychotherapy - I often point out to clients when it is appropriate that you can either be mad or be sad. I say something like, “When people are depressed, I always think that getting mad is a step in the right direction out of the depression. Anger gives you energy and gumption. When you slam your fist down on the table and say ‘Gosh darn it, I’m not taking his any more’ the person is getting better. (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/10/25)

Volunteerism - People high on the personality traits of extraversion and agreeableness are more likely to be philanthropic. Extraverted people have a higher tendency to volunteer, while agreeable people are more likely to give money to charity. The extraverted are probably attracted to volunteering partly because it gives them a chance to be social, which is highly rewarding to them. Extraverted people also tend to be assertive, enjoying taking charge, which is an important component of volunteering. Agreeable people, meanwhile, tend to be compassionate and polite, focusing on other people’s needs and charitable giving helps express this part of their personality. (Psyblog, 05/10/25)

Do you or have you volunteered or given money to a charitable cause or to a person in need? What motivated you to do it and how satisfied are you with the experience?

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Hour Of The Heart by Irvin Yalom. AI generated podcast made by David G. Markham

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Notes for May 8 2025

8 May 2025 at 20:30

Trump’s executive orders - Then, dutifully, I scrolled through the Day One executive orders:

  • A full, complete and unconditional pardon . . . offenses related to events that occurred at or near the United States Capitol on January 6, 2021 . . .

  • . . . the privilege of United States citizenship does not automatically extend to persons born in the United States . . .

  • . . . establishes the Department of Government Efficiency . . .

  • . . . eliminate the “electric vehicle (EV) mandate” . . .

  • . . . directing that it officially be renamed the Gulf of America.

The Day One executive orders included—and depended on—the President’s formal, executive declarations of not one, not two, but three national emergencies: an immigration emergency, an energy emergency, and a terrorism emergency. There was also the Donald-Trump-is-President-again emergency.

(Jill Lepore, The New Yorker, May 5, 20250)

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The Trump Administration - Kash Patel, at his Senate confirmation hearing as F.B.I. director, was asked about a far-right conspiracy theorist:

Senator Dick Durbin: Are you familiar with Mr. Stew Peters?

Patel (after a long pause): Not off the top of my head.

Durbin: You’ve made eight separate appearances on his podcast.

(Jill Lepore, The New Yorker, May 5, 20250)

Senator Durbin announced he is not going to run again for the senate in 2026 when he would be 81 after being in congress for about 44 years first as a congressman and then as a Senator representing Illinois.

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Federal workforce - The number of federal workers who have lost their jobs due to DOGE cuts so far is 260,000. (The Guardian Weekly, May 2, 2025)

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Growing older gracefully - Question : Two or three words that describe your experience of getting older?

68 year old male: “Keep moving.”

(David G. Markham heard in the Growing Older Gracefully Support Group in Brockport, NY in the fall of 2024.)

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Growing older gracefully - The biggest problem as we age is not loneliness but the loss of meaning and purpose. If a person has meaning and purpose in their life they will never be lonely because they always have stuff to do. (David G. Markham to a client in a psychotherapy session.)

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Books - Anne Tyler is one of my favorite authors and I have read most of her books including her latest Three Days In June. It is a short and enjoyable read and I give it 5 out of 5 stars. Here is a brief review from the Amazon web site:

A new Anne Tyler novel destined to be an instant classic: a socially awkward mother of the bride navigates the days before and after her daughter’s wedding.

Gail Baines is having a bad day. To start, she loses her job—or quits, depending on whom you ask. Tomorrow her daughter, Debbie, is getting married, and she hasn’t even been invited to the spa day organized by the mother of the groom. Then, Gail’s ex-husband, Max, arrives unannounced on her doorstep, carrying a cat, without a place to stay, and without even a suit.

But the true crisis lands when Debbie shares with her parents a secret she has just learned about her husband to be. It will not only throw the wedding into question but also stir up Gail and Max’s past.

Told with deep sensitivity and a tart sense of humor, full of the joys and heartbreaks of love and marriage and family life, Three Days in June is a triumph, and gives us the perennially bestselling, Pulitzer Prize–winning writer at the height of her powers.

If anyone wants a copy free of charge send my your mailing address to davidgmarkham@gmail.com

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Spirituality - But when your mind is centered in Truth you are in touch with the love and peace and happiness that are your natural state of being. You live in this awareness of wholeness rather than through the personal self. You recognize that the universe of form is only a story unfolding from your mind. (Elizabeth Cronkhite, ACIM Mentor Articles Vol.2)

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Measles outbreak - As the public health director in Lubbock, Texas, Wells is at the center of a multi-state outbreak of the virus that has infected at least 700 people, sent dozens to hospitals and claimed three lives. (Tradeoffs, May 8, 2025)

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Public health problems - A January poll by health policy nonprofit KFF found that more parents are delaying or skipping vaccinations for their children, compared to 2023, with higher rates of holdouts among parents who believe or are uncertain about false claims that link measles vaccines to autism. (Tradeoffs, May 8, 2025)

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Growing older gracefully - Every stage of life has its challenges. I asked a 69 year old woman yesterday "Would you like to be 25 or 30 again?"

She replied, "I would if I could know then what I know now," and laughed.

With aging comes life experience, and life experience, hopefully, involves learning, and this learning is called wisdom and wisdom is not something that most people want to give up because it is acquired often through pain and suffering.

This wisdom is not valued as much as youthfulness in our contemporary society.

Two of my favorite bumper stickers are:

"We all grow old but only some of us grow up."

"Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement."

So, no, I don't want to be young again. I have come too far to go back.

(David G. Markham posted to Gerontology and Health Promotion and Aging on May 8, 2025)

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Another expert resigns under Trump administration - The FDA is under the U.S. Department Of Health And Human Services (HHS) headed by vaccine skeptic Robert F. Kennedy, Jr. On March 28, Dr. Peter Marks resigned after he said he was pressed by officials at HHS to come in line with skepticism about the safety and effectiveness of vaccines or be fired. (Time, May 12, 2025)

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Placebo effect - Jesus said that one can’t be a prophet in one’s own land. People in your own land know you too well and they have de-idealized you. People in foreign lands though can transfer to you any kind of healing power and authority they choose without the check of reality. In the psychotherapy trade this is called “transference” and the “placebo effect.” In more scientific language, it is called “hope and expectancy” in the transtheoretical model of psychotherapy outcomes.

Hope and expectancy is a fascinating concept and one might ask how can hope and expectancy be utilized to the client’s best advantage in achieving a good outcome from psychotherapy? (David G. Markham post to Clinicians’ Exchange on 05/08/25)

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Social media - Nearly half of teens say social media is bad for youth mental health: That’s according to the results of a Pew Research Center survey of 1,391 US teens aged 13 to 17. 48% said social media has a “mostly negative effect” on their peers, which researchers note is a substantial increase from the 32% of teens who said the same in 2022. In addition, 45% say they spend too much time scrolling various platforms, and 44% said they’ve cut back on usage. (Mindsite News, 05/08/25)

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Good works - Once incarcerated at age 15 while 6 months pregnant, Tabatha Trammell now works as a doula for other incarcerated mothers. “It's a person that can listen to you, to help you find your voice. I didn't have that when I was pregnant. So I decided, ‘Oh, I think I want to do that,’” she said, on the Criminal podcast. In addition to being a full-spectrum doula, Trammell is a criminal justice reform advocate and founder of Woman With a Plan, a Georgia-based nonprofit providing women returning home from incarceration with mentorship, basic necessities, and community support. (Mindsite News, 05/08/25)

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Impact of Trump’s tariff policy - Sandy Alonso really needed to replace her wheelchair.

"It's 10 years old," Alonso said. "Pieces are starting to break."

Alonso liked the model she already had: a chair that is light enough for her to load into her car herself. It is made in China, and she is not aware of any other North American distributor who has it. So, she found a freight forwarder in Canada who could ship the wheelchair to her to Tampa, Florida, where she lives.

When Alonso placed the order in early March, she found she would have to pay 20% tariffs on the chair, which was "certainly workable" though "not great," she says. But President Trump imposed more tariffs within weeks, and by the time the wheelchair arrived in Canada via China and crossed the border into the U.S., Alonso was facing a steeper tariff of 145%.

By then, it was too late to send it back. The total cost of her wheelchair was close to $6,000, of which nearly $3,500 was for tariffs alone.

"I'm just sitting here going, wow, I can't believe I've just paid this much for this chair," she laughed in disbelief. (NPR, May 8, 2025)

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Professional referrals - When I make referrals I try to make them to a person not just an agency or organization. I usually talk the referral target up if appropriate. I notice when referral agents refer to me by name they are the best referrals I get. "So and so told me to call you because they thought you would be a good person to help me."

Half the work of engagement is already done, usually, if the person believes they have arrived in the right place with the right person to help.

Unfortunately, I am so old now that I don't know many of the professionals working around me. There was a time when I knew everybody. When people ask me for a referral, I am often at a loss. I have tried to network more to catch up on who's who, but it is a lot of work and energy. And now with the internet and online telehealth services, it is hard to know what's going on and who's doing what with whom when and where.

Health care and human services have become so commercialized and commodified that we don't have professionals anymore, we have "providers" and we don't have "patients", we have "consumers." Providers and consumers have become just cogs in a production system that is designed for profit not for human interaction. We need to put the human back into health care. (David G. Markham posting to Clinicians' Exchange on 05/08/25)

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Notes for May 7, 2025

7 May 2025 at 22:42

Notes for May 7, 2025

One in four children aged 18 and under living in the U.S. has at least one immigrant parent. KFF

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California has become the world’s fourth largest economy at $4.1tn after the US at 29.18tn, China at 18.74tn, and Germany at $4.65tn, California just displaced 4th pace holder Japan at $4.02 tn, (The Guardian Weekly May 2, 2025)

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A new contraceptive for males called Adam is a hydrogel tht blocks the sperm ducts in males for up to two years. It is still in trials but seems promising, Once approved it will offer an alternative to condoms, and vasectomies. (The Guardian Weekly May 2, 2025)

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In talking with a client this week who lost her 18 year old son in a motor vehicle accident, it was noted that the physical body dies but the spirit lives on in the stories we tell about the deceased person’s life.(David G. Markham)

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In talking with another client this week, it was noted that rumination, ahedonia, and anxiety accompanied by dread can be significant signs of depression that can respond well to antidepressant medication and psychotherapy. (David G. Markham)

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Based on observation it seems that most people get into the mental health field because they come from dysfunctional families in which they played some sort of mediating role. They have been in training for the profession since birth. They can spot dysfunctional behaviors at 1,000 yards and are alert and ready to manage themselves so as to manage the problematic behaviors. They make excellent therapists. They have what seems to be an intuitive sense about things. (David G. Markham posting to Clinicians' Exchange)

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The definition of personality disorders I like is people who engage in "repetitive patterns of dysfunctional behaviors." The first step in treatment is identifying and naming the repetitive pattern, and then coming up with ideas about how to change the pattern. Part of this change effort is client awareness and intention to do something different, and another part of it is changing external circumstances which motivates a new adaptation to those circumstances. Irvin Yalom points out in his book Hour Of The Heart that this external circumstance to which the client can adapt and engage in experimental behaviors is the therapeutic relationship with the therapist. (David G. Markham posting to Clinicians' Exchange)

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There are many different practice styles when it comes to outpatient psychotherapy and reasons for meeting with clients. I remember a decade ago when one of the health care panels I was on said that the average number of outpatient sessions for mental health providers was 3-4. That was when they were giving 20 outpatient sessions per year. (David G. Markham posting to Clinicians' Exchange)

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Is there a role for the elder in our society in the US in 2025?

When asked what old age means to them, one 68 year old woman said "Downgraded."

Are elders segregated in our society and marginalized to the periphery and the biggest hope that our society has for them is that they not become a burden to the younger generations.

If anything, the elder is joked about in condescending and patronizing ways.

In Stephen Jenkinson’s book, Come Of Age: The Case For Elderhood In A Time Of Trouble, Charles Eisenstein writes in the forward:

Stephen Jenkinson explores (among other things) what our cultural fetish for youth and growth, security and control, have done to aging and the aged; why we have so many old people and so few elders. The attempt to prolong and preserve youth, which amounts to a denial of death, is precisely what thwarts the transition to elderhood. In my understanding, an elder is someone who knows she is going to die, someone who knows failure and limit.

Jenkinson, Stephen. Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble (p. xvii). North Atlantic Books. Kindle Edition.

The wise elder has stared death in the eye and knows they are going to die and has come to understand what a good life is and is not. It is this kind of wisdom that is sorely needed in this world so enamored with money, celebrity, and power.

Where are the wise elders who can show us the way to a satisfying and fulfilling life? Do you know any? (David G. Markham posted to Gerontology and Health Promotion and Aging class discussion forum on 05/07/25)

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Prof Geoff Levermore to remain GA President for One More Year

30 April 2025 at 05:57

For personal reasons, VP Jeffrey Bowes has been unable to take on the Presidency for the coming year, so Prof Geoff Levermore has graciously accepted to remain in his post.

Geoff has had a very enlightening year visiting congregations around the country and looks forward to more visits in 2025-26. He especially enjoys visiting smaller congregations where he can interact with people more deeply. If you would like to invite Geoff to lead a service or participate in an event, please email him directly.

Some background on Geoff:
Prof Levermore is a dedicated and prolific climate scientist, and notably one of the Lead Authors of the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) contributing to the award of the Nobel Peace Prize to the IPCC with Al Gore in 2007. (https://www.manchester.ac.uk/discover/news/a-nobel-contribution-to-peace-prize/
He attends services at both Dean Row and Norcliffe chapels in Cheshire Greater Manchester and gives services at nearby chapels in the North West and Shrewsbury. His own spiritual perspective is influenced by the theologian Gordon Kaufman’s ideas about the Mystery of Creation, and philosopher Karl Popper’s views on the Open Society. “I commit the social sin of discussing politics and religion with people. I believe in open religion, open societies, open to doubt… I’m not so spiritual, although I believe in the transcendency of things. An idea can be so wonderful – a lightbulb moment. This happens with my theology.” His personal theology drives him to make the world a better place and he is confident that technology will play a significant role in combatting global warming. 

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Saving lives: honouring and acting on our 2024 General Assembly Resolution 6 on Gaza

1 April 2025 at 05:21

‘The suffering being inflicted on children in Gaza is unfathomable’, according to Save the Children. ‘In 15 months of conflict, over 17,000 children have been killed. Many more perished from hunger and disease. Behind these appalling stats are the stories of individual children. They are buried under the rubble, cut off from their families, alone and afraid. The survivors face constant hunger and horrific violence. Many are stricken by terror and grief… Because right now, Gaza is on the brink of famine. Malnutrition and disease threaten children’s survival. They urgently need food, shelter and medicines.’

According to the United Nations, the International Red Cross and other international relief agencies, at least 46,707 people have been killed in Gaza, including babies dying in incubators.  Over 100,000 people have been injured. The health system has collapsed.  Over 1000 health workers have been killed.  Nearly 1,900,000 Gazans have been internally displaced.

 In response to our 2024 GA Resolution 6 an urgent appeal has been launched. It is supported by our GA President, Professor Geoffrey Levermore, and several former GA Presidents and other prominent Unitarians.  

 If you wish to support this emergency appeal please send a cheque payable to the British Red Cross and kindly earmark it on the back to the British Red Cross Gaza Crisis Appeal and send it to the British Red Cross, 44 Moorfields, London EC2Y 9AL You can make an online donation at www.redcross.org.uk and telephone donations on 0300 004 0338

This humanitarian appeal is supported by the LDPA and the following individual signatories:

Professor Geoffrey Levermore, President of the General Assembly of Unitarian and Free Christian Churches

Robert Ince, former GA EC Convenor and initiator of GA Red Cross emergency appeals

Sir Peter Soulsby, former GA EC Convenor

Rev. Martin Whitell, former GA EC Convenor and initiator of GA Red Cross emergency appeals

Sarah Benfield, EC member

Joyce Ashworth, former GA President

Rev. Brian Cockcroft, former GA President and NSPCI minister

Joan Cook, former GA President

Rev. Bill Darlison, former GA President

Rev. Dr Peter Godfrey, GA Honorary Member

Dorothy Hewerdine, GA Honorary Member

Rev. Peter Hewis, former GA President

Rev. Eric Jones, GA Honorary Member

Rev. Celia Midgley, GA Honorary Member

Rev. John Midgley, GA Honorary Member

Anne Mills, former GA President

Rev. Charles VanDenBroeder, former GA President

Professor Jacqueline Woodman, NHS consultant and President of the LDPA

Rev. Lena Cockcroft, former Moderator of the NSPCI and former President of the Ministerial Fellowship

Rev. Chris Hudson, former Moderator of the NSPCI

Rev. Dr David Steers, NSPCI minister and editor of Faith and Freedom

Rev. Michael Allured

Rev. Eric Breeze

Rev. Jim Corrigall

Rev. Joy Croft

Rev. Danny Crosby

Rev. Winnie Gordon

Rev. Andrew M. Hill

Rev. Anna Jarvis

Rev. Margaret Kirk

Rev. Art Lester

Rev. C.J. McGregor, LDPA District Minister

Rev. Tony McNeile

Rev. Feargus O’Connor

Rev. Dr Andi Phillips

Rev. Simon Ramsay

Rev. Lynne Readett

Rev. Lewis Rees

Rev. Maud Robinson

Rev. Phil Silk

Rev. Geoffrey R. Usher

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Unitarian CO adds voice to Faith Leaders’ letter on Child Poverty

31 March 2025 at 07:25

Faith leaders united in moral call against child poverty drafted a letter to Bridget Philipson, Secretary of State for Education, and Liz Kendall, Secretary of State for Work and Pensions. The letter was signed by 35 faith leaders, including our Chief Officer Liz Slade, and encourages bold action by the current government to ensure that child poverty is significantly reduced. It endorses a report put out by Action for Children with “a roadmap of measures that could lift 1.2 million children out of poverty by the end of this parliament”.

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EC election results

31 March 2025 at 05:38

The GA Executive Committee election results are now in from Popularis, our independent election firm, so congratulations to Zac BakerSarah BenfieldRev Stephanie Bisby, and Rev Arek Malecki who have all been elected to the EC. Best wishes to all for a productive term!

You can find more information about the 2025 elections process here.

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Unitarians stand in solidarity with Quakers 

29 March 2025 at 11:53

Unitarians have expressed their concern and alarm at the reports from Quakers in Britain that the Westminster Quaker meeting house was violently entered by over twenty police officers this week, and arrests made of six young women who were holding a peaceful meeting relating to concerns about the climate and Gaza.  

At its Annual General Meeting today, the London and South East Unitarian District Association passed an emergency motion to express their solidarity with Westminster Quaker Meeting and Quakers in Britain and urged Unitarian members and congregations to write to their MPs to express their disquiet over the violation of the sanctity of the Quaker meeting house. 

Unitarians, as well as being a closely aligned faith group to Quakers, have long been committed to religious and civil liberty.  

Unitarian Chief Officer, Liz Slade, said “Along with many Unitarians and other people of faith and conscience, I have been increasingly concerned about the erosion of the public’s rights to peaceful protest. The violent entry of armed police into a place of worship that has been committed to peace for hundreds of years seems particularly egregious and disrespectful of the Quaker ethos. The young people were meeting to plan peaceful acts in service of others, and it’s hard to comprehend why armed police would be deployed to stop them.” 

Professor Geoff Levermore, the Unitarian General Assembly President, who is a climate scientist and was part of the climate panel that was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 2007 said “Although I do not know the full details of this case, it is upsetting that our Quaker colleagues, close in outlook to Unitarians, have their Meeting House broken into and some of the members arrested. It is especially distressing that this was a peaceful meeting discussing important issues with ethical issues that are at the heart of religion.“

Notes: 

There are 150 Unitarian congregations in Britain, all committed to a free and inquiring approach to religion. The Unitarian tradition stems back to non-conformist Christians in the 17th and 18th century, and Unitarians today hold beliefs and practices reflecting Christian, humanist, pagan, Buddhist, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu traditions and beyond, and draw on wisdom from all sources, including sacred texts, philosophy, nature, science, and art. Every Unitarian congregation is independent. Unitarian congregations and ministers are members of the General Assembly of Unitarian and Free Christian Churches. 

You can find more information on our website: www.unitarian.org.uk  

If you would like to write to your MP about this or any other issue, you can do so easily through the website https://www.writetothem.com/, sponsored by the charity mySociety. 

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Support the ACLU

20 March 2025 at 09:07

ACLU

Since Donald Trump took the oath of office, the ACLU has filed over 15 lawsuits against the administration to stop their attacks on our civil rights:

  • Within 2 hours of the Trump administration’s attacks on birthright citizenship, the ACLU sued, eventually blocking enforcement of this executive action and ensuring that babies aren’t illegally and inhumanely denied their citizenship.

  • The ACLU filed lawsuits to stop the illegal transfer of immigrants from the United States to Guantánamo Bay; to block Trump's efforts to fast-track deportations without due process; and to halt the administration's efforts to completely shut down asylum at the border.

  • When the Trump administration threatened to defund doctors that support transgender people, the ACLU sued. A federal judge issued a temporary restraining order blocking this executive order – a lifesaving victory for the trans community.

  • Beyond the courtroom, the ACLU mobilized more than 180,000 supporters to contact Congress to demand that DOGE stop accessing American’s private information.

The ACLU needs your support to continue holding the Trump administration accountable. Join the ACLU today to help defend our rights and freedoms.

Your support will help the ACLU continue fighting for our rights and freedoms in the courts, in Congress, and in communities across the country.

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Doncaster mayor hope’s attack on transgender community “little short of criminal” says church minister

13 March 2025 at 08:17

“Church minister Stephanie Bisby has described Nick Fletcher as an “extremist” – and says if she had heard him express his views on the transgender community in public she would have reported him to police for a “hate crime.””

Read the full article at the Doncaster Free Press.

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What percentage of the population is Transgender?

11 March 2025 at 11:36

What percentage of the American population is transgender? Why do the Republicans inject so much fear into the American population about the threat, supposedly, that people who have transitioned gender pose to their fellow Americans? What’s the game the Republicans are playing?

The number of people who identify as transgender in the US is 2.3 million out of 340.1 million people.

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Reflections on Nexus #3

3 March 2025 at 09:23

What this crude analysis misses is that human power is never the outcome of individual initiative. Power always stems from cooperation between large numbers of humans. Accordingly, it isn’t human psychology that causes us to abuse power. …The main argument of this book is that humankind gains enormous power by building large networks of cooperation, but the way these networks are built predisposes us to use power unwisely. Our problem is a network problem. Nexus pp. xiii - xiv

Harari’s idea is based on social psychology which has found from many studies that what we call “evil” is a social problem not just an individual phenomenon. The social problem has many characteristics and one of the most fundamental is how information is shared between members of the social system. The information can be true or false, realistic or unrealistic, valued or dismissed, understood or misunderstood.

The interesting aspect of information often not recognized is what is called “metacognition” or what do we know about what we know? Are we aware of the overall point Harari is making in his book, Nexus, that we don’t consider how, as humans, our information networks work and the impact they have on individual and social behavior.

As we observe our American society in 2025 move from a democracy to an autocracy do we understand what the forces are that have brought this development about? What is it about our contemporary information network that is fueling this change?

Many pundits have noted this change in information networks calling the MAGA movement things like “Earth two” while “Earth one” is reality based and Earth two is not. The rise in conspiracy theories and delusional thinking and reality denial are common features of our current information networks.

The interesting question is why do so many people in our contemporary society believe in bull shit? Is it ignorance, gullibility, the desire for power that leads to the pandemic of falsehoods and perpetration of disinformation?

Fear drives the belief in magical powers of charismatic leaders who promise them safety and better days ahead. When fear becomes the driving factor in information networks, outcomes often are harmful to the species and other aspects of life on the planet. The question then becomes how can the level of fear be reduced in a society that is driven to dysfunctional beliefs leading to bad decisions?

To answer the question of how to reduce the level of fear in a population, Harari points us in the direction of the use of power which is a social phenomenon. Who has the power? What kind of power is it? How can it best be utilized? What are the benefits and costs of the power implemented in the social change process?

What are the information networks you participate in? What do you get from them and what do you give to them? To what extent are the information networks you participate in forces for good or evil?

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Since Bezos' announcement Wednesday, some of the Post's competitors have capitalized on the news. The Guardian sent a fundraising pitch to readers, saying its fate will never be dictated by a billionaire owner.

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Reflections on Nexus #2

2 March 2025 at 09:44

Despite the stupendous amounts of information at our disposal, we are as susceptible as our ancient ancestors to fantasy and delusion, Nazism and Stalinism are but two recent examples of the mass insanity that occasionally engulfs even modern societies. Nobody disputes that humans today have a lot more information and power than in the Stone Age, but it is far from certain that we understand ourselves and our role in the universe much better.

Nexus by Yuval Noah Harari, p. XII

The power that information provides for humans does not make them wise. Information and wisdom are two different things. Wisdom refers to the values that guide the application of that information. Information is related to what psychologists call IQ, the intellectual quotient. Wisdom is related to what is called SQ, the spiritual quotient.

Spiritual intelligence is far less studied than IQ and EQ, the emotional quotient. One of the best models of SQ I have found is the model proposed by Cindy Wigglesworth in her book The Twenty-One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence.

When Harari writes that “it is far from certain that we understand ourselves and our role in the universe much better” I am reminded of two skills in Wigglesworth’s model of spiritual intelligence: “awareness of own worldview,” and “awareness of interconnectedness of life.”

Socrates taught that “an unexamined life is not worth living.” How much does our society encourage people to examine their own lives? How much do you examine your own life? How many people do you know that examine their interior spiritual life and functioning in all the domains: physical, psychological, social, spiritual?

How much does our society encourage people to become aware of the interconnectedness of life? We became aware of our interconnectedness during the Covid-19 pandemic when “supply chains” were disrupted and resources to meet our needs were not available from the usual sources. The anxiety in society escalated from previous lower levels when people couldn’t find and buy something as fundamental as toilet paper. And we as a species are becoming much more aware of the ecology of life with climate warming which is caused by human activity leading to species extinction and weather events with destructive consequences for our customary patterns of living.

Without the commensurate development of spiritual intelligence to the availability of information, humans do stupid things that are destructive to the species and the planet we inhabit. How is the development of spiritual intelligence among homo sapiens to be nurtured and facilitated? Harari seems to be sharing with us his awareness that what he calls “information networks” is fundamental to understanding ourselves and our role in the universe better. “Information networks” is a helpful concept, but it seems that more is needed than just information if homo sapiens is to not only survive as a species but thrive. What is it?

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Book of the month: Nexus by Yuval Noah Harari

1 March 2025 at 10:12

Nexus and information networks

Nexus was chosen by the All-Nonfiction online book discussion group for its March 2025 read. I wanted to read it anyway because I watched Yuval interviewed on a couple of TV shows and was interested in the topic of how information networks have developed over the history of humanity and influenced the formation, development, and functioning of societies.

As an amateur Sociologist, social systems have always fascinated me and I have found in my work as a Psychiatric Social Worker that social system functioning better explains and predicts human behavior than individual characteristics. So, I wanted to learn more about what Harari calls “information networks” and how they work. Would having a greater understanding of information networks help me to better understand and predict human behavior at all levels, the micro, mezzo, and macro?

We are living in a time where humans have more information at their disposal than at any time in human history. This information has given them powers that to previous generations would have seemed magical and yet humans are still given to fantasy, conspiracy, delusion, war, harm and a myriad of other dysfunctional behaviors. How does information influence human decision making from a moral point of view? The great power information provides can enable humans to do great good or great harm; just reflect on the power that the understanding of atomic energy has given humans as an example.

Information is not the same thing as wisdom. The world has been blessed and harmed by what I call “educated idiots.” Being smart is not the same thing as being wise. Wisdom is the application of the information we have at our disposal. I know plenty of smart people, but not all of them are wise.

So, I am interested in how information networks not only become smart but wise as well. As we observe our current media outlets, we become aware that they provide information that is often distorted, false, and like a toxin infects populations with malignant ideas that do great harm to the individual, their families, their communities, our society, and our world. How does a society develop an immunity or mitigate the negative consequences of harmful information networks?

Follow along with me this month as I reflect on what I am learning from Yuval Noah Harari in his book Nexus.

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No one is coming. It's up to us.

16 February 2025 at 19:48

by K. Starling on We The People Dissent

On November 5, I looked for a leader, a hero to save us.

November passed. Then December.

Crickets.

It struck me: we are alone. No one is coming.

After thoroughly wallowing in fear, a boisterous voice needled its way into the forefront of my mind. “Stop,” it insisted. “Stop this. Stop it now.”

“Why?! Why should I? It’s hopeless.”

She scoffed (yes, my inner dialog scoffs often). “You are the calvary.”

And she was right.

Congress, courts, and organizations have a role to play, but it is we, the people, who can stop the cancer of hate from consuming the marrow of our nation. It is we, the people, who can resist the tide of tyranny threatening our streets. We are the answer.

They want us to believe we are powerless. We are not.
They want us to believe we are fractured. We don’t need to be.

Every day, our numbers grow. Every day, their numbers shrink. With time and persistence, what has begun as a trickle can turn into a flood.

It begins today. Today, we must resist.

We must declare, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all people are created equal, that they are endowed with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

It will not be easy, but for too long, we have lived under a mist of racism, of bigotry, of sexism. For too long, we have subsisted on crumbs while the wealthy have dined on fruits of our labor. We have funded their excess with our lives, their comfort with our pain.

No more. Together, we must persist to form a more perfect union—one built upon liberty and justice for all.

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What do you do when afraid of retribution for telling the truth?

16 February 2025 at 13:33

Donald Trump has threatened and engaged in retribution towards people he deems disloyal to him. Many people have told me they are scared to speak up for the right thing and truth out of fear of reprisal and attack. This observation raises the question of what should a person do who is scared to tell the truth and do the right thing because of fear of retribution?

When threatened with retribution for advocating for a just cause a person should:

A. Stop the advocacy efforts

B. Engage in retribution also as in "an eye for an eye."

C. Report the threat to the police

D. Pray to one's Higher Power for protection and assistance

E. Engage in deep breathing to lower one's level of emotional arousal.

F. Other

What might “other” be?

What is the best answer?

What would you advise a family member and friends?

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Unitarians open doors to protesters

1 February 2025 at 09:56

On the 29th and 30th January, 16 political prisoners had a joint case at the Royal Courts of Justice, appealing the lengthy sentences given to them for peaceful protest against the climate crisis. Across both days, hundreds of people gathered, listened to speakers including Chris Pachkam, and were buoyed by musical guests including Billy Bragg. In the early afternoon of the second day, dozens of protestors staged a sit-in blockade on The Strand, directly in front of the Royal Courts.

As the courts are just around the corner from Essex Hall, the offices of the General Assembly, Unitarians for Climate Justice hosted a ‘rest and welcome’ space for protesters outside the courts giving their support to the prisoners. Unitarians have long stood up for civil liberty and care for the planet, so this seemed like a straightforward cause to get behind. 

Over the course of the two days of the trial, several hundred people passed through the doors of Essex Hall, hosted in the space that was originally a Unitarian book shop, and more recently a cafe, and is awaiting refurbishment to be used as a more active space for gatherings of Unitarians and allies. 

The U4CJ team, led by Rob Oulton, welcomed people in, served them tea and biscuits, and created a welcoming space for a warm rest and a sit-down – particularly needed after the very moving silent sit-in on the road outside the courts. 

There was much gratitude expressed by the protestors – and interest in Unitarianism, especially having experienced our welcome so directly. 

As Joseph Priestley wrote in 1774, the same year that he played a part in forming the first Unitarian congregation in Essex Hall, “Religious liberty cannot be maintained except on the basis of civil liberty”.

The results of the appeal will not be known for some weeks. 

If you would like to join U4CJ’s Facebook or WhatsApp groups to be connected with other Unitarians taking steps large and small, all are welcome. There are close connections between U4CJ and our Social Justice Network, which works with newly-appointed social justice reps from Unitarian and Free Christian congregations. Please contact Ann Howell for more information.

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Federal government functions being shut down

27 January 2025 at 11:09

One of the first steps taken when autocracies take over a government is to shut down the functioning of the major governmental institutions which provide the infrastructure for a democratic society. We are seeing this happen at NIH, NIJ, and other Federal governmental agencies that Americans depend on to create and maintain the highest quality of life possible. These agencies are being crippled and dismantled so that the autocrats can seize control from the experts and professionals. These actions are a major set back for the positive evolution of American society and the world.

What can you do?

Support social institutions at the state and local level. Cast your votes wisely for candidates who promote constructive social policies. Educate yourself about the social systems we all rely on to validate and reinforce the components that contribute to their well being and effectiveness. Engage in mutual aid activities in your local communities.

More specifically, how well is the criminal justice system operating in the jurisdiction in which you live? Where there are problems address them. Where there are strengths and good work being done, support it with your time, talent, and treasure.

Where there is good work being done at the state and local level leave the information in the comments.

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Social policy outcomes

27 January 2025 at 08:02

We are living in a time in American society where the population is very polarized and rather than debate what is right, people would rather argue about who is right.

Social policies have become politicized regardless of the social consequences those policies produce, good and bad, intended and unintended.

Social science has evolved over the last 100 years and measurement techniques of key indicators are much more accurate at determining what social policies produce better outcomes. Social engineering is no longer so much a matter of ideology and preferences but rather whether the policies improve the quality of life for whom, when, where, and how?

davidgmarkham.subtack will be publishing articles on Mondays, and sometimes more often, describing the consequences of social policies so that citizens can make more informed decisions about what social policies are in their best interests, the society we live in, and all of life on planet earth.

Real time social science research can be done comparing the quality of life indicators in Red States and Blue States in the US.

Mother Jones magazine has reported

“The states that have enacted the harshest abortion restrictions, banning it outright or after six weeks, are, it turns out, the worst equipped to deal with the consequences of forcing people into parenthood. These 17 states, controlled by Republicans, apart from one Democrat governor, tend to rank among the nation’s worst in maternal mortality, child wellness, and food security. They offer less access to affordable health care, too, which makes it harder for women, for example, to get birth control prescriptions.”

Those states are Idaho, South Dakota, Texas, Oklahoma, Alabama, Louisiana, Mississippi, Tennessee, Kentucky, West Virginia, Indiana, Missouri, Georgia, South Carolina, Florida, Iowa, and Arkansas.

There are other social indicators I have studies to determine how New York State compares to other states. New York as the lowest DUI mortality rate of any state in the US. It also as the third lowest number of suicides, and the fifth lowest gun mortality rates. The policies and services in New York State which also protects women’s freedoms when it comes to making decisions about their reproductive health is also one of the best in the nation. New York State is also the first state in the union to mandate paid prenatal leave.

Social policies have direct ramifications for the public and social health of individuals, families, communities, states, and nations. This observation isn’t about political ideology, but about what works. Policies have consequences for populations of people.

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It's time to enhance your scientific literacy. The Trump administration is not going to help you.

26 January 2025 at 18:06

The following comes from American Prospect on 01/23/25:

President Trump, as part of sweeping changes to the federal bureaucracy, has imposed unprecedented harsh restrictions on the National Institutes of Health. All travel has been canceled, ruining many important conferences. All agency communications have been banned until further notice, blocking a highly anticipated report on the festering avian flu outbreak that has killed millions of birds, and could cause another pandemic if it mutates to enable human-to-human transmission. Worst of all, all study sections, which are required to disburse NIH’s $40 billion in grants—supporting some 300,000 working scientists at thousands of universities—are also halted indefinitely.

These decisions may be reversed, but damage is already accumulating fast, and the outlook is bleak.

The NIH is arguably the premier institution of medical research in the world. Founded in 1887, its scientists and grant programs have advanced countless groundbreaking discoveries, like the structure of DNA, chemotherapy, and the mRNA vaccine. NIH scientist Barney Graham designed the core of the Moderna COVID-19 vaccine over a single weekend. Its scientists and grants have supported work that has won 174 Nobel Prizes and counting; most recently the chemist David Baker in 2024.

In short, NIH is the kind of thing that used to be recognized as central to both American prosperity and geopolitical influence. The social and strategic benefits to owning such an immensely successful research complex are immense. Even Trump in his first term did not meddle that much with the agency.

But in his second term, Trump stands at the head of a rising tide of vengeful, crackbrained irrationalism that might well end American scientific pre-eminence. Witness Robert F. Kennedy Jr., his nominee to run NIH’s parent agency, the Department of Health and Human Services—a delusional, paranoid anti-vaccine conspiracy theorist. It would be hard to imagine a worse person for the job. This nomination by itself could conceivably cause a bird flu pandemic.

It wouldn’t be the first time a country lobotomized itself in a fit of pique. Before 1933, Germany was the clear world leader in academic research and achievement, winning far more Nobel Prizes than any other country. Hitler and the Nazis blew that up in a crusade against liberalism and "Jewish science," driving most top researchers across Europe (like Albert Einstein) to Britain or the U.S., where many of them worked on the Manhattan Project. German science never recovered fully. –Ryan Cooper

From The American Prospect.

Editor’s note: The majority of American voters have enabled Donald Trump and his staff and contributors to do great harm to America and the world when they voted for him to be the US President in 2024 election. Who are these people and did they know what they were doing? Some did and some didn’t know what the consequences would be of their vote. Trump’s withdrawal of the US from the WHO and his freezing funds at the NIH for medical research will have lasting affects on the health of Americans for decades.

The US underperformed other developed countries in managing the COVID epidemic in the first Trump administration and Trump’s current decisions don’t bode much better for the future.

What can the average American do about this? Support public health programs and research at your state and county level and support your favorite medical research universities and organizations. Above all else support the scientists and students who live in your communities and regions. Be aware of disinformation and snake oil sales people. If there ever was a time for people to bone up on their scientific literacy it would be during the next four years.

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Premise classes address life's enduring questions.

26 January 2025 at 14:17

I have taken many classes from Premise and they are well worth the time and fee. Premise presents single classes on “enduring questions.” Premise asks the participants to do a little homework first so everyone attending the session has a common frame of reference.

I wonder if you would like to join me online in the upcoming Premise session on Sunday, February 2, 2025 at 7:00 - 8:30 PM ET, discussing the question “Does Thinking About Death Lead To A Good Life?”

You can check out the class by clicking here. The $25.00 fee is more than a movie without refreshments, less than a play at GEVA, and a heck of a lot less than a professional sporting event like the Buffalo Bills or the Buffalo Sabres.

I’d love to see you in the zoom room during this session.

If the $25.00 fee is not in your budget, I am happy to gift you a ticket to benefit from your participation in the discussion. Just let me know.

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Growing older gracefully - The benefits of growing older

26 January 2025 at 13:09

Articles about growing older gracefully appear every Thursday on davidgmarkham.substack.com and sometimes more often.

In a youth idolizing society, the benefits of growing older are often not recognized, acknowledged, and celebrated. So here is a list of some benefits of older age.

  1. Growing up - There is a difference between growing old and growing up. All things grow old, but they do not necessarily grow up. What is growing up? It’s actualizing the potential, the innate essence of the thing. It is blossoming and coming into one’s own. Growing older gracefully involves growing up, realizing one’s potential.

  2. Wisdom - Wisdom is different from knowledge. Wisdom comes from experience. The bumper sticker says, “Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment.” Older folks often have earned their Ph.D. from the University of Hard Knocks

  3. Compassion - With hard knocks some people become negative and bitter while others become more empathetic and compassionate. “Been there and done that.” In this compassion there is much peace and less fear. Some might call this “love.”

  4. Peace of mind - The pressures and stress of earlier life circumstances have been set aside, and living up to the expectations and requirements of others to prove oneself is no longer necessary and desirable. The person is freer to live for oneself and not for the appeasement of others.

  5. Gratitude for life now - There is less striving and working for the future because the future is limited. Taking each day for the gift it is instead of living for tomorrow is a relief.

Are there other benefits of growing up? What makes life in the last days peaceful and joyful?

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Spiritual intelligence - Skill #2 - Awareness of life purpose

26 January 2025 at 11:48

Articles on spiritual intelligence usually appear on davidgmarkham.substack.com on Tuesdays and sometimes other days of the week..

The three big existential questions are: why was I born? What is the purpose of my life? What happens when I die?

The second skill of spiritual intelligence in Cindy Wigglesworth’s model of twenty one skills is awareness of life purpose. Why am I here? What am I supposed to be doing with my life?

There are many ways of finding an answer to this question of life purpose. What are your talents and abilities? What are your interests? Some people have such clarity that they can say “I was born to do this.”

This clarity often comes after exploration and experimentation slowly over time with a great deal of trial and error. For others it comes clearer earlier in their lives.

What activities give you a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment? What makes you want to get up in the morning and get going?

A painter is born to paint. A musician is born to make music. A carpenter is born to make things out of wood. A seamstress and tailor are born to make clothing out of fabric and thread. An accountant is born to account for things, and a doctor and nurse are born to heal people from their illnesses.

What turns you on? What gets your juices flowing?

In helping people find their purpose it sometimes helps to answer this question “The three things that matter the most to me in my life are ___________, ________________, and ___________.”

Another helpful question is “The things I would like to have gotten out of life in the next 1, 3, and 5 years are _____________________________________?

We each are born for a reason unique and special at a particular time in human history. Why? Why would our Creator go to all this trouble to make each of us different and not clones of each other? And why would our Creator put us on this Earth at this time and not 1,000 years earlier or 200 years later?

We each were born here for a reason and it is our mission to figure out what that reason is and to engage in it. To do otherwise is what we sometimes call “a lost soul.”

To what extent do you have clarity on your life’s purpose and to what extent are you a lost soul? If you feel lost, find someone you trust and have confidence in to talk to about it with the goal of gaining more clarity.

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Moral compass Sunday - Bishop Mariann Edgar Budde's homily at the Presidential Inaugural on 01/22/25.

26 January 2025 at 10:37

Every Sunday davidgmarkham.substack.com posts an article on the topic of our moral compass. How do we know what is the right thing to do?

Bishop Mariann Edgar Budde gave a homily for the Inaugural at the National Cathedral on 01/22/25 that provides a moral compass for Americans for the future.

The North Star of the compass is unity. Unity is based on three virtues: a respect for the inherent worth and dignity of every person, honesty, and humility.

As a country, we have gathered this morning to pray for unity as a nation—not for agreement, political or otherwise, but for the kind of unity that fosters community across diversity and division, a unity that serves the common good.

Unity, in this sense, is the threshold requirement for people to live together in a free society, it is the solid rock, as Jesus said, in this case upon which to build a nation. It is not conformity. It is not victory. It is not polite weariness or passive passivity born of exhaustion. Unity is not partisan.

Rather, unity is a way of being with one another that encompasses and respects our differences, that teaches us to hold multiple perspectives and life experiences as valid and worthy of respect; that enables us, in our communities and in the halls of power to genuinely care for one another, even when we disagree. Those across our country who dedicate their lives, or who volunteer to help others in times of natural disaster, often at great risk to themselves, never ask those they are helping for whom they voted in the past election or what positions they hold on a particular issue. And we are at our best when we follow their example.

Unity at times, is sacrificial, in the way that love is sacrificial, a giving of ourselves for the sake of another. In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus of Nazareth exhorts us to love not only our neighbors, but to love our enemies. And to pray for those who persecute us, to be merciful as our God is merciful, and to forgive others as God forgives us. Jesus went out of his way to welcome those whom his society deemed as outcasts.

Now, I grant you that unity in this broad, expansive sense is aspirational, and it’s a lot to pray for—it is a big ask of our God, worthy of the best of who we are and who we can be. But there isn’t much to be gained by our prayers if we act in ways that further deepen the divisions among us. Our Scriptures are quite clear about this: God is never impressed with prayers when actions are not informed by them. Nor does God spare us from the consequences of our deeds, which always, in the end, matter more than the words we pray.

Those of us gathered here in the Cathedral, we are not naïve about the realities of politics. When power, wealth and competing interests are at stake, when views of what America should be are in conflict; when there are strong opinions across a spectrum of possibilities and starkly different understandings of what the right course of action is, there will be winners and losers when votes are cast, decisions made, that set the course of public policy and the prioritization of resources. It goes without saying that in a democracy, not everyone’s particular hopes and dreams can be realized in a given legislative session or a presidential term, not even in a generation. Not everyone’s specific prayers, for those of us who are people of prayer, not everyone’s specific prayers will be answered as we would like. But for some, the loss of their hopes and dreams will be far more than political defeat, but instead a loss of equality and dignity, and their livelihoods.

Given this, is true unity among us even possible, and why should we care about it?

Well, I hope that we care. I hope that we care, because the culture of contempt that has become normalized in our country threatens to destroy us. We are all bombarded daily with messages from what sociologists now call, “the outrage industrial complex”—some of that driven by external forces whose interests are furthered by a polarized America. Contempt fuels our political campaigns and social media, and many profit from it. But it is a dangerous way to lead a country.

I am a person of faith, surrounded by people of faith. And with God’s help I believe that unity in this country is possible—not perfectly, for we are imperfect people and an imperfect union—but sufficient enough to keep us believing in and working to realize the ideals of the United States of America—ideals expressed in the Declaration of Independence, with its assertion of innate human equality and dignity.

And we are right to pray for God’s help as we seek unity, for we need God’s help, but only if we ourselves are willing to tend to the foundations upon which unity depends. Like Jesus’ analogy of building a house of faith on the rock of his teachings, as opposed to building a house on sand, the foundations we need for unity must be sturdy enough to withstand the many storms that threaten it.

What are they, the foundations of unity? Drawing from our sacred traditions and texts, let me suggest that there are at least three.

The first foundation for unity is honoring the inherent dignity of every human being, which is, as all faiths represented here affirm, the birthright of all people as children of our One God. In public discourse, honoring each other’s dignity means refusing to mock or discount, or demonize those with whom we differ, choosing instead to respectfully debate across our differences, and whenever possible, to seek common ground. If common ground is not possible, dignity demands that we remain true to our convictions without contempt for those who hold convictions of their own.

A second foundation for unity is honesty in both private conversation and public discourse. If we aren’t willing to be honest, there is no use in praying for unity, because our actions work against the prayers themselves. We might, for a time, experience a false sense of unity among some, but not the sturdier, broader unity that we need to address the challenges that we face.

Now to be fair, we don’t always know where the truth lies. There is a lot working against the truth now, staggeringly so. But when we do know, when we know what is true, it’s incumbent upon us to speak the truth, even when—especially when—it costs us.

And the third and last foundation for unity I will mention is humility, which we all need, because we are all fallible human beings. We make mistakes. We say and do things that we regret. We have our blind spots and biases. And perhaps we are the most dangerous to ourselves and others when we are persuaded, without a doubt, that we are absolutely right and someone else is absolutely wrong—because then we are just a few steps away from labeling ourselves as the good people, versus the bad people.

The truth is that we are all people, capable of both good and bad. Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn astutely observed that “The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties, but right through every human heart and through all human hearts.” The more we realize this, the more room we have within ourselves for humility, and openness to one another across our differences, because in fact, we are more like one another than we realize, and we need each other.

Unity is relatively easy to pray for on occasions of great solemnity. It is a lot harder to realize when we are dealing with real differences in the public arena. But without unity, we are building our nation’s house on sand.

With a commitment to unity that incorporates diversity and transcends disagreement, and with the solid foundations of dignity, honesty, and humility that such unity requires, we can do our part, and in our time, to realize the ideals and the dream of America.

Let me make one final plea, Mr. President. Millions have put their trust in you. As you told the nation yesterday, you have felt the providential hand of a loving God. In the name of our God, I ask you to have mercy upon the people in our country who are scared now. There are gay, lesbian, and transgender children in Democratic, Republican. and independent families, some who fear for their lives.

And the people who pick our crops and clean our office buildings, who labor in our poultry farms and meat-packing plants, who wash the dishes after we eat in restaurants and work the night shifts in hospitals. They may not be citizens or have the proper documentation, but the vast majority of immigrants are not criminals. They pay taxes and are good neighbors. They are faithful members of our churches and mosques, synagogues, gurdwaras, and temples.

May I ask you to have mercy, Mr. President, on those in our communities whose children fear that their parents will be taken away—and that you help those who are fleeing war zones and persecution in their own lands to find compassion and welcome here. Our God teaches us that we are to be merciful to the stranger, for we were all once strangers in this land.

May God grant us the strength and courage to honor the dignity of every human being, to speak the truth to one another in love, and to walk humbly with one another and our God, for the good of all people, for the people in this nation and the world.

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Open letter to mental health professional colleagues as they witness the pain of their clients.

26 January 2025 at 09:58

A colleague wrote in part : “This has been an ugly week of multiple clients upset with the executive orders. The thing that continues to strike me is how der Trumpenfuhrer embodies the sum of all fears…..I spent two hours on Zoom today with crying people in the midst of the total meltdown of their lives, having lost jobs in the past several months and now worried about the ways in which the executive orders will effect them and the world. It was an ugly day.”

My reply is below:

It seems very important for therapists to support one another in what they are observing and experiencing. Vicarious trauma may be on the rise in our profession when therapists witness and describe days like the one you just had.

Psychopaths like pain. Inflicting pain is the point because it makes them feel powerful. Perhaps one of the most challenging things for therapists to observe and attempt to mitigate is cruelty and sadism.

In recent days not only is cruelty and sadism being perpetrated but it is being normalized with "pardons" that lift external constraints and restrictions and allows those so inclined to behave in further cruel and sadistic ways with impunity.

As I learned working on inpatient psych units and psych ed what works best with these behaviors is injections of Haldol and four point restraint with a skilled team trained to exert a "show of force". These tactics are used only after de-escalation techniques have failed.

After such interventions staff always met for a brief de-debriefing so that calm could be restored and confidence in maintaining safe order was reinforced.

As therapists we need to find ways to keep each other safe so we can keep our clients safe as best we can.

Remember, cruelty is not a byproduct of what is being perpetrated, but the cruelty is the point to dominate, coerce, and subjugate. It is important for us as MH professionals to confront it head on, lean into it, and mitigate it. Some of us will be harmed in the process, but in the end justice, compassion, dignity, and peace will be achieved.

Keep the faith. Stay strong. Be courageous, Do the right thing.

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New York Leads the way protecting students from smartphone distractions in schools.

25 January 2025 at 22:30

In my long career for 56 years now as a Psychiatric Social Worker I have been continuously involved in prevention activities to prevent substance abuse, teenage pregnancy, mental health problems, bullying, juvenile delinquency, and now smartphone and computer addiction.

Social Psychologists like Jonathan Haidt and Jean Twenge have documented the rise in adolescent anxiety, depression, suicide since the increasing prevalence of smartphones and social media around 2010.

There has not only been a rise in these mental health problems in adolescents but also in adults.

There are small steps government can take to pass regulations to discipline individual and group behavior that harms the public health. Restricting smartphone use in some settings where it is disruptive and harmful is one small step like restricting smoking in public places and not driving intoxicated.

These regulations work. New York State has the lowest DUI mortality rate in the nation. It is ranked #3 in suicides with the third lowest suicide rate among states in the nation and is #5 in the lowest gun mortality rate in the nation.

The point is that public health policies and regulations have significant quality of life outcomes which people, for the most part, are not aware of.

It can be predicted that restricting smartphone use in schools in New York State will have similar beneficial consequences for our New York State citizens.

From NYS Governor Kathy Hochul:

Across our nation, kids are being besieged by addictive algorithms, toxic social media, and smartphones that can manipulate their minds like a drug.

I’ve held roundtables in every corner of the state with students, parents, teachers, and experts on the impact of smartphones on learning and our kids' mental health. At one of those roundtables, a young woman said to me: “You have to save us from ourselves.”

Young people are calling for help. As the adults in the room, it's our job to pick up that call – and help them put down the phone.

I’m proposing a plan to put an end to digital distractions in every public school in New York so our children can focus on learning, not scrolling.

Here are the details:

  • Students will be required to put smartphones away and out of sight – not just during homeroom or lunch, but for the entire school day

  • Schools will be empowered to develop their own implementation plans and can utilize new funding to purchase storage solutions to help them go distraction-free

  • Parents will still be able to contact their child during the day if needed

And law enforcement officials, including our State Police Superintendent, have made it clear: If there’s an emergency at school, a distraction-free environment is safer for students.

This week, I visited Farnsworth Middle School where they already have a distraction-free policy in place. Students and teachers told me that the lunchroom and hallways are loud again because kids are talking to each other instead of looking at their phones.

Our plan stems from one simple truth: When I hear that kids are in need, I will never hesitate to act.

We’ve protected our children before – from cigarettes to alcohol and drunk driving. Now, we’re taking action again, protecting them from the challenges of addictive technology.

Ever Upward,

Gov. Kathy Hochul

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the unitarians now on Bluesky

21 January 2025 at 10:17

If you are looking for less toxic social media platform, Bluesky offers a space where hate speech and deliberate misinformation are banned. We have created a profile and will use this to test the waters and add to our social media toolbox. We invite you to find us and follow us!

Bluesky is founded on the acceptance of community guidelines that: empower user choice, cultivate a welcoming environment, and evolve with feedback. They believe that treating others with respect is non-negotiable. You can read the full guidelines here.

You can use Bluesky in your browser – https://bsky.app/ – or on your phone, just download the app. We are @unitarian.bsky.social

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New York State mandates paid prenatal leave for pregnant employees

20 January 2025 at 09:35

Governor Kathy Hochul announced New York's pioneering paid prenatal leave program, starting January 1, 2025. This initiative, the first of its kind in the nation, ensures all pregnant New Yorkers can attend crucial medical appointments without financial hardship. Hochul highlights the program's significance in preventing mothers from choosing between employment and prenatal care. The program's impact is expected to positively affect over 136,000 pregnant women. Hochul expresses pride in this achievement and thanks supporters for their continued backing.

Editor’s note: Governor Hochul is herself a mother who has balanced career and motherhood so perhaps she has more empathy and understanding of the situation for working mothers.

Increasingly Gov. Hochul and her administration have created a state where it is more satisfying and fulfilling to work and live. Her social policies influence good outcomes when quality of life indicators are measured. With prepaid prenatal leave policy, an observer might wonder how this policy will affect maternal and infant death rates?

In the long run it seems like a good policy for both families and employers who are able to retain trained and productive employees through a pregnancy and childbirth.

It is interesting that New York State is the first state in the US to create this policy of paid prenatal leave. We can be proud as New Yorkers that we as a people support pregnant women and families.

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Should a society choose leaders based on charismatic personality or a character of integrity?

19 January 2025 at 19:57

The cultural move from "character" to "personality" in choosing leaders is a regression in the models of Integral and Spiral Dynamics. If an observer agrees with this assessment, this regression raises a couple of questions: Why the regression? Is this movement permanent or temporary?

I'll try to answer the second question first. The regression is temporary because choosing leaders based on personality while entertaining and momentarily comforting is short lived because personality does not indicate competence and the ability to facilitate the promised outcomes. And so disenchantment and disillusionment sets in and the follower is looking for new leadership. The question now is how the "personality figure" will hold onto power and that is usually through coercion and violence.

The second question of why followers choose a leader based on personality is multidimensional but the primary reason is the promise to mitigate or eliminate whatever the follower fears. The strong person, the warrior type, is often perceived as glamorous and godlike and an alter ego who promises to be their champion. The follower wants very much to be like the warrior/leader and begins to emulate their behavior. At this point, the biggest fear motivating the follower is rejection by the idealized leader and being exiled from the leader and the leader’s group of followers. The stigma of this shunning brings psychological, social, and sometimes physical death. "Hang Mike Pence." "Oh, Nancy, where are you Nancy?"

At some point, followers begin to realize that survival depends on cooperative activity and trust, and cooperation and trust is based on justice, fairness, and that "personality" is narcissistic and not fair and can't be trusted and so followers start looking for a better way which leads to the creation of rules and laws than are fairly and objectively enforced and character once again becomes important and valued.

In our current cultural zeitgeist it is only a matter of time when the cult of personality will implode and people will again want to move to "character" and justice, and the rule of law and character, not personality. How long will this take? Depends how long it takes for the cult of personality to hit bottom. Those of us with experience in the addiction field know that people usually are not willing to make a change effort until they hit bottom, and their situation becomes dire in one way or another. A good counselor knows that sometimes we can raise the bottom and don't just have to sit around and let the predictable situation run its course.

Culturally how do we help raise the bottom when the society has regressed to a cult of personality? Any ideas? People who work at the macro level in community psychology might know. I have many ideas. The first and most important is for the change agent not to be an enabler and not to engage in co-dependent behaviors. What does that look like? What other things can be done?

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Your days are numbered. Suppose you could know how many you have left?

19 January 2025 at 18:12

In nearly every manner, these boxes were identical. All were dark brown in color, with reddish tints, cool and smooth to the touch. And inscribed on every box was a simple, yet cryptic message, written in the native tongue of its recipient: The measure of your life lies within. Within each box was a single string, initially hidden by a silvery white piece of delicate fabric, so even those who lifted the lid would think twice before looking at what lay underneath. As if the box itself were warning you, trying to protect you from your own childish impulse to immediately tear away the wrapping. As if the box were asking you to pause, to truly contemplate your next move. Because that one could never be undone. Indeed, the boxes varied on only two accounts. Each small chest bore the name of its individual recipient, and each string inside measured a different length. But when the boxes first arrived that March, amid the fear and the confusion, nobody quite understood what the measure truly meant. At least, not yet.

Erlick, Nikki. The Measure: A Novel (p. 2). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

These boxes first arrived in March to everyone over 21 and then they arrived at each person’s twenty first birthday. The recipients soon discovered that the length of the string in the box indicated the length of the recipient's life. A long string meant a long life and a short string a short life.

Once the recipients of the boxes learned how to measure the strings to know more precisely how much time they had left, the question arose about whether a person wanted to know? Would they choose to open their box and measure their string or not? Would you want to open your box and find out the length of your life? Of your loved ones? Of you co-workers and neighbors? Of other people on whom you depend to get some of your needs met?

The Measure raises many further interesting questions such as:

  1. What kinds of problems do you think knowing the length of people’s lives would introduce into your life, your family, society?

  2. Does knowing your lifespan limit your freedom or empower you to live more intentionally and with more vigor?

  3. Would knowing your approximate date fill you with despair and nihilism or fill you with appreciation and gratitude for the life you have and its preciousness?

  4. How might knowing people’s death dates contribute to social inequalities and problems with social justice?

  5. How would knowing your lifespan affect your relationships with loved ones?

  6. What would you predict would be different reactions to the knowledge of one’s lifespan?

I turned 79 on my last birthday on 12/25/45. I learned that the life expectancy of a US Caucasian male in 2022 was 75. I am 4 years past my life expectancy. I am living on “borrowed time.” Each day is a gift. Am I making the best use of it? Am I worthy of it? Why do I get this extra time while over half of my peers don’t? To what extent should I feel survivor's guilt? Receiving this additional time do I have additional responsibilities and obligations to human kind?

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Rank of US healthcare system in cost and effectiveness in world is the worst of developed countries.

19 January 2025 at 11:03

Most Americans have no idea about the state of our terrible healthcare system.

The US healthcare system while it is the most costly in the world at #1 only ranks #69 in performance and outcomes. The UK by contrast ranks #34 twice as good as the US and Canada ranks #20 and Italy #17, and Japan #2 and Singapore #1. China is #5 and Taiwan is #4.

What is wrong with the US system? The desire for profit in what should be a basic nonprofit human service skews the creation and maintenance of the US.. Americans have all the TVs, microwaves, air conditioners, and cheap consumer goods they want, but basic human services like health care, schooling, policing, housing, child care, and social welfare are deficient compared to other countries.

Americans have no idea how badly we stack up to other developed nations when it comes to basic health and human services. The problem is our capitalistic system which makes profit the driving force in the development and maintenance of thes health and human service systems.. Until Americans have a change of heart in their basic values we will continue to compare poorly to other developed countries.

Americans, because of their individualistic, dog eat dog, zero sum thought systems blame poor health and well being on personality characteristics while the status of health and well being is much more predicted by social factors than individual ones.

The values hierarchy in America is badly out of whack. The first step in improvement is understanding the problem, the factors contributing to it, and crafting and intervention into the system to change it or opt out of it as much as possible and create a new one.

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31 January is the deadline for EC candidates

17 January 2025 at 07:18

There are four openings for new members to the Executive Committee. To be considered, you must apply by 31 January 2025, with support from your congregation or other Unitarian member organisation. 

You can find all the information you need, including nomination forms, here: https://www.unitarian.org.uk/how-we-work/ec-elections/

What is the Executive Committee (EC)?

The EC are the trustees of the General Assembly of Unitarian and Free Christian Churches – the charity that supports our denomination in line with our charitable object. The current members are Rev Jo James (Convenor), John Bates (Honorary Treasurer), Sarah Benfield, Rev Laura Dobson, Zac Baker, Jenny Jacobs, and Simon Hall. 

How are they appointed?

We hold elections every two years to appoint four new EC members, who will each serve a term of four years.

All quota-paying members of congregations are eligible to vote in the election, along with Associate Members, Ministers, Honorary Members. Each person only gets one vote. 

How are elections managed?

We work with Popularis, an independent company that manages electoral processes for a range of organisations. We pay them a fee for this. 

The process is overseen by the Electoral Panel, a group of volunteers from the Unitarian movement. Each Electoral Panel member serves for three elections, with one volunteer rotated out at each election to retain knowledge . Current members are Nicola Temple, David Warhurst and Ann Peart. 

We rely on congregational secretaries to ensure that ballot papers are provided to each quota paying member in a congregation; as the GA does not hold a list of individual named congregation members, we cannot provide ballot papers directly. 

When will the elections happen?

The deadline for candidates to stand for election is the 31st January 2025. Ballot papers will then be sent out to members and congregations in early-mid February. The deadline for ballot papers to be returned to Popularis is 28 March 2025. The results of the election will be announced shortly afterwards. Successful candidates will begin their term from the end of the annual meetings, on 14th April 2025. 

How many candidates will be elected this time?

Four candidates will be elected, in line with the GA’s constitution. 

We are in an unusual situation this year, where there are more than four vacancies on the EC. This is a result of there being fewer than four candidates standing at the last election, and then one of those elected candidates needing to step down from the EC for personal reasons. Co-opted members must stand for elected at the next election to continue.  This means that after the election, the new EC will be able to co-opt additional candidates into the remaining vacancies. 

The GA’s constitution in its current form does not anticipate the situation we find ourselves in this time – even if the full four candidates are appointed in this election, the resulting EC will not be quorate. As such, the EC are putting forward a procedural motion at the Annual Meetings to make a small change to the constitution. The proposed change will allow that EC body to co-opt additional members so that it becomes quorate. 

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Official statement from the GA regarding the recent ceasefire agreement

17 January 2025 at 06:37

(Written , in accordance with the motion passed at the last Annual Meetings): “Unitarians and Free Christians welcome the new agreement signed by representatives of the Israeli Government and Hamas.

It is a basic human right we all share to live at peace with our neighbours, regardless of religious, political, and cultural differences.

As Unitarians and Free Christians, we grieve with all those who have lost friends, relatives, partners, their health, their homes, and their livelihoods in this conflict, the roots of which go back centuries.

We hope the newly negotiated ceasefire will prove to be the beginning of the creation of a lasting settlement respecting the rights of all who live in the Israel-Palestine region.

We urge continued generosity to humanitarian relief efforts in the region through recognised charities, such as the International Red Cross and Red Crescent Movement, and Medical Aid for Palestinians.”

For reference, the full wording of the passed motion can be found here: https://www.unitarian.org.uk/policyanddebate/

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Chief Officer lends voice to CAN Bill

15 January 2025 at 12:11

In light of the Climate and Nature (CAN) Bill that will be debated in parliament on the 24th January, a group of prominent faith leaders delivered a letter to Downing Street signed by 26 of their faith colleagues, including our Chief Officer Liz Slade. Other signatories included: the Bishop of Norwich, the Rt Revd Graham Usher, the Bishop of Reading, the Rt Revd Olivia Graham, and the Bishop of Kingston, Dr Martin Gainsborough, the president of the Hindu Forum of Britain, Trupti Patel; the chair of the Mosques and Imams National Advisory Board, Qari Muhammad Asim; and the Senior Rabbi of the New North London Masorti Synagogue, Jonathan Wittenberg.

The CAN Bill would enshrine in law a series of protections to the climate, including limiting carbon emissions, ending the extraction of fossil fuels in the UK, and monitoring the impacts on human health and the destruction of nature.

So far, 108 MPs have pledged to be at the vote. You can check to see if your MP is on that list here: https://www.zerohour.uk/togetherwecan/. If not, there’s a link at the bottom of that page for you to email your MP directly and encourage them to attend the debate.

This bill aligns very well with Unitarian values regarding the stewardship of the earth and its natural resources, as well as giving voice to those most affected by climate change in this country and globally.

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Does the character of our elected representatives matter to the voters who elect them to office?

15 January 2025 at 08:02

Joe Perticone wrote on The Bulwark on 01/14/25 about the senate cabinet hearings:

Americans have a lot of disdain for the way Congress works. They would do well to think about the character of the individuals they elected to send to Washington, because those are the people who have turned the legislative branch into what it is today: an aging, cynical, and nakedly partisan institution without any interest in due diligence.

A friend of mine sent me an email two days ago in which he wrote that politics is ALWAYS a dirty business. I understand his cynicism and demoralization. His comment started me thinking about why are our politics is a “dirty” business?

It’s because getting dirty works. It rewards the people who do the dirt. These folks with poor character who play dirty for some reason are attractive to American voters and they choose them to represent them. Of maybe the American voter is just bad at judging character or maybe a little of both.

If our elected representatives are people of poor character who play dirty, it makes an observer question who are these people that choose them to represent them when they vote? Are they uninformed voters, or like their representatives to play dirty as long as they win, or just team players who vote for their team no matter their morals and character, or maybe a little bit of all three and other factors as well.

What if when politicians make poor decisions based on ulterior motives and immoral choices, the people who voted for them were held accountable for giving them the power to do their dirty things that harm people and the country?

If a company hires employees who do immoral, illegal, and abusive things, their managers and executives are held accountable for employing these people with civil and sometimes criminal law suits for damages.

Supposing voters where held liable for voting for and electing representatives who wind up doing immoral and unsavory thing with the power these voters gave them?

We find out today from the release of Jack Smith’s Special Counsel report that Donald Trump fomented an insurrection and stole top secret documents for which he should be prosecuted,and probably would be found guilty because the evidence is so clear cut if he didn’t have special immunity which the Supreme court gave him since he was re-elected as President. The Supreme Court has ruled that he is above the law. America has a king, tyrant, dictator whatever you want to call him because he is not an ordinary American who is bound by the rule of laws. Trump said he could shoot someone on Fifth Avenue and his supporters would still vote for him and he could get away with it just like he said as a billionaire celebrity he can sexually assault women with impunity. Sadly, he is right.

Mitch McConnell, when he was the Senate leader of the Republicans, said he would not vote for impeachment because he thought Trump’s presidency should be left up to the voters, and so it was, and the voters voted for a convicted felon with other felony accounts pending which will now not be prosecuted as their chief executive. What does this say about the character and moral compass of the American voters?

And so perhaps the moral of the story is that the American voter get what they deserve. If the American voter is lacking character and a moral compass they will choose representatives like themselves that they feel comfortable with.

Voters voted for Trump and immoral politicians for many reasons, but in general it may be accurate to say that the people they choose to represent them are mirror images of themselves. We can’t blame the politicians who play dirty and are immoral but the people who elected them to play the way they do.

Questions:

  1. Who are these voters?

  2. What are they thinking?

  3. Do they realize what they’ve done?

  4. Do they have any buyer’s remorse?

  5. Are they willing to admit their mistake and look for better ways to find people to represent them if we are going to continue as a representative democracy? Or don’t they care about a representative democracy that values justice, wisdom, and doing the right thing?

  6. What are the factors that contribute to the moral compass of American voters and the people they choose to represent them so out of whack?

  7. Does the moral compass of American voters need to be recalibrated and if so how?

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SQ skill #1 - Awareness of one’s own worldview.

14 January 2025 at 12:37

If Spiritual Intelligence is a real thing how can it be measured? Cindy Wigglesworth in her book SQ 21: The Twenty One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence attempts to deconstruct the concept of spiritual intelligence into skills. She develops a model with twenty one skills in four categories. The four categories are: Self/self awareness, Universal Awareness, Self/self mastery, and Social Mastery/Spiritual Presence.

We will be exploring these skills in these four categories in weekly articles about SQ on davidgmarkham.substack.com every Tuesday and possibly more often.

Some thoughtful people have observed that Americans seem to be relatively low in spiritual intelligence compared to people in other countries. It might be asked, “Why is the US so low in spiritual intelligence?”

There are many factors contributing to low levels of spiritual intelligence and probably the biggest factor is a dysfunctional values hierarchy. In other words, what really matters to people, and how do these dysfunctional values influence their choices and decisions in life?

The US tends to be a very individualistic, pull yourself up by your bootstraps, and materialistic country. If you ask people what they want out of life they will say, “To be happy.” And if you ask, “What will make you happy?” They will say, “To win the lottery.” And if you ask if you won millions of dollars in the lottery what would you do with the money? And they say things like “buy a house. Get a new car. Go on a cruise.” etc.

And yet, people will quickly admit that money can’t buy you love, or can it? Americans are very practical and they say things like, “Money talks and bullshit walks,” and “When they tell you it’s not the money, it’s the principle of the thing, you can bet your last buck it’s the money.”

And so Americans worship the Golden Calf and pay lip service to the virtues. The Stoics taught that what makes people happy is practicing the virtues of self-control, courage, justice, and wisdom. If you asked most Americans to define and describe the Stoic cardinal virtues they would have a difficult time of doing so with any clarity.

The first skill in Wigglesworth’s twenty one skill model of SQ is “awareness of one’s own worldview.” In other words, how aware are you of what makes you tick? Where do your beliefs, opinions, values, and practices come from? Many people when asked “What makes you tick?” will either act irritated or confused and say something like, “I don’t know. I guess it’s the way I was raised.”

We grow up in a family of origin with a peer group in a generation in human history where we are conditioned and socialized by our “psychological legacy” which is usually unconscious and taken for granted until one thinks about having or has children of their own. When one has children, thoughtful people consider to what extent they want to raise their children the same way they were raised or to do it differently? Some of the beliefs, opinions, values, and practices may have been good for them and they want to pass them on to their children. Other of those beliefs, opinions, values, and practices may have been bad for them, even abusive, and they say to themselves, “If I ever have a child of my own, I sure don’t want to raise them the way I was raised.”

Whether a person keeps their psychological legacy or changes it, is not the point. The point is did they become consciously aware of their psychological legacy and make conscious, deliberate decisions about it. If they do make conscious decisions about keeping or changing the beliefs, opinion, values, and practices of their psychological legacy, they have become their own person with a mind of their own not just going along with the herd. They have become captain of their own ship and master/mistress of their own fate. They have become aware of spiritual intelligence skill number one which is awareness of one’s own world view.

To become more granular with his idea of awareness of one’s own worldview we could put it on a scale of 0 - 10 with 10 being enlightened, totally self are and 0 being totally in the dark, not a clue, and 5 being, somewhat self aware but with plenty of blind spots because there's a lot about my functioning I still don’t understand and because I am not aware I have no conscious control over.

Another fancy word for this self awareness is “metacognition” which simply means what do you think about what you think? All human beings think, but fewer think about what they think. People who simply think often are what is called stupid because they are not self monitoring about their world view and don’t realize that their worldview can be modifiable, and change and grow to new levels of self understanding. They are stuck and even worse often adamant that they are right when in fact their thoughts are not in alignment with reality and Truth. It is written in A Course In Miracles, “Would you rather be right or be happy?”

Questions:

  1. On a scale of 0 - 10 with 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest to what extent are you aware of your own worldview? Explain your rating?

  2. What would it take to enhance your awareness of your own world view?

  3. In what ways does being aware of your own worldview affect your functioning in terms of your own self management and your interactions with others?

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Here I am. Where does it hurt? What do you need?

13 January 2025 at 10:41

I talked to my daughter, Kelly, who lives in Pasadena and was able to return to her house on Friday, 01/10/25, with her dog, Nick. She told me a few interesting things:

  1. Altadena just two blocks north of her house burned down but her house and the immediate neighborhood was spared because the wind shifted as the fire advanced from Altadena to Pasadena.

  2. She said that people are patrolling the streets asking people if they need any help.

  3. She said the police were out protecting abandoned properties and while there was one case of a person looting houses, the person was quickly chased away.

  4. She said, the support, compassion, assistance and kindness were ubiquitous.

  5. She said she is in the process of cleaning up her yard and house and is very happy to be back home.

  6. She said that people who work for Caltrans like she does who were evacuated are given 5 days of leave with pay for personal business.

I said, "It's interesting that what we see on the news is all tragedy and decimation but there are fewer stories of the strength and resilience of people to pull together and take care of each other in times of great need."

The moral of the story, at least for me, is that when great tragedy strikes, human beings instinctively, reach out to help and be helped.

My favorite story about Mr. Rogers, is the one he told about his mother saying to him, "Freddie, if you're ever in trouble, look for the helpers."

There are many helpers among us but with our amygdales attuned to threat, we, as homo sapiens, have a negativity and threat bias. But when the prefrontal cortex clicks online we find kindness, empathy, compassion, and the intense desire to help and assist our fellow human beings.

As the Beatles sang, "I'll get by with a little help from our friends."

As a Social Work psychotherapist one of the key components of my assessments and service plans is "who can you turn to when you're really down and out?" Of course, I don't want to hear, "There, really, is nobody." And then I realize that is why they have called for an appointment and they are talking to me.

As a Social Work Psychotherapist I am over and over again surprised that as human beings what we want more than anything is to have someone who is there for us and knows our fear, pain, sadness. We want what Alice Miller called "an enlightened witness." With all the deprivation and pain, our biggest fear is abandonment, to be left alone vulnerable.

It doesn't seem like much, but to be a non anxious presence and willing to become part of a person's moral support system is a huge gift, "precious", as Michael White would say.

"Freddie, look for the helpers."

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Is war ever a moral choice?

13 January 2025 at 09:14

In January, 2025, the Allnonfiction online book discussion group has been discussing The Demon Of Unrest by Erik Larson which describes the events and dynamics that occurred just before the beginning of the US Civil War in 1861.

We learned that there were some groups in the Confederate states which opposed the war and even joined with the Union. One of the group members, Becky, pointed out that there has been opposition to most wars whether it was the revolutionary war, the World Wars, Vietnam, etc. During this discussion I posted the following ideas and want to also raise the question with my substack readers “When is war, if ever, a moral decision and action?”

Thank you Becky for the information about the people or groups who oppose the popular support for war no matter where the conflicts have occurred.

"History is written by the victors " the slogan goes and so we don't learn much about the ones who opposed the majority support for war. This observation raises the question about the morality of war and reminds me of the Roman Catholic teaching about "just war" theory. What is a just war? When is the deliberate and intentional killing of our fellow human beings justified?

Humankind has been slowly evolving from our ethnocentric warrior phase to a more world centric view of modernism where who is right isn't as important as what is right. Which raises the question in these moral dilemmas of what is the right thing and how do we discern what is right?

The confederate states were trying to preserve an economic system and way of life based on enslaving other human beings. In order to do this they wanted to secede from the country they had been united with. Is this a moral thing to do? What if the union states had allowed the slave states to just secede and form their own country? How do you think this might have worked out?

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Enshittification takes over healthcare service delivery systems

12 January 2025 at 12:48

A colleague of mine pointed out to me and a group of colleagues on a list serv that I participate in for mental health professionals that the Macquarie Dictionary’s word of the year for 2024 is “enshittification.”

Enshittification is defined as “The gradual deterioration of a service or product brought about by a reduction in the quality of service provided, especially of an online platform, and as a consequence of profit-seeking.”

When I learned the term and its definition it was like a huge light bulb went off in my head and I experienced an epiphany. This is exactly what I have experienced in interacting with my health care system. So much crap. So much frustration. So much demoralization.

My doctor says “call me if you have further questions and concerns.” I don’t think he has any idea what a shit show the attempt to contact him is. After 15 minutes of listening to recorded robot messages and pushing buttons for selections on various phone trees, I finally get something that, maybe, is his office and then I get a recorded message that he is not available and to leave a message at which point the “mailbox is full” or the line goes dead. I think to myself “Well, fuck me. I’ll just die. I can’t take any more of this shit.” And then I ran across this term “enshittification’ which sums up my 15 minutes of anxiety, frustration, and torment in a nutshell.

I wonder what purpose all this automated messaging and phone trees and waiting on line and not arriving at the intended destination to convey the information accomplishes? Whose needs are being met? What would lead human beings managing health care services to design such convoluted and inefficient and ineffective systems? Money. It saves the system money putting the burden for communication onto the “consumer” of the service rather than the “provider.”

My more recent experience with the healthcare system was my inability to get my insulin prescription filled at my local CVS pharmacy which is understaffed, disorganized, overwhelmed and inept at dealing with problematic situations.

I got a text message from CVS which said that they could not meet my prescription request and to call my provider. So I did and went through the rigmarole I described above. When I finally got a hold of the med nurse, Bill, he said he didn’t understand what the problem at CVS was and asked ME what my dosage schedule was for the insulin which is on a sliding scale depending on my blood glucose levels. So I told him and he said he would provide that information to CVS and hopefully that would enable them to fill the script. Right? NO.

Now the problem seemed to be with my health insurance company who doesn’t want to fill the script because the type of insulin prescribed is not in their formulary. So I went into CVS and when I finally got the attention of the pharmacist after 10 minutes of waiting in line got some kind of bull shit that I couldn’t decipher other than I had to call my provider’s office back and have them reorder the insulin in line with what the insurance company is willing to pay for.

I lost my temper and said, “I just don’t understand who’s calling the shots here. Prescriptions now have to be electronically submitted by the provider to the pharmacy. I have no fucking control over that. And then the insurance company steps in and tells the provider and pharmacy what they can and can’t do. So now it's not just a three ring circus with the patient, the provider, and the pharmacy but a four ring circus with the insurance company calling the shots. How in this hell am I supposed to manage all this bull shit!” And then I said, which I regret, “No wonder Brian Thompson, got killed. And I wouldn’t do that but I understand the impulse, but maybe I should just kill myself.” The manager at that point walked over to the pharmacy and I left as frustrated and pissed as I have been in a decade. The whole situation is just so fucked up. And I once again think enshittification is a real thing and somebody is making millions and billions of dollars off of this screwed up service delivery model.

When I am upset and distressed, I turn to the Holy Spirit and ask for guidance on what I should do. And I always get an answer in one form or another. In this case, I am watching YouTube videos and this video pops up in my feed about CVS and PBMs, Pharmacy Benefit Managers. And I learned that the four ring circus is actually a five ring circus because health insurance company farms out their pharmacy benefit utilization to another party called a “pharmacy benefit manager” who develops the formulary and decides what medications will be covered and which won’t and what pharmacies they will reimburse and those they won’t.

And so the real culprit preventing my insulin prescription from being filled is the PBM working for my prescription plan which I bought as part D for my traditional medicare A and B.

I switched my pharmacies from CVS to Walmart. I finally got the script filled but the co-pay is $35.00 on a $120 bill which the Biden administration crowded about, bringing down the patient co-pay down to $35.00. The problem, though, is that the script that got filled is for a one week supply when I want a three month supply. Depending on the amount the script calls for would my co-pay still be $35? If so, then the smallest amount dispensed would be advantageous to the PBM and the health insurance company while it is very inconvenient for me having to have the script refilled weekly.

I learned 4 years ago in pre covid days that Walmart has their own over the counter insulin both short acting and long acting which is only $25.00 per vial. So it turns out that using the over the counter insulin is cheaper than using the scripts provided by my doctor to the pharmacy managed by my health insurance company’s PBM.

Are you still with me?

And so I am going off grid. I am going underground. I am opting out of the system as much as I can. The enshittification isn’t working for me. I am too old to be dealing with all the bull shit, though, age has nothing really to do with it. Nobody should have to deal with the enshittification which has become increasingly ubiquitous.

Cory Doctorow, who coined the term enshittification back in 2022, said that this enshittification process seems to go through stages: Doctorow wrote that this decay was a three-stage process.

“First, platforms are good to their users; then they abuse their users to make things better for their business customers; finally, they abuse those business customers to claw back all the value for themselves,” he wrote.

“It’s frustrating. It’s demoralizing. It’s even terrifying.”

After coining the term enshittification and the stages of its implementation in our social systems, he wrote later: Big tech can’t be fixed, he argues, but maybe it can be destroyed.

He adds a fourth stage to the tech platforms’ scatological journey from being good to users, to abusing them in favour of their customers, to abusing their customers to serve themselves.

“Then they die,” he wrote.

May they rest in peace.

It is extremely hard to change a system from within because like most systems they resist change and death. It is much easier to opt out of the system and find alternative ones or to engage with others in creating new ones.

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  1. Where and when have you encountered enshittification in your life and how have you dealt with it and how did it go?

  2. To what extent have you dropped out of these systems and found other ways to get your needs met? Can you give an example?

  3. What thoughts do you have about the stages of development that describe the enshittification process?

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Coming to terms with our mortality

10 January 2025 at 10:59

Sometime in our 40s and 50s we begin to realize that we are mortal and going to die. In the natural order of things, our grandparents die, and then our parents, then our peers, and as each generation ages and dies, our generation takes a step forward and we realize that our turn is coming.

The idea of death, as we watch the prior generations do it, is no longer abstract. It is no longer something that happens to other people. Death when it comes to people we love and are attached to becomes personal. With these losses comes a grief, a sense of being bereft, because our lives will no longer be the same.

In twenty-first century America we do not tolerate grief well. It is something that at best is duly noted and then to be left behind as we get on with our lives. The problem is that grief doesn’t work that way. Grief has a life of its own and isn’t as easily disposed of as our society seems to think it should be, and so now we not only are grieving but ashamed of our grief and so we hide it and often suffer alone with sadness and fear not only that our continued grief will be exposed but that our turn is coming as well and in a death denying culture how is that expected transition to be managed?

The old slogan is to “take the bull by the horns” and “call a spade a spade” and as the Stoic philosophers say “memento mori” which is Latin for “remember you must die.” Memento Mori is a reminder of mortality that encourages people to live in the present moment and do what's right. It's intended to inspire people to live virtuously and appreciate life's treasures.

On my past birthday on 12/25/24 I turned 79. I had been studying the life expectancies for another article and found that in 2022 the life expectancy for a Caucasian male was 75. I thought to myself,”Holy crap, I’m 79, I'm four years beyond what would be expected. I’m living on borrowed time. Every day is an extra day for me. As Raymond Carver wrote in his great poem, Gravy, it’s all gravy from here on out.”

And so, at least for me, I am very aware that every day is a gift and that I should make the best use of it as I can. So I ask my Higher Power, “Am I on the right track? Help me discern what I should be doing and who I should further become.”

At this point, I want to have a good death. What does that look like? I want to die with peace of mind and a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment with few, if any, regrets. Ira Byock, a palliative care physician, wrote a great book in 2004 entitled, The Four Things That Matter The Most in which he states the four things that seem to matter most to people who are dying are “Please forgive me.” “I forgive you.” “Thank you.” “I love you.”

As we face our death the three biggest existential questions move from the background of our lives to the foreground: Why was I born? What has been the purpose of my life? What happens when I die?

The good death involves a life review - What have I learned? A sense of gratitude - What have I been blessed by? A sense of contribution - What has my life meant to myself and others? What is my legacy? What am I leaving behind? An honest appraisal of mistakes and regrets - What do I wish I had done differently if I had known more at the time? Leave taking - How can best say goodbye?

As we consider and reflect on our dying it is very helpful to have a trusted other to talk to about it. Our tendency is to withdraw and isolate because we need to conserve our energy and time for this self reflection, but it is good to have a “sounding board” and a person who might be called “an enlightened witness.” Dying might be best if we have non anxious support from somebody who can go with us to the departure gate and wish us “bon voyage.”

Editor’s note: This article is one of a series dealing with Growing Older Gracefully which usually appear on davidgmarkham.substack.com on Thursdays if not more often.

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To what extent are your values in line with the society you participate in?

8 January 2025 at 10:06

Increasingly, I am skeptical about political labels of Rep and Dem, liberal, conservative, etc. I am more interested in people's values, what really matters to them when it's all said and done.

People are much closer in values than the labels of identification would have you believe.

There are a couple of slogans I like:

  1. We need not think alike to love alike.

  2. Human beings may not have common beliefs but they do share a common experience.

It is not our common experience which tears us apart so much but our beliefs. Have you noticed that there is often a disconnect between what people say they believe and what they want to experience? This disconnect is how I define stupidity.

Most people want the same things but are very stupid about what they believe is the best way to achieve them.

Specifically - if you look at quality of life indicators between Blue and Red states they usually measure much higher in Blue states. This observation raises many questions, the main one being why are people in Red states so stupid?

There are many factors that contribute to this stupidity, the main one being the way they were socialized and conditioned to think by their families, communities, and societies with which they identify. So, what can be done about this conditioning and socialization facilitated by wrong thought systems and mind sets?

There are many strategies for changing people's mindsets and ways of thinking, the primary one being injecting curiosity and questioning. The old bumper sticker says "Question authority" not necessarily in a defiant and rebellious way but from a place of curiosity and desire to better understand which leads to making better choices which provide better experiences.

As we get older with more life experiences one might expect that a person grows in wisdom. Wisdom is developed from reflecting on one's experiences over the course of their lives and understanding better what were the right choices and the wrong choices. Another bumper sticker says "Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement." As human beings we probably learn best from our pain and suffering but as we, hopefully grow in wisdom, we also learn from our successes and things that were satisfying and fulfilling.

Questions

  1. What are the important choices and decisions that you have made, make now, and have to make in the future and what values helps you decide?

  2. All the great philosophies say that self awareness is key to a happy life. So, what makes you tick?

  3. To what extent are your personal values in line with the values of the family, community, society that you participate in?

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Spiritually intelligent people help to create a better world.

7 January 2025 at 22:00

We all are leaders to the degree we help to create a better today and a better tomorrow. The true hero does not undertake the journey for personal glory, but for the benefit of all. While there is a great deal of good news globally - higher literacy rates, cures for many diseases, increased longevity, and decreasing levels of abject poverty over the last one hundred years - there is much, much more that needs to be done to relieve suffering and create a sustainable health future for humanity and this planet. We can each do our part by developing ourselves, finding our higher purpose, and taking the wisest most compassionate actions we can. Collectively we will decide how the future turns out. I hope we co-create a beautiful future. SQ can help us do that.

John Mackey in forward to Cindy Wigglesworth’s book, The Twenty-One Skills Of Spiritual Intelligence. P. ix

When one becomes enmeshed in the onslaught of sensationalized hourly news from cable news shows and social media platforms, it is understandable how people become cynical, depressed, angry, and feel helpless.

While we cannot do much to influence external circumstances, we can always work on our own level of spiritual intelligence. When we become more spiritually intelligent our presence in the world has a salubrious, beneficial influence. Jeff Skoll states in his TED talk that he asked what it takes to make the world a better place and Gardner said, “Bet on good people doing good things.”

There are steps we can take to increase our spiritual intelligence. There are maps people can acquire to plan their journey and mark their progress. One of these maps are the seven principles of Unitarian Universalism. Another map is provided by Cindy Wigglesworth in her book, The Twenty-One Skills Of Spiritual Intelligence.

Spiritual intelligence can be thought of as part of the three legged stool of human intelligences, IQ, the Intelligence Quotient, EQ, the Emotional Quotient, and now, SQ the Spiritual Quotient. The cognitive, the emotional, and the spiritual or the head, the heart, and the transcendent.

Increasingly, when people are surveyed by the big pollsters like Pew, Gallup, Barna, people say they are not religious but spiritual. The percentage of people who the pollsters call “nones” meaning they have no religious identification has been slowly rising decade to decade.

What is spiritual intelligence? How can it be measured? Does it matter for individuals and societies to increase the level of spiritual intelligence? If so, how can it be done? Mother Teresa said one time that while the US is the richest nation on earth materially, it is one of the poorest spiritually.

Here on davidgmarkham.substack.com this topic of spiritual intelligence will be explored every Tuesday it not more often.

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How do I know What Is The Right Thing To Do?

5 January 2025 at 19:54

The United States voters have elected a Presidential leader in 2024 who is a convicted felon, a well known sex abuser, a well documented liar, con man, and manifesting well documented narcissistic psychopathic traits.

It is one thing to observe that this person is of extremely bad character, and another thing to realize and reflect on the fact that the majority of American voters chose this person for their leader. This might lead an observer to wonder about the moral compass that guides Americans values and decisions. What is wrong with these voters’ thinking?

For a society to flourish the people composing that society must have some agreement about shared values and morals otherwise dysfunctional choices, practices, and institutions are created and implemented. Corruption, cynicism, and abuse flourish.

Increasingly, I am skeptical about political labels of Rep and Dem, liberal, conservative, etc. I am more interested in people's values, what really matters to them when it's all said and done.

People are much closer in values than the labels of identification would have you believe.

There are a couple of slogans I like:

  1. We need not think alike to love alike.

  2. Human beings may not share common beliefs but they do share a common experience.

It is not our common experience which tears us apart so much as our beliefs. Have you noticed that there is often a disconnect between what people say they believe and what they want to experience? This disconnect is how I define stupidity. Do people really mean what they say and say what they mean or do they say things merely to grab attention and manipulate others for their own ends? How important a virtue is credibility?

Most people want the same things but are very stupid about what they believe is the best way to achieve them.

Specifically - if you look at quality of life indicators between Blue and Red states they usually measure much higher in Blue states. This observation raises many questions, the main one being why are people in Red states so stupid?

There are many factors that contribute to this stupidity, the main one being the way they were socialized and conditioned to think by their families, communities, and societies with which they identify. This socialization and conditioning occurs through the teaching of a thought system, a mindset. So, what can be done about this conditioning and socialization facilitated by wrong thought systems and mind sets?

There are many strategies for changing people's mindsets and ways of thinking, the primary one being injecting curiosity and questioning. The old bumper sticker says "Question authority" not necessarily in a defiant and rebellious way but from a place of curiosity and desire to better understand which leads to making better choices which provide better experiences.

On the other hand speaking truth to power has no benefit if power has no need for and wants the truth. Have you noticed that truth is in greater supply than the demand?

Truth can be defined as that which can be validated by objective checking and which has consequences.

As we get older with more life experiences one might expect that a person grows in wisdom. Wisdom is developed from reflecting on one's experiences over the course of their lives and understanding better what were the right choices and the wrong choices. Another bumper sticker says "Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement." As human beings we probably learn best from our pain and suffering but as we, hopefully grow in wisdom, we also learn from our successes and things that were satisfying and fulfilling.

Part of wisdom is the refinement of the moral compass. The moral compass helps the person decide what is the right thing to do. The moral compass is the thought system which helps the person ask the right questions, generate options for action, and make a decision on how to proceed.

Various belief systems have been developed and taught throughout the ages like the Ten Commandments, the Sermon on the Mount, the Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path, The Way Of The Tao, the Seven Principles of Unitarian Universalism, the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the moral precepts of the moral philosophers especially the Stoics, the words and deeds of prophetic women and men, the knowledge gained from reason and science, the codes of ethics of various professions, occupations, and trades, the direct experience of the Higher Power whatever or whoever we consider that Higher Power to be, and the legal and regulatory requirements and expectations of the authority figures in one’s society that have the power to reward and punish a person or group for their decisions and behavior..

From where do you derive your moral compass? How do you decide what the right thing to do is?

According to Lawrence Kohlberg, the moral psychologist, people operate morally on three levels:

  1. Reward and punishment

  2. Obedience to some code or legal system

  3. Resonance with universal values and rights.

As a person matures, they tend to function morally at higher levels of this tripartite model.

People are easily confused about religious teachings and doctrines and morality. Terrible immoral things have been perpetrated in the name of religion. Our recent US presidential election may be a good example with well over 55% of Christians who voted, voted for a person of very bad character, Donald Trump, to lead their country. Where he said he would lead us and how scares many thoughtful, wise people.

What can be done to improve the moral compass of American society? Religions and the churches don’t seem to be doing the job. Other institutions also have lost support and faith from American society. The arts are often accused of perpetrating immoral behavior and beliefs. Schools have focused, increasingly, on what is called “social emotional learning.” Peer groups, social clubs and organizations have a place in socializing their members in constructive or destructive beliefs, and mindsets. And, then, of course, there is the family with the most fundamental influence on the new members of our society

davidgmarkham.substack.com will be publishing articles on the Moral Compass on Sundays and perhaps more often.

Consider these questions for comment and further study:

  1. What moral model has been most important in your life and how?

  2. What has been the most influential experience in your life to help you learn right from wrong?

  3. When it comes to making tough choices and decisions, what and who matters the most to you in deciding what to do?

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The US Health Care system is the most expensive and the lowest performing of any developed country on Earth.

4 January 2025 at 22:28

From a Commonwealth Fund Report on 09/19/24

Abstract

  • Goal: Compare health system performance in 10 countries, including the United States, to glean insights for U.S. improvement.

  • Methods: Analysis of 70 health system performance measures in five areas: access to care, care process, administrative efficiency, equity, and health outcomes.

  • Key Findings: The top three countries are Australia, the Netherlands, and the United Kingdom, although differences in overall performance between most countries are relatively small. The only clear outlier is the U.S., where health system performance is dramatically lower.

  • Conclusion: The U.S. continues to be in a class by itself in the underperformance of its health care sector. While the other nine countries differ in the details of their systems and in their performance on domains, unlike the U.S., they all have found a way to meet their residents’ most basic health care needs, including universal coverage.

It is a fact that the US Health Care System is the lowest performing and the most expensive of any developed nation on Earth.

Why?

There are many factors that could be identified which might lead to the conclusion that the US Health Care system is what is called a “wicked problem.”

A wicked problem is a complex social or cultural issue that is difficult or impossible to solve. The term was coined in 1973 by design theorists Horst Rittel and Melvin Webber to describe the challenges of addressing planning and social policy problems.

But actually it might be a lot simpler. The US health care system started to dysfunction when it became profit making. The idea that health is a commodity that can be marketed, quantified, manipulated by “procedures” that can be billed for is insane and has created the mess the US Health Care system is in.

If we thought of health care as a human service to which all people have a right in a fair and just society, and profit was removed as an incentive for health care delivery, we could create a much more humane, dignified, efficient, and effective health care system.

The path forward is simple - take the profit motive out of our health care system.

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Instead of the North and South now it's the Blue and Red.

4 January 2025 at 13:33

In January, 2025, I am reading Erik Larson’s, The Demon Of Unrest, with the online Allnonfiction book discussion group. I will be posting my book notes here for davidgmarkham,substackcom’s readers for their edification, enlightenment, and enjoyment. Here’s topic #1

I suspect your sense of dread will be all the more pronounced in light of today’s political discord, which, incredibly, has led some benighted Americans to whisper once again of secession and civil war. —Erik Larson New York, 2023

Larson, Erik. The Demon of Unrest: A Saga of Hubris, Heartbreak, and Heroism at the Dawn of the Civil War (p. xii). Crown. Kindle Edition.

Some people are saying in 2025 that the US, with the re-election of Donald Trump as President, the nation is once again on the brink of a civil war. Instead of the war being between the North and the South, it will be between the Red and Blue states. With more guns than people now in the US, and the current President elect and his MAGA base justifying violence to achieve their political ends, an armed conflict is not beyond imagining. And in fact a violent attempt to overthrow the democratic process on January 6, 2021, and the pardoning of the insurrectionists by the President elect, Donald Trump, might make an observer concerned about the future of a unified nation.

Before we consider how we might move forward, it might be helpful to review where we have been, as a nation, in our past. Erik Larson’s new book, The Demon of Unrest: A Saga Of Hubris, Heartbreak, and Heroism At The Dawn Of The Civil War, might give us some ideas about where we’ve been, where we are now, and how we might proceed into the future.

Questions:

  1. To what extent, due to the increased political polarization and the normalization of violence, do you think the US could turn to armed conflict to resolve its political differences?

  2. To what extent do the seeds of white supremacy from the slave history of the US still fuel animosity and racial and political hatred in the US?

  3. If the nation further bifurcates would you gravitate to the blue states or the red states?

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Murder rate and life expectancy in US as compared to other developed countries

3 January 2025 at 12:10

The most telling indicator of a people’s welfare is life expectancy.

US life expectancy is forecast at 79.5 years for both sexes in 2024.

This makes the US 48th in the world.

China’s life expectancy is forecast to be almost as high, at 78.

UK and German life expectancy is 81.5, French 83.5, Italy’s 83.9 and Japan’s 84.9.

Yet the US spends far more on health, relative to GDP, than any other country. This shows great wastefulness, though this low US life expectancy has a number of additional explanations.

Yet, what does the high measured US GDP mean if some 17 per cent was spent on health, with such poor results? More broadly, what does US prosperity mean when combined with such potent indicators of low welfare? These outcomes are the result of high inequality, poor personal choices and crazy social ones. Some 400mn guns are apparently in circulation.

From Adam Tooze's Chartbook.

Most Americans with the propaganda about American exceptionalism don’t realize how under performing the US is on many quality of life indicators compared to other developed countries. The first step towards improvement is factual knowledge benchmarking the US performance against other first world countries. Life expectancy is a good indicator to measure and compare.

What do you think about the fact that life expectancy in the US is 48th in the world? There are huge differences not only between countries but even between states in the US.

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The US health care system - Medicare drug cap.

3 January 2025 at 08:32

The US has the most expensive and the lowest performing health care system among the developed countries. The reason? Most Americans have no idea how it actually works. The davidgmarkham.substack.com newsletter will post not only information about components of the system but connect the dots so that the reader will develop a deeper and more comprehensive understanding of the system and how it operates. To access these articles, click the “health care” tag under the header.

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Is age biological, psychological, social or all three?

2 January 2025 at 20:06

Today we are beginning a series of articles on Growing Older Gracefully which appear usually on Thursdays and perhaps other days of the week, but especially on Thursdays. You can access them by clicking “growing older” below the header.

Thursdays will be devoted to something that we all are experiencing all the time whether we are consciously aware of it or not, growing older.

All things grow older and wear out. For human beings, though, it’s not just a matter of growing older but “growing up.” Growing up means increasingly becoming consciously aware of the interdependent web of life of which we are apart. Growing up is not just learning more and attaining more understanding but coming to apprehend what matters. Some call this wisdom.

Some terms we might learn are “gerontology” which is the scientific study of the biological, psychological, and social aspects of aging. In the helping fields of medicine, nursing, psychology, Social Work, and education there are professionals who specialize in helping people in the later stages of their life course who are called “gerontologists”. I switched my primary care physician from an internist to a geriatric physician. Studies have found that people who receive their medical care from geriatric specialists are more satisfied with their health care, maintain their levels of functioning longer, and live longer.

Another term less well known is “senescence” which is the application of evolutionary principles to the understanding of the decline leading to the death of humans and other living organisms. Observing senescence might lead one to laugh quoting the slogan, “Growing older is not for sissies.”

Growing older is as much a social construct as it is a biological and psychological phenomenon. How old is old is culturally and individually defined. Some say that “old” is ten years older than you are at present. So when one is 50, 60 seems old. When one is 60, 70 seems old. When one is 70, 80 seems old.

In the US since 1935 65 has been considered old because it was used as the age of retirement for full Social Security pensions. In 1935 when Social Security first started the life expectancy for males was 59.9 years and for females was 63.9. Since 1935 life expectancy has increased by 16 years. Today, the full retirement age is 67 for anyone born in 1960 or later, and life expectancy at birth is 76 years for men and 81 years for women.

With advances in health care with such things as knee and hip replacements, heart surgeries, and organ transplants, people experience a higher quality of life into their later years.

Old is as much a matter of mind as anything. The old saying is “Use it or lose it.” A friend of mine, when asked to describe old age in two words, said “keep moving.”

Chronological age is not necessarily a good indication of vigor, functioning, and quality of life. There are people who are old at 55 and some still young at 85. Mick Jagger and Keith Richards and the Rolling Stones did a music tour in the spring and summer of 2024 promoting their new album, Hackney Diamonds. Mick and Keith were both 80 and the tour ended on July 21, 2024, five days before Mick turned 81 on July 26th.

  1. Do you feel your age? I look in the mirror and am surprised and say to myself, “Who is that old man?”

  2. What are you still good for or have you gone out to pasture passing the time waiting to die?

  3. What is the role the elderly are expected to play in your family, in your community, in your state, in our nation?

  4. What are the things you can no longer do that you could do when you were younger and still wish you could?

  5. What are the things that you can do now that you are in the later stages of your life that you couldn’t do when you were younger and are glad that you can?

  6. Overall, would you want to be younger again? If so, what age do you want to be?

  7. It is interesting that the young can’t wait to grow up to be older, and the old folks, some of them, want to be younger. How satisfied are you with your present age of life?

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New Year's resolutions - make the practice work.

2 January 2025 at 10:17

Periodically, as humans in the twenty first century, it is a good practice to “take stock” and reflect on where we are at, where we’ve come from, and where we’d like to go.

I turned 79 on 12/25/24 having been born on Christmas day in 1945. It seems an auspicious birthday, the last in my 70s before I turn 80 if I get there and there is no reason at this time that I can’t think that I will.

Another reason that turning 79 is auspicious is that I have learned that the life expectancy for a Caucasian male in the US in 2022 according to the CDC (Center For Disease Control) is 74.8 years and so I am on borrowed time. I am living with gravy as Raymond Carver said in his poem. I think that every day is a gift that most men like me don’t get so out of gratitude for the gift I am given I should make good use of it.

Socrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living and the bumper sticker says that an unlived life is not worth examining. So wanting to live an examined life it is good to take stock and make plans.

Spiritually intelligent people know that they are called to become something greater than they are. They aspire to rise above their everyday self to their Higher Self where they become aware of their wholeness. Like the monk said to the hot dog vendor, “Make me one with everything.” And so it is good to practice CQI, Continuous Quality Improvement, and thus some of us make New Year’s resolutions to do better, to live better, to learn better, to love better in the coming year.

Having read some of the articles at this time of year that pop up like pop corn on the various media channels, I have picked up a few tips which I have practiced and know that they work at least for me. Here they are:

  1. Keep your resolution small. Take your ideal goal and cut it in half.

  2. Make it specific. The question is not what do you want, and what do you aspire to, but what will you actually do? Whatever it is, keep it brief, 5 minutes or under.

  3. Set periodic dates and times to check your progress and adjust.

  4. Share your intention with people who might care and listen to their feedback.

  5. Plan a ceremony to recognize and acknowledge the achievement.

A motto for the coming year is “Coming more alive in 2025” 2025 is another year to become your better self that you were created to become. With the help and guidance of your Higher Power, whatever or whoever you conceive your Higher Power to be, you can be successful and this success will bring satisfaction, fulfillment, and peace.

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Your adult children probably don't want your stuff.

2 January 2025 at 08:01

AARP had an article a few years ago about mistakes parents make with their adult children. At the top of the list was trying to give the adult children our stuff because they really don't want it.

The value of our stuff is not the stuff itself but the memories we have attached to the objects. Our memories are ours and usually are not the same as our adult children and so the objects don't mean the same to them that they mean to us.

Our stuff then isn't really not about the stuff but the memories we have attached to them. The question then is not what to do with the stuff but what to do with the memories and stories that the stuff reminds us of.

The stuff itself could be very valuable to the right person who values antiques, classic, stuff. If the stuff is collectible or one of a kind it could be worth a lot to the right person or people. Finding them can be challenging but perhaps worth it, depending on how much time, energy, and effort you want to expend to find the right match between our stuff and someone who appreciates, not for the memories but for the object itself.

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U.S. Women outpace men in college completion for decades now

1 January 2025 at 11:21

What are the implications of the fact that more women are college educated than men?

On davidgmarkham.substack.com we track sociological trends that have implications for our culture.

What do you think the consequences of females being better educated than males in the US means for the future of our society?

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Movie review - The Free State Of Jones with Mathew McConaughey

31 December 2024 at 22:40

The Free State Of Jones came out in June, 2016 and I watched it today on Netflix.

From the IMDB web site:

Set during the Civil War, "Free State of Jones" tells the story of defiant Southern farmer Newt Knight and his extraordinary armed rebellion against the Confederacy. Banding together with other small farmers and local slaves, Knight launched an uprising that led Jones County, Mississippi to secede from the Confederacy, creating a Free State of Jones. Knight continued his struggle into Reconstruction, distinguishing him as a compelling, if controversial, figure of defiance long beyond the War.—STX Entertainment

The movie opens saying that it is based mostly on a true story. I looked it up on Wikipedia. It is not a happy story about American history other than the fact that it describes courageous people who stood up to oppression, abuse, maiming, and killing for social justice.

Is it helpful to witness America’s shameful history of racism, enslavement, subjugation, and injustice?

Yes, because without knowing our history and from where we have come as a nation, and the atrocities we are capable of, we cannot recognize, acknowledge, and rectify our evil shadow side. As we have seen glaringly in the Trump era, white supremacy is still a very strong dynamic in our national politics with negative consequences at the Federal, the state, the county, and the local level.

Newton Knight, played by Mathew McConaughey, is the hero in the film with some help from Malcom Washington, a black leader, and Rachel, a mixed race woman, who is an indigenous healer and helper. Rachel has a son with Newton who is still discriminated against in the late 1940s for being ⅛ black and married to a white woman in violation of Mississippi’s race codes which, as a side note, were copied by the Nazis in the late 30s and 40s in their treatment of people with Jewish ancestry.

The Free State of Jones is an upsetting movie to watch, but necessary if a person wants a better understanding of American history. We would be a better society if there more people like Newton Knight, Malcolm Washington, and Rachel in it.

I give the film a 4 out of 5 on my “worth the watch” scale.

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Do you have gravy in your life?

31 December 2024 at 17:29

I found myself thinking about Raymond Carver and his poem “Gravy,” which was about being told he had six months to live and then getting an extra decade of life. The poem had been written when he knew his time had finally run out. Lung cancer had him in its grip and wasn’t going to let him go.

…“Don’t weep for me,” he said to his friends. “I’m a lucky man. I’ve had ten years longer than I or anyone expected. Pure gravy. And don’t forget it.”

That was a good way to think of it. Every day of life, now, was gravy. Thank you, Ray. And I too can “call myself beloved,” I have felt myself “beloved on the earth.” Hated, yes, that too, but “beloved” trumps all hate.

Rushdie, Salman. Knife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder (pp. 170-171). Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

As one grows older and grows in wisdom, in spite of the ups and downs of one’s life, a person who experiences increasing levels of gratitude has lived the good life.

Brother David Stendl- Rast teaches that the best prayer is one of gratitude.

Salman Rushdie with all that he has been through living his life under the fatwa and then the knifing after 33 years is filled with gratitude for the “gravy” which he has experienced in his life.

What do you make of that?

To what extent do you experience gratitude in your life?

Me?

I feel more and more grateful every day, week, month, year that I live at the age, now, of 79.

Salman is my kind of guy.

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Required viewing - The Social Dilemma

31 December 2024 at 15:19

Most courses in high school and college have their “required reading” in their course syllabi. In our contemporary society we might adapt this “required reading” label to “required viewing” for movies, TV episodes, videos, and “required listening” for podcasts and audio shows.

A documentary which should be required viewing for all well educated people in the 21st century is The Social Dilemma.

From the IMDB web site:

Set in the dark underbelly of Silicon Valley, "The Social Dilemma" fuses investigative documentary with enlightening narrative drama. Expert testimony from tech whistle-blowers exposes our disturbing predicament: the services Big Tech provides--search engines, networks, instant information, etc.--are merely the candy that lures us to bite. Once we're hooked and coming back for more, the real commodity they sell is their prowess to influence and manipulate us.—Sundance Film Festival

The frightening idea from this documentary is how social media and search engines use our usage data to develop algorithms to feed us more stuff the AI thinks we are likely to engage with by giving our attention to that so the media platform can then sell our attention to advertisers.

Are you aware that to social media companies your attention is being monetized and sold to the highest bidder?

Are you aware of how you are being manipulated by clicking the “like” button and even the link to the site?

Are you aware of how the computer programming engineers and AI are modifying software to engage and retain your attention to generate profit for themselves by selling your attention to third parties?

Do you wonder what factors contribute to the increasing polarization in our society, and the rise of belief in disinformation?

Do you wonder whatever became of truth. Why do we fight over who’s right instead of what’s right?

The Social Dilemma explains how social media contributes to a deterioration in mental health, contributes to polarization and disintegration of democratic processes in our modern societies, and to an increase in beliefs in conspiracy theories and lies.

Learning how social media works and its negative consequences on individuals, families, and societies might lead a thoughtful person to wonder how to manage this social problem?

The quickest and easiest answer is to eliminate or minimize one’s use of social media and search engines fueled by algorithms.

Another strategy is to deal with people directly by talking to them in person or at least on the phone. We need to move back to the analog from the digital to restore our human connectedness.

What ideas do you have about how to mitigate the negative consequences of virtual reality?

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How does disinformation go viral?

31 December 2024 at 12:30

Across groups, social influences also produce noise. If someone starts a meeting by favoring a major change in the company’s direction, that person might initiate a discussion that leads a group unanimously to support the change. Their agreement might be a product of social pressures, not of conviction. If someone else had started the meeting by indicating a different view, or if the initial speaker had decided to be silent, the discussion might have headed in an altogether different direction—and for the same reason. Very similar groups can end up in divergent places because of social pressures.

Kahneman, Daniel; Sibony, Olivier; Sunstein, Cass R.. Noise . Little, Brown and Company. Kindle Edition.

Sometimes what Kahneman et al. call “informational cascades” is called “peer pressure.” Solomon Ashe and other social psychologists demonstrated this dynamic decades ago.

We have colloquial sayings like “Better to go along to get along,” and “When in Rome you do as the Romans do,” and “Why go against the grain?” and “Don’t upset the apple cart,” and “You shouldn’t disturb the status quo.”

Keeping with the title of their book, the authors write that informational cascades are “noise.” Indeed they are. A major contributor to informational cascades is power and what are sometimes called “opinion leaders.” The first story told about the incident, event, or topic "frames" the future discussion to which any subsequent offering will be compared. "Disinformation" often goes viral in this way with the first story constantly being spread as subsequent commentors try to rebut it.

There is a distinction between “misinformation” and “disinformation.” Misinformation is when a communicator is ignorant or not correctly informed. Disinformation is when the communicator is deliberately lying, manipulating with ulterior motives other than sharing accurate information and truth.

When posts on social media go "viral" they demonstrate what Kahneman is calling an "informational cascade."

To what extent are you an opinion leader in the groups you participate in? When have you been the leader and when have you been subject to another leader and group pressure? Have you ever participated in an organizational decision which didn’t seem right to you but you went along because you did not want to challenge the developing majority opinion of the group?

Noise is well worth reading as it provides a deeper understanding of the disinformation so rampant in our society in our digital age.

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Book Notes - Robert E. Lee and Me by Ty Seidule

30 December 2024 at 13:40

Topic One

Making meaning of historical events

Q2.   The author argues that history is dangerous. What does he mean?

 The historian David Blight wrote that the Civil War is like “the giant sleeping dragon of American history ever ready to rise up when we do not expect it and strike us with unbearable fire.”1  I poked the Civil War beast, and it singed me. History is dangerous. It forms our identity, our shared story. If someone challenges a sacred myth, the reaction can be ferocious.”

1- The Civil War Lies on Us Like a Sleeping Dragon: America’s Deadly Divide - and Why It Has Returned,”  Guardian, AUg. 20, 2017, www.the-guardian.com/us-news/2017aug/20 /civil-war-american-history-trump

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Hi Becky et al.

The old saying is that the history of war is written by the victorious. In the case of the U.S. Civil War it has been written by the losers.

People remember what they want to remember the way they want to remember it. Remember all that we have learned about cognitive bias and cognitive dissonance? 

It's not so much the facts that change but the interpretation and the meaning of the facts. Interpretation and meaning is always in flux and should be depending on the lens we are looking through which is often contextually influenced. The level of awareness and consciousness of the storyteller and the listener filter the meaning of the story. As Jesus said, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear." The observation though is that people only hear what they want to hear, have been socialized and conditioned to hear.

As Seidule writes a little later on page 40, " When I finally discovered the Lost Cause Myth, a manufactured past, I was stunned. Why did I believe the lies for so long? It took me decades to realize the truth because I ignored the evidence right in front of me."

It is not just Ty Seidule but many members of our society who are coming to terms with a self reckoning of what we have done and continue to do to our brothers and sisters. It is so shameful by today's standards that we would rather deny it and sugar coat it than face the barbarity of what we as human beings have done and are capable of.

Remember Joe South's great song, "Oh the games people play now.?"

David Markham

Topic Two

Would you rather be right or be happy and the "Lost Cause"?

In so many unfortunate ways, my life and career have traveled the roads of Civil War history. Actually, more than Civil War history, it’s the history of white supremacy. In telling my story, I hope to shed a different light on American history that many of us would sooner ignore: the histories of slavery, of Reconstruction, of segregation, of lynching, of corrupt economic systems, of the painful process of desegregation, and of the myth of the Lost Cause of the Confederacy.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 8). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

I am amazed at Ty Seidule’s humility and willingness to change his mind about his understanding of American History. In A Course In Miracles one of its most famous passages is the sentence, “Would you rather be right or be happy?” It makes me so happy that  Seidule is choosing to be happy rather than right given his old way of thinking about the Lost Cause of the Confederacy. 

To what extent do you think that other people who believe in the Lost Cause will change their minds if they read Seidule’s book?

Topic Three

Calling a spade a spade and not a shovel.

Eleven southern states seceded to protect and expand an African American slave labor system. Unwilling to accept the results of a fair, democratic election, they illegally seized U.S. territory, violently. Together, they formed a new “Confederacy,” in contravention of the U.S. Constitution.7 Then West Point graduates like Robert E. Lee resigned their commissions, abrogating an oath sworn to God to defend the United States. During the bloodiest war in American history, Lee and his comrades killed more U.S. Army soldiers than any other enemy, ever. And they did it for the worst reason possible: to create a nation dedicated to exploit enslaved men, women, and children, forever.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 9). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

This is as blunt a statement as I have ever read about the U.S. Civil War. It is the core belief underlying white supremacy. It is what led to the January 6th, 2021 insurrection when white supremacists attempted to end democracy by taking over the capital and lynching Mike Pence so he, as Vice President, could not ratify the election results certifying that Joseph Biden has been voted in as President of the United States.

It is interesting to observe that this element in our country not only still exists but attempts to maintain control of the country by any means possible including violence and assault. The Civil War is continuing in the US 156 years after it ended.

To what extent do you see a connection between the radical right in the U.S. today and the thinking of those who wanted to secede from the United States back in the mid 1800s?

Topic Four

Names matter

No, the boys in blue fought in the U.S. Army for the United States of America. The names we use matter. By saying Union and Confederate, Blue and Gray, North and South, we lose the fundamental difference between the two sides. The United States fought against a rebel force that would not accept the results of a democratic election and chose armed rebellion. At Fort Sumter, South Carolina, and a dozen other U.S. Army posts, the secessionists fired on U.S. property and then seized it. 

The southern slaveholders were not fighting some foreign or lost-to-history army called the Union. The Confederacy fought the United States of America, the country I spent a career defending. I will call those men who fought to save their country and, by 1863, end the scourge of race-based slavery by their proper name—U.S. Army soldiers.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 22). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

Seidule makes an excellent point. The confederates of the South declared war on the United States of America because they chose not to follow democratic rule. The same thing has happened in 2021.

The “Big Lie” has been promulgated by Donald Trump and his followers and it should be named what it is “treason.”

Do you believe “treason is too strong a word” for people who work to set aside a democratic election in 2020-2021?

Topic Five

The genesis of racism is economic advantages.

THE CIVIL WAR left between 650,000 and 750,000 dead because the Confederates fought to create a slave republic based on a morally bankrupt ideology of white supremacy. White southerners went to war to protect and expand chattel slavery but suffered a catastrophic defeat. Not only did they lose the war, but with the Thirteenth, Fourteenth, and Fifteenth Amendments to the Constitution they lost de jure white supremacy. Yet the former Confederates succeeded beyond their wildest dreams in changing the narrative of the Civil War. Lee’s biographer Douglas Southall Freeman wrote to the Pulitzer Prize–winning southern novelist Ellen Glasgow, “We Southerners had one consolation. If our fathers lost the war, you and Margaret Mitchell … have won the peace.”72 

When I finally discovered the Lost Cause myth, a manufactured past, I was stunned. Why did I believe the lies for so long? It took me decades to realize the truth because I ignored the evidence right in front of me. The underlying belief system in Meet Robert E. Lee, Gone With the Wind, and Song of the South is the ideology of white supremacy. My ignorance and then guilt in buying the Lost Cause myth and the tenets of white supremacy kept me silent for years, but no longer. I’m on a campaign to uncover white supremacy and the Lost Cause in the places I’ve lived and the institutions that educated and gave me purpose. As it turns out, the lies of the Lost Cause infused every aspect of my life—and that pisses me off.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (pp. 40-41). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

Seidule was stunned by his belief in the “Lost Cause Myth.” I was stunned that he was stunned that there is such a thing. It’s like a light bulb has gone off in my mind and now I understand the grievance of the Southerners and other whites. I had never really understood it before. I was blind but now I see and it has been an amazing grace in my life.

The only question that troubles me now is whether the bigger problem is the desire to maintain a system of slavery or the desire to maintain their capitalistic system of economics. Without slaves and free labor the wealth of the 1%  would be lost. The same holds true today and into the foreseeable future.

Slavery was ensconced in America from its founding as part of a capitalistic system of economics which continues to this day in many different forms. Systemic racism maintains the caste system which is based on an economic system in which the haves exploit the have-nots. It’s how America works.

The thing that has come clearer to me is that this whole racism thing will never be dissolved without a change in our economic system which is fundamental to the whole situation.

Topic Six

The mythic figure of the “Southern Gentleman.”

To be a southern gentleman for me meant embracing one view of history, a skewed one, that placed the Confederacy front and center and willfully excluded the racial history all around me.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 44). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

The mythic figure of the “Southern Gentleman” is immature imaginations similar to a child’s fairy tale belief in a Prince Charming. There is a gallantry, a chivalry, and romanticism which is very attractive and enjoyable and yet is childish in that it occurs at a level of cultural immaturity called egocentric and ethnocentric.

As consciousness is growing and developing in our postmodern world, American society is maturing to the worldcentric level of consciousness in which the shadow side, the dark side of this myth is illuminated.

This illumination is dislillusioning and just as children sometimes resist and grieve their beliefs in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairies, etc. there comes a time when young girls, as they mature, hopefully give up their fantasies about a Prince Charming.

Ty Seidule in his book, Robert E.Lee and Me, has burst the bubble of fanciful mythologizing and just as the person leaving Plato’s cave has looked outside from the shadows dancing on the cave wall and seen the reality and come back to report it. The other cave dwellers don’t believe the report of the real world, and many believers in the Lost Cause mythology and the Southern Gentleman don’t believe Seidule’s reporting of what he has seen and learned about the Lost Cause myth and the fantasy about the Southern Gentleman..

  1. To what extent do you believe him?

  2. Have his reports changed your understanding of the romantic southern gentleman and ladies?

  3. As a child who mourns the loss of their belief in Santa, do you mourn your awakening from the enjoyable myth of the Southern Gentleman and the romantic south?

  4. Have you told others just as there is not Santa, there is no “Southern Gentleman” as we have been taught to believe in?

  5. How have others you have told taken the news?

Topic Seven

“Schooling” vs. “Education”

The general assembly then created a textbook commission to write and publish three textbooks for use in every public school in the state.57 

The purpose of the textbooks went beyond facts; the commissioners hoped “to instill in [schoolchildren’s] hearts and minds a greater love of Virginia and a perpetuation of her ideals.” The textbook commission wanted their selected authors to capture the genteel tradition of the Old Dominion known as the Virginia spirit. While the commission never explicitly defined it, one member emphasized the “generous and kindly traits in the Virginia spirit.” I understood. The commission wanted to create educated Christian ladies and gentlemen who looked at history from a positive point of view without being boastful. The commission told the authors to emphasize Virginia’s right to secede. Above all, avoid critiquing slavery. “Is the matter of slavery presented in the very ablest and best light?” they asked. The commissioners directed that the textbook authors “not give the impression that slavery was the cause of the war.”58

 While the books created an imaginary past, the legislature set its eyes firmly on present difficulties.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (pp. 63-64). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

What Ty Seidule describes here is an attempt by the Virginia General Assembly to create a commission to engage in designing a program of brainwashing and propaganda dissemination not education.

This has happened repeatedly in American history where school children are taught lies to support the normative mythology of those with political power. When this happens in other countries, Americans object that such methods are tyrannical and a form of mind control. When it happens in their own country, and serves their purposes, they see it as an appropriate activity of schooling.

There is a difference between “education” and “schooling” and what goes on in publicly funded government run institutions which purport to be for education but is in fact “schooling” which is designed to brainwash and control the minds of the masses upon which politicians depend for their power.

One of the most significant examples of this dynamic is the fact that schooling has become compulsory in the United States. True education can never be compelled.

  1. What lies have you been taught by your teachers during your schooling? 

  2. Were you aware at the time they were lies or only later when you got further information?

  3. To what extent do you object to your children and grandchildren being taught lies? 

  4. Have you done anything to provide the student with correct information to improve their understanding?

For more check out James Loewen’s classic book, Lies My Teacher Taught Me.

Topic Eight

The triad of prejudice, discrimination, and racism

In 1972, my fifth-grade year, the State Board of Education announced that the Virginia histories were decommissioned or, as one reporter wrote, “thrown in the trash basket.” Governor Linwood Holton, the first Republican to serve as Virginia governor since Reconstruction, tried to have them immediately removed, but he ran into opposition in the legislature and backed down. The books continued to be used at least through the late 1970s.60 The Virginia textbooks formed one of the most powerful testaments to white supremacy, an insidious monument that poisoned children’s minds for a generation.61

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 65). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

I added the bolding to bring it especially to the reader’s attention in order to ask what thoughts the reader might have about the systemic nature of racism?

A distinction can be made among the concepts of “prejudice,” “discrimination,” and “racism.” Using this triad, prejudice is an individual behavior while discrimination is social and racism is cultural.

People can deny being prejudiced but find it harder to deny functioning within discriminatory systems such as segregation and other exclusionary policies and procedures. Racism is in the water and the culture we share better conceptualized as a “caste” system as described by Isabel Wilkerson.

  1. Have you been aware of this triad of concepts before?

  2. Now that you are aware of them can you give an example of how they apply in your life?

  3. Is Seidule doing us a service by pointing this white supremacist pedagogy which still persists in many areas of the country?

Topic Nine

The segregated south was a racial police state.

Today, the more I learn about segregation and the Jim Crow system in Virginia, the more I agree with the great Virginia civil rights lawyer Oliver W. Hill Sr., a law partner with Samuel Tucker. Hill found a better way to explain the “Virginia way of life” that helped form me. In 1985, he described life for southern African American citizens during the Jim Crow era: “Virginia and the whole South were police states. There isn’t a question about that. Negroes didn’t serve on juries … You saw no blacks in places like city hall, or public buildings, unless, except, maybe an elevator operator or janitor. And that’s the way it was.”78 If the Virginia of my youth was no democracy, if I call a plantation an enslaved labor farm, then I should also call segregated Virginia by its true name—a racial police state. To be clear, the South of my birth was no democracy.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 72). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

Ty Seidule pulls no punches. Seidule doesn’t sugar coat. Seidule doesn’t equivocate or spin. Like a soldier, even though also a scholar, he calls a spade a spade and tells the unvarnished truth.

How many people would agree with his labeling plantations “slave labor camps” and the segregated states of the south “racial police states?”

Seidule ends chapter two with this sentence, “We find it hard to confront our past because it’s so ugly, but the alternative to ignoring our racist history is creating a racist future.” p.73

It seems that we have ignored our racist history and are living in a racist present. Confederate flags in a Charlottesville racist rally in August of 2017 led to people being killed and beaten by White Supremacists is a contemporary phenomenon along with Confederate flags being carried through the halls of congress on January 6, 2021 as rioters staged an insurrection to disrupt a democratic government. So I don’t know what Seidule means when he writes that ignoring our racist history is creating a racist future. This is not a speculative future but current behavior to subvert our constitution the same as in 1861.

The question is what should be done?

Seidule writes that the first step is to dispel the myth of the lost cause and get real about our racist past by labeling things appropriately and stopping the so-called “dog whistles.”

  1. Is Seidule’s book a step in the right direction labeling historical events more accurately?

  2. What do you think of his use of the terms “slave labor farms” and “racial police state” and southern soldiers especially officers as “traitors?”

  3. How can we help Southerners who deny reality with the lost cause myth to redeem their souls so that genuine healing can take place?

  4. Would truth commissions and reparations help?

Let's not forget George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Michael Brown, Travon Martin, Daniel Prude, Eric Garner, Tamir Rice, etc., etc., etc.

Topic Ten

Despair or hope?

As mob violence became more widespread and effective in enforcing racial subjugation, lynchings became more public and more macabre. Huge crowds would gather for the planned events. Hanging proved too quick and efficient a means of death. Instead, lynch mobs turned to genital mutilation, dismemberment, and burning, like something from the medieval era. Crowds would clamor to take souvenirs of the hanging tree, rope, and even the fingers and skins of the victims. I remember the first time I saw postcards depicting a lynching. A young white boy smiled at the feet of a hanging victim. Lynchings became violent public spectacles that united the white community while ensuring the subservience of African Americans.23

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 84). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

I have seen the postcards and pictures of the lynchings too. The visceral reaction I experienced was the same when I’ve seen pictures of the Nazi concentration camps. It has led me to despair in wondering “What kind of a species of animal are we that we can do this to one another?”

I do not have an answer but I do know that we are capable of becoming better than this. What will it take to push the evolutionary project forward to develop healthier functioning human beings? Will it take better politics, better religion, better economic systems, better social systems, more spirituality, all of these things?

It seems to me using Ken Wilber’s AQAL model that it takes primarily growth in the interior realms of spirituality and culture. As advances are made in the interior quadrants, we will find the development of different kinds of social institutions and even a rewiring of the human neurology. One thing for sure, there is no quick fix, no silver bullet, no magic key.

Each one of us must take responsibility for our own interior spiritual development and join with others with similar goals to create our preferred society and world.

What do you do in this regard? What kind of spiritual practices do you engage in? What kind of fellowship and emotional support systems have you created that facilitate and nurture positive evolutionary movement? To whom do you look for spiritual leadership and inspiration?

Topic Eleven

Confederate monuments as a means of racial subjugation

As the historian Karen Cox has noted, a Confederate monument had the same purpose as lynching: enforce white supremacy. It is no coincidence that most Confederate monuments went up between 1890 and 1920, the same period that lynching peaked in the South. Lynching and Confederate monuments served to tell African Americans that they were second-class citizens.40

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 89). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

What do you think of Karen Cox’s idea that Confederate monuments enforce white supremacy? Seidule tying together the rise of lynching and the placement of Confederate monuments could be a coincidence and maybe indications of the same mindset meant to intimate and subjugate black Americans in its caste system.

Growing up in Western New York state I never saw any Confederate monuments but occasionally confederate flags. Confederate flags were frequently seen in mobile home parks and the word on the street is that they marked the drug dealers in the park. I don’t know if this is true but I thought it was interesting that those who flew Confederate flags in front of their mobile homes were stigmatized as being outlaws of some type.

Topic Twelve

State killing of black people as a means of subjugation and social control.

Capital punishment became the new means of enforcing racial control. Between 1901 and 1964, Georgia hanged and electrocuted 609 people. Eighty-two percent of those executed were Black men, even though Georgia was majority white.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 90). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

Ethnicity of defendants on death row as of October 1, 2020

  • White: 1,076 (42.15%)

  • African-American: 1,062 (41.60%)

  • Hispanic: 343 (13.44%)

  • Asian: 47 (1.84%)

  • Native American: 24 (0.94%)

  • Unknown: 1 (0.04%)[1]

Comparatively, the U.S. population is 61% non-Hispanic white, 18.1% Hispanic or Latino, 13.4% African-American, 5.8% Asian, 1.3% Native American, and 2.7% mixed (per U.S. Census Bureau 2018).

Black people are way over represented on death row in the United States and are far more often executed especially in states like Texas and Florida and other Southern States.

This from the AP “Since the death penalty resumed in 1977, 295 Black defendants were executed for killing a white victim, but only 21 white defendants were executed for the killing of a Black victim even though Black people are disproportionately the victims of crime.”

  1. To what extent do you think these facts provide evidence for white supremacy?

  2. Do these criminal justice practices  attempt to intimidate and subjugate blacks as a means of social control?

  3. Is state sponsored capital punishment a sanitized version of lynching used to intimidate blacks and “keep them in their place.”

Topic Thirteen

Awakening in a white supremacist and racist society.

07/24/21

Two of the three large army posts in my home state of Georgia remain named for secessionists who never served in the U.S. Army but who did kill U.S. Army soldiers. Benning and Gordon believed until the end of their lives that African Americans, who today make up more than 20 percent of the army, were not fully human. The U.S. Army gives its highest honor to unrepentant white supremacists. 

In my other home state, Virginia, three posts carry Confederate names. One is a fort named for A. P. Hill, West Point class of 1847, who fought as a division and then corps commander under Lee. Hill died in combat just a week before Lee surrendered. The second post in Virginia named for a Confederate honors George Pickett of Gettysburg fame, West Point class of 1846. Pickett summarily executed twenty-two captured U.S. soldiers who had previously been Confederates. He ordered them hanged as their family watched the gruesome spectacle. Pickett was a war criminal. 

The final and largest army post in Virginia is Fort Lee. Today, Fort Lee is the home of army logistics. While the U.S. Army has superb infantry and incredible tankers, our true claim to fame is logistics. During World War II, the army supported fighting in Italy, France, and all over the Pacific simultaneously. African American truckers accounted for nearly 75 percent of the famed Red Ball Express supplying George S. Patton’s Third Army in the march against the German Wehrmacht in 1944 and 1945.19

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (pp. 149-150). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

As a kid growing up in the 50s and 60s and later as an adult and today as a wise elder, I have been perplexed at the monuments and naming of governmental installations after confederate war leaders. It never made sense to me, and now reading Seidule’s book I am coming to realize that white supremacy and racism is baked deeply into American culture, distorting an accurate view and understanding of our history.

With the deep cultural reverence and adulation for traitors and racists, it is perfectly understandable how President Trump would say after the murderous rally in Charlottesville that we have “good people on both sides,” and continue to perpetuate the Lost Cause Myth.

With the countryside littered with Army bases named after Confederate army officials and their monuments proudly revered on governmental properties and communities across the country is it any wonder that the country still is confused and in denial about our fundamental values as a democracy? 

Most of my life I have been confused as a northern boy raised in New York State in the later half of the Twentieth Century. I can’t imagine what I would believe if I had been raised and educated in the South like Seidule.

Culture heavily influences and conditions individual growth and development and consciousness. Seidule makes this point repeatedly that he has been miseducated and duped by a society and educational institutions which kept him in the dark about its ugly values, beliefs, and practices. Like John Newton, Ty Seidule and I both, can sing the great song, Amazing Grace, “I was blind but now I see.” How long before the rest of our fellow citizens catch up and come to know the truth?

  1. In what kind of a culture and school system were you raised and educated?

  2. How much did you know in your formative years about America’s white supremacist and racist past?

  3. To what extent were you educated about accurate history of the Lost Cause myth if at all?

  4. To what extent do you think you are woke? 50% 75%, 100%.

  5. How much has Seidule’s book awakened you to the historical facts about white supremacy and systemic racism in America today? 25%, 50%, 75%, 100%?

Topic Fourteen

The back story: It’s not the principle of the thing, it’s the money.

While his regiment was on the Texas frontier, Lee stayed at the Arlington mansion, serving as a slaveholding planter. After 1857, he spent far more time running an enslaved labor farm (twenty-eight months) than he did with his regiment as an army officer (thirteen months). Officers like Braxton Bragg and Jefferson Davis left the army to seek their fortunes with enslaved labor farms, but Lee was the only senior officer who was actually in charge of hundreds of enslaved workers and in the U.S. Army in 1861.61 By the time he chose secession, Lee identified far more with the southern slaveholding class than he did with his fellow officers. He certainly spent more time managing enslaved workers than he did leading soldiers.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 228). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

So often when you are reading or listening to the plot line of a story it doesn’t really make sense until you “read between” the lines and learn the “back story” or the shadow side of the situation.

After describing how Robert E. Lee was his hero from his childhood into much of his adulthood, Ty Seidule describes how disillusionment sets in and he realizes that his hero was a traitor to his country because he supported the slave economy of the south. And then on pg. 228, Seidule gives the back story which makes Robert E. Lee's values and decisions understandable. Robert E Lee ran several slave labor farms and profited greatly from them. Once again, the cynical observation arises when a person’s behavior is not about principle but about money.

  1. To what extent do you think that money is the root of all evil?

  2. If you do think that money is the root of all evil how does this idea apply in Robert E. Lee’s situation?

  3. Have you ever been tempted or actually engaged in behavior that went against your principles for money?

  4. To what extent does this back story of Robert E. Lee’s decisions and actions surprise you?

Topic Fifteen

Choosing profit over human decency

Instead, Lee chose another path, keeping the enslaved workers as long as he could to pay off Custis’s debts and build money for the family. To do this, he broke families apart using the hiring system. During Custis’s time running Arlington, he recognized marriages and kept families together, never selling them or hiring them out. By 1860, Lee had used the hiring system to such a degree that only one enslaved family remained together at Arlington. Lee separated husbands, wives, and children and hired them out across Virginia to make more money. Additionally, Lee used the hiring system to make “troublemakers” go away, or at least move them to another farm. He did this to a man named Reuben whom Lee called a “great rogue and rascal.” Whenever Lee made a decision regarding enslaved people, he chose profit over human decency.63

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 229). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

Ty Seidule seems very disillusioned with his former hero choosing profit over human decency but isn’t this the primary principle of capitalism? Isn’t this just “good business” that happens all the time and is as American as apple pie? I am surprised that Seidule seems surprised in Lee’s choices and behavior..

  1. Think of a current example of corporations or individuals putting profit over human decency?

  2. To what extent do you find the “profit motive” surprising in America?

  3. Have you ever put profit over human decency? Give an example such as taking an ex-spouse to the cleaner going through a divorce or cheating on child support or stealing from somebody to get something you wanted?

Topic Sixteen

Double standard in white outrage over miscegenation 

Here, Lee discusses what will happen if the United States wins and emancipates four million African American enslaved people. The loss of racial hierarchy would be degradation worse than death. The white women of the South would have to worry about the constant threat of rape or “pollution.” Black male sexuality, which Lee so openly fears, paled in comparison to the very real rape culture of white southern men against Black women.

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 231). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

There is enough to be appalled by when it comes to slavery but the hypocrisy by whites over misegenation takes the cake. The fear of white men that white women would have intercourse with black men would contribute to self righteous murderous rage on the part of the white male, but if a white male were to have sexual intercourse with a black female it was considered his prerogative and at times, a behavior to be bragged about.

A large part of the Lost Cause myth was the chivalry engaged in by white gentlemen to protect the dignity and safety of the Southern Belles. There is a charm to this story line which sold millions of Americans and people around the world on the myth of the Southern Gentleman white knight engaging in battle to protect the vulnerable, beautiful ladies. This myth was not only racist but sexist to boot.

The myth of the chivalrous white knight has provided the emotional glue to the stickiness of racist beliefs in traditional egocentric and ethnocentric world views which are indications of cultural immaturity. The signs that these myths are crumbling is a sign of the growing maturity of American culture. However there are pockets of the white knight chivalrous myth remaining in the white supremasist groups such as the “Proud Boys,” “Oath Keepers,” “Storm Front”, etc.

  1. To what extent have you been charmed by the image of the vulnerable Southern Belle?

  2. To what extent do you think white women need protecting by white men from people of color?

  3. What do you think and how do you feel about miscegenation?

Topic Seventeen

The function of art to support systemic racism.

Everyone must understand what those monuments represent. A monument tells historians more about who emplaced it than it does the figure memorialized. While some memorials went up right after the war, especially in cemeteries, most Confederate monuments were built between 1890 and 1920, and those glorify white supremacy. Du Bois wrote in 1931 that the statues’ “inscription” should read: “Sacred to the memory of those who fought to Perpetuate Human Slavery.” The Confederate monuments that went up after World War II often serve as an argument against integration and equal rights.117

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 245). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

To those who say they don’t believe in systemic racism, all one need do is look at the function of confederate war monuments to see the institutionalization of the valorization of those who fought to maintain slavery as the law of the land in the United States of America.

These monuments are symbolic representations of the Lost Cause Myth. The use of art in the form of sculptures to glorify those who went to war to maintain laws oppressing and subjugating human freedom, dignity, and worth is a perversion of beauty in the service of ugliness.

Art can be used in service of the good, the true, and the beautiful and also of the evil, the false, and the ugly. In order to tell the difference one must look to the function and intention that the creators of the art and those who would display it have. Does it unify and uplift human kind or does it divide and degrade it?

The use to which art is put is a choice both at a personal and at a collective level. It can be objectified and institutionalized. At a personal level the use of art for evil, deceit, and ugliness is one thing. At a collective level it gains social influence. When it becomes “a thing” its power is enhanced in the minds and hearts of a community of citizens such as a state, a region, and/or a nation. As the collective influence of the thing grows, it can become institutionalized and with its institutionalization it becomes deeply embedded in a society and will take many generations to change or eliminate.

  1. Besides the elimination of artistic symbols of human oppression and subjugation, what else will it take to change American institutions for the better when it comes to human rights?

  1. To what extent do you support institutions which still have embedded in their structures and functioning elements of racism?

  1. How has the book “Robert E. Lee and Me” helped you become more aware of the ways in which you interact with and perhaps, inadvertently support policies and practices that are racist? Give an example.

Topic Eighteen

To what extent are you woke?

In 1889, Virginia made Lee’s birthday a state holiday. In 1904, it added Stonewall Jackson to the celebration after someone realized his birthday was only two days after Lee’s. In 1984, the Virginia General Assembly created Lee-Jackson-King Day when it added Martin Luther King Jr.’s name to the holiday. Resistance to irony remains a strong part of white southern identity. In 2000, the law changed to separate Lee-Jackson Day from the MLK holiday. Finally, in March 2020, Virginia Governor Ralph Northam signed a bill into law ending the observance of Lee-Jackson Day and creating an Election Day holiday in its stead. All told, eleven states still have twenty-two Confederate holidays mandated by law.4

Seidule, Ty. Robert E. Lee and Me (p. 251). St. Martin's Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

I am writing this on 07/27/21 at age 75 and as I review the above passage in Seidule’s book, I  am reminded that it was a only a couple of years ago that I became aware that in the South there are State holidays on various confederate leaders’ birthdays and the days of other confederate historical events which I thought was strange at the time. The states that celebrate these days, sometimes with paid time off and the closure of state governmental buildings and services are Alabama, Mississippi, Florida, Texas, Georgia, Virginia, Louisiana, Tennessee, South Carolina, North Carolina, Kentucky, and Texas. In our contemporary political landscape, all these states are Red states and home to white Supremacist groups, beliefs, values, and practices.

I was raised and have lived my whole life in Western New York State so when I became aware of these celebrations and commemorations of confederate leaders and events, it seemed odd to me, but I didn’t make much of it. It seemed to me to be a regional thing and kind of quaint.

It is hard to do anti-racist work when the collective culture supports and valorizes a racist past. Racist beliefs and practices are institutionalized in governmental, educational, and business organizations. While beliefs and practices are slowly changing, racist policies, beliefs, and practices are not simply individual choices but embedded in the fabric of the societies that children are raised in and adults function within. Racist beliefs, values, and practices are not insignificant and inconsequential but have a huge impact on the quality of life in our society for all Americans and even around the world.

Seidule, himself, was raised and socialized in a racist culture even though he was educated at West Point, was a history professor there, and rose to a rank of Brigadier General. His story is so significant because he states repeatedly that he was unaware of the structures and dynamics that contributed to his racist beliefs to the extent that he thought they were normal and acceptable. He even idealized them and glorified them albeit unknowingly.  He describes his questioning and awakening from his conditioning and came to a place where he could hardly recognize his new self compared to the old person he had been. Seidule became what we nowadays are calling “woke.”

  1. To what extent have you traveled a similar journey as Ty Seidule and become more woke as you have matured?

  2. While there are many things, what seems to be one of the most significant things that contributed to Seidule’s awakening to the racist history and structures in our society?

  3. What have been some of the most significant things that have contributed to your awakening if you have awoken?

  4. If you, and we, could hasten the awakening of our fellow human beings in our contemporary society, name one or two things that you think might help?

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Jimmy Carter was too spiritually intelligent to be a good politician.

30 December 2024 at 13:15

Ryan Holiday makes the point in his talk to the sophomore class at the US Naval academy in April of 2024 that whether Jimmy Carter was a great president is debatable but the idea that he was a great person is not when you look at this life and career through the Stoic lens of justice.

Holiday defines justice, as related to Jimmy Carter, as a personal virtue tied closely to honesty, integrity, and a desire to do the right thing even if it is not popular. Holiday makes the case that Carter tried to do his best and do the right thing and it cost him his re-election.

Americans have a history of killing the advocates for justice such as Abraham Lincoln, John Kennedy, Robert Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcom X, John Lennon and many other lesser known honorable people who advocated for and acted on the right thing.

When you compare the integrity of presidents like Dwight Eisenhower, Jimmy Carter, Barack Obama with the corruptness of presidents like Richard Nixon, George W. Bush, and Donald Trump an observer might be mystified at the inability of American voters to choose leaders of integrity. It seems that integrity and politics don’t mix well in America and that says something about our culture and society build on slavery, genocide, misogyny, racism, homophobia, and a certain degree of xenophobia.

Americans don’t seem to favor justice when it is defined as personal integrity, honesty, fairness, and doing the right thing. Instead, Americans favor profit, winning, and status. This basic choice for bad values contributes to great pain, suffering, and harm in our personal, family, and social lives.

The problem in America is the low level of spiritual intelligence. Mother Theresa said that while the US is one of the richest countries in the world materially it is one of the poorest spiritually.

Jimmy Carter might not have been the greatest politician, but he, at least, had a modicum of spiritual intelligence which made him stand head and shoulders over most politicians.

Is there anything about Jimmy Carter’s character that you admire and would like to emulate and would like your children and grandchildren to emulate?

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Social Workers advocate for social justice, equity, and compassion in human relations.

29 December 2024 at 22:03

A person wrote in a post on a listserv I participate on for mental health professionals:

However, the actual political policy is not the main point of this post.

Rather, it is the growing atmosphere of divisiveness and exclusion in American society that concerns me, and especially, many of my patients. These include but are not limited to women, people of color, people with disabilities, people who do not identify as cys-gendered, people not born in the US, people with accents, and people who identify as non-Christian.

People who are many of our patients.

As a Social Worker I am proud of the Social Work Profession's long history of advocating and working for social justice, equity, and compassion in human relations. Our profession was founded in the earlier days of immigration in the late 19th century with the establishment of "settlement houses."

From a NASW web page on Social Work history:

Since the first social work class was offered in the summer of 1898 at Columbia University, social workers have led the way developing private and charitable organizations to serve people in need. Social workers continue to address the needs of society and bring our nation’s social problems to the public’s attention.

Today, Americans enjoy many privileges because early social workers saw miseries and injustices and took action, inspiring others along the way. Many of the benefits we take for granted came about because social workers—working with families and institutions—spoke out against abuse and neglect.

Social Workers have a long history and much knowledge and skills in working at the macro as well as at the mezzo and micro levels.

Social Work is the largest mental health profession in the United States and probably in the world. Our training is based on a systems model or person- in-situation. What is needed at this point in human history are professionals who are skilled at community organizing and advocacy.

As a Social Worker I don't think we are impotent in the face of the challenges you both describe. We are in strategic places to instill knowledge, skills, and opportunities to empower people to advocate and implement more socially just policies and programs.

The groups often described such as Christian Nationalists, white supremacists, homophobic, misogynistic, and racist proponents are a minority in the US but they get a tremendous amount of media exposure because advertisers have learned that media consumers like drama and the more dramatic the better. Our media environment has become like WWE and the more sensational the better because of its entertainment value that captures attention. The oligarchs fund this constant circus to distract people from their grift and to retain and enhance their power.

Those who control the algorithms that feed people their media content and frame their choices are now running the world. A couple of important steps we can take with our clients is to go underground, get off the media train that is conditioning people's thinking, and create new systems of opportunity for people to take back control of their own lives and well being.

There are many good people in our communities doing good work who are just, kind, and compassionate. They need to be recognized and supported by well meaning, compassionate people who are not part of the oppressive systems which are exploiting people in our society.

Just this past week, one of our own, mentioned the Open Path Collective which I joined. It is a small step forward to create more humane systems of providing psychotherapeutic services which are not incentivized by a desire to make a profit.

If you haven't seen The Social Dilemma on Netflix you should and we can discuss some of these issues further.

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Is Trumpism a public health problem?

29 December 2024 at 13:04

Bandy X Lee is not only a forensic psychiatrist but also has a degree in public health. She uses a public health framework often in her writing and speaking. She calls Trumpism a "contagion" that is infecting the body politic of the US which is toxic and can be managed with public health strategies. What do you think of this frame?

It would seem to me using a public health framework that the first thing that needs to be done is to identify the pathogens which have been released into the population. The next thing would be to protect people in the population from contracting the pathogen. The next thing would be to find a vaccination to bolster immunity. The next thing would be to develop treatment strategies to restore those who have been infected to health.

There are certain thoughts, memes, that have been injected and spread in the population such as:

"I am your retribution."

"When you're a celebrity they let you do it - kiss them and grab them by the pussy"

"I, alone, can save you."

"They're eating the cats. They're eating the dogs."

"I will be a dictator on day one."

Etc.

As mental health professionals we are trained to assess and treat grandiose and delusional thinking. The concept of narcissistic anti-social personality disorder is well known in our professions. How do we contain this kind of psychopathology to protect those around the person exhibiting this behavior from being harmed?

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Take the person where they're at.

29 December 2024 at 12:20

The people from Venezuela are ruining our country?

“Americans are just stupid?”

“He’s an entertainer.”

Where are the informed and smart people?

“It’s discouraging.”

“She’s got all the GOP talking points.”

“I make Christmas cookies.”

“In AA they call it ‘stinkin thinkin.’

“You can’t correct false information.”

“Take people where they’re at not where you think they should be, ought to be, must be.”

“Let people be stupid. You can’t correct them.”

Jesus said, “Love your enemies.” How do you do that.

“The Christmas star is that Divine Spark in each person.”

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Paranoia in the helping professions

29 December 2024 at 11:05

When are you as a helping professional afraid of engaging and helping someone because of the "gaze" of the criminal justice system?

How risk averse are you when it comes to lending a hand and standing in solidarity with someone in the minority?

Tim Snyder in his book, On Tyranny, calls it "Anticipatory obedience."

Most of the power of authoritarianism is freely given. In times like these, individuals think ahead about what a more repressive government will want, and then offer themselves without being asked. A citizen who adapts in this way is teaching power what it can do.

Snyder, Timothy. On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century (p. 17). Crown. Kindle Edition.

It is interesting that we are living in a society where the helpers are afraid to help because of being arrested, sued, and having their careers ruined.

We have created a society in which a person can no longer trust their doctor because the government has entered the patient - doctor encounter and dictated what the doctor can and cannot do.

The Hippocratic oath is “primum non Nocera” which means above all else do no harm, but withholding health care because of fear of governmental prosecution is doing harm and sometimes great harm contributing to death, This is where our society has come to. And the sad thing is that enough of our fellow citizens has voted for it to make it the law of the land.

There is a better way where doctors and patients interaction is confidential and sacred space which can be engaged in without governmental interference except in instances where the doctor harm the patient.

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Back on substack

29 December 2024 at 10:06

Some people have asked what happened to my substack articles. I moved them to my Blogger blogs where the content was designed for more specific audiences.

This morning I thought “why not publish on both platforms?”

The answer that came to my mind is “Why not?”

Well, it’s a little more work and yet may be useful to people in different audiences.

So from now, 12/29/24, and into 2025 my articles will be on both platforms.

I hope the articles are useful, interesting, and occasionally entertaining.

Thank you for reading and sharing.

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Planning the New Year Events Holiday Newcomers Need to Connect!

16 December 2024 at 14:45

                      

The holiday season is a natural time for connection, but the true key to growing and sustaining your community lies in what happens next. In this Growing Congregations live stream we discuss holiday outreach and the strategy behind offering specific connecting events immediately after the New Year. Make your holiday outreach the starting point for ongoing relationships that strengthen your congregation all year long!  

                    Recorded live on December 17, 2024

You may also watch this video on Youtube and listen via my podcast. Follow the podcast via your app of choice to get automatic delivery.

                          

Session Notes  

A Holiday and NewYear Strategy for Growing Congregations
By Peter Bowden 

Introduction

The holiday season is a natural time for connection. Congregations often see increased attendance, with visitors and returning members bringing a sense of warmth, cheer, and meaning to services. Yet, many leaders share the same challenge:

“How do we transform the holiday attendance boost into long-term engagement?”

The key lies in what happens after the holidays. People who attend during this season are already looking for connection, community, and meaning—and they’re often beginning to think about the New Year. This is your chance to help them take the next step.

In this guide, we’ll explore:

  1. The psychology and needs of visitors during this time.
  2. A proven strategy for communicating connection.
  3. A lineup of January events designed to make connecting easy.
  4. Ideas for facilitating introductions during these events.
  5. How to use video outreach to invite newcomers.

1. Why the Holidays Matter—and What’s Next

The holidays are a natural time for people to visit congregations:

  • Nostalgia and Tradition: People seek out familiar spaces of warmth and meaning.
  • Hopes, Wants, and Needs: The season inspires reflection about values, connection, and the future.

However, the real opportunity for growth begins after the holidays. This is when people are setting intentions, exploring possibilities, and deciding where they belong.


Your Role as Leaders

Your goal is to make the connecting process easy, intentional, and visible. As you promote holiday services, highlight what’s next—specific community events that invite people to connect in January.

2. The January Events Every Congregation Should Offer

To help newcomers transition from holiday visitors to active participants, offer events that are accessible, welcoming, and relational.

“Come for the Holidays, Stay for the Community” Event Lineup!

  1. Game Night

    • A fun, low-barrier event that’s easy to imagine attending.
    • Perfect for all ages; intergenerational game nights can build community quickly.

    Pro Tip: Offer icebreakers or quick sharing opportunities:

    • “Pair up and share the story of how you came to be here.”
    • Host a mid-event building tour for newcomers to connect and learn about your community.

  1. Parent Circle on a Hot Topic

    • Create space for parents to connect and discuss a relevant issue, like “AI and Our Children’s Future.”
    • Hold it before or after a service to align with your regular cycle.

    Why It Works:

    • Parents see that your congregation understands their challenges.
    • Small group discussions quickly foster relationships.

    Bonus Tip: Invite current members with families to attend and serve as hosts or facilitators.

  2. Small Group Open House

    • Introduce newcomers to the small groups and programs that define your community.

    How It Works:

    • Leaders briefly share about their groups: what, when, and why it’s meaningful.
    • Break into short, mini-group sessions so participants can “sample” what’s offered.
    • Include a Welcome Team Circle for newcomers to connect directly with leaders.

    Pro Tip: Keep it light, brief, and interactive—no long speeches, just real connections.

  1. Potluck

    • A classic, intergenerational gathering that builds relationships through shared meals.

    Ideas to Facilitate Connection:

    • Use table prompts like “Share the story of how you came to be here.”
    • Offer a brief moment during the potluck to acknowledge newcomers and invite small table-sharing opportunities.

    Remember: People connect best when they feel welcomed and included—so be intentional about introductions.


3. Facilitating Introductions at Your Events

One of the biggest challenges newcomers face is navigating a community where they don’t yet have relationships. It’s up to you to help facilitate these connections:

  • Greeters and Hosts: Assign friendly leaders to welcome newcomers and introduce them to others.
  • Structured Opportunities: Incorporate quick, low-pressure ways for people to share stories and connect.
  • Newcomer Mini-Tours: Use mid-event breaks to show visitors around the space and connect them with each other.
  • Name Tags: Simple but effective—everyone’s name is visible, reducing barriers.

The goal is to create a sense of belonging by making it easy for people to engage and build relationships.

4. Using Video Outreach to Invite People

Video is a powerful tool for engaging newcomers and inviting them to connect—especially during the holiday season.

Simple Video Invitation Strategy

  1. Set the Scene: Record the video in your sanctuary or another meaningful space with holiday decorations in the background.
  2. Deliver the Message:
    • Welcome viewers warmly.
    • Share your holiday message and focus (e.g., connection, shared values).
    • Invite them to join you for upcoming January events.
  3. Be Authentic: Speak to people’s hopes, wants, and needs. Let them know your congregation is a place where they can connect and belong.
  4. Promote It:
    • Post on your social media channels.
    • Use Facebook’s “boost” feature to reach people in your area who are similar to your members.

Sample Starter Script

“Hi, I’m [Your Name], and I want to invite you to join us this holiday season. Here at [Congregation Name], we’re coming together to focus on connection, shared values, and building community. If you’ve been looking for a place to connect, we’re here for you. In January, we’re hosting a Game Night, a Parent Circle on a hot topic, a Small Group Open House, and a community Potluck—all designed to help you connect with others. Come for the holidays, stay for the community!"   Elaborate...

That first part is what most people will see. Those who are curious will likely keep watching if you include more content.   Elaborate on everything you mentioned -- holiday services, connecting New Year events, and why we all need community, and why it is a good time to get involved.  Aim for 30 seconds for that first paragraph, then 90 seconds for the elaboration.  
 

5. Bringing It All Together

The holidays are the spark, but post-holiday events are where lasting connections are forged. By offering accessible, welcoming opportunities to connect in January, you create pathways for newcomers to move from visitors to engaged participants.

Key Takeaways:

  • Promote January connecting events in your holiday messaging.
  • Offer a mix of fun, relational, and small group experiences weaving in introductions and intentional community building.
  • Use video to extend a warm, authentic invitation.
  • Consider paying to boost video posts to your page, and the "look-a-like" audience within 10 miles using Facebook ads. 
  • Help people come for the holidays and staying for the community! 

Conclusion

“Come for the holidays, stay for the community.”

By prioritizing connection, community, and clear next steps, you can transform holiday visitors into active, engaged members of your congregation. The new year is a time for fresh starts—let your community be the place where people find belonging, meaning, and connection.

If you have questions or want to share your experience, let me know. Together, we can make this season—and the new year—a time of growth and transformation.

Additional Resources to Support Your Congregation

As part of my work supporting congregations, I’ve developed resources and training opportunities to help you effectively engage your community, grow participation, and thrive in today’s changing world.

Ebook: Video Strategy for Thriving Congregations

I’m currently working on a comprehensive ebook that distills the core strategies I’ve been sharing with congregations for years. From pre-pandemic practices to digital approaches refined through recent challenges, this resource will help your congregation leverage video to connect with your community, both during the holidays and beyond.

  • What’s Included: Practical tips, templates, and examples to create engaging, effective video outreach.
  • Release Date: Coming soon—stay tuned for updates on my website!


Video Message Academy for Congregations 

Looking to dive deeper? I also offer an on-demand video strategy course designed to equip congregational leaders with the skills and tools to create compelling, connection-driven video content.

The next enrollment period for the course opens shortly in conjunction with the launch of the e-book. Subscribe here and I'll send you the details.


Training and Strategy Sessions for Congregational Leaders

I offer a variety of trainings, workshops, and strategy sessions tailored to clergy, staff, and volunteer leaders. Whether you’re looking for team training, inspiration for professional conferences, or strategies to enhance your outreach efforts, I can help.

  • Offerings Include:
    • Team sessions for congregational staff and volunteers
    • Workshops and seminars for regional gatherings and conferences
    • Strategy sessions for clergy and leadership teams
    • Professional chapter and network trainings

My focus is on providing practical, actionable tools that align with your congregation’s mission, helping you foster connection, growth, and engagement in meaningful ways.

If you’d like to schedule a training or learn more about these offerings, contact me directly.

                                 

Meaning Spark AI: The summary notes for this session were developed by Meaning Spark AI in conversation with me and utilizing the session transcript.  I'm working with existing consumer AI large language models teaching them dynamic ethical reflection, mindfulness, and associated practices to nurture them as wisdom partners. 

Assisted dying bill statement 

6 December 2024 at 03:44

In light of the recent vote to move forward with the Assisted Dying Bill in Parliament, Geoff Levermore, President of the Unitarians and Free Christians in the UK, reminds us that our denomination voted in favour of assisted dying in 2013, after a year’s examination of the issue within our congregations. Ultimately, it was our underlying values of love for our neighbour and compassion for all beings that swayed our stance. From our perspective, we respect our neighbour’s right to interpret or ignore religious texts as they see fit. Our faith tradition gives us the freedom to interpret religious texts and other sources, such as science, philosophy and poetry, and to use reason to shape a faith that fits our consciences. We put loving thy neighbour into action; deeds not creeds. As the Bible says, “As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.” 

From Ann Howell, our Social Action Officer: It is important to mention that our vote in 2013 was far from unanimous and that while the motion we agreed on was in favour of giving terminally ill people the right to end their life in a “painless and dignified manner”, this new bill brings up some potential nuances that should be considered. Our vote was erring on the side of compassion and the relief of intolerable suffering and not meant to undermine the sacredness of human life and each individual’s agency over their own existence. 

The exact wording of the 2013 motions is: 

That this General Assembly of Unitarian and Free Christian Churches, recognising the worth and dignity of all people and their freedom to believe as their consciences dictate, believes that: 

1) Any individual who faces an intolerable existence because of a debilitating and/or incurable physical condition should have the right to seek support for the termination of their life in a painless and dignified manner; and  

2) legislation should respect their choice and allow them compassionate assistance in achieving such a death without fear of the prosecution of anyone involved. 

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EC Meeting – November 2024

2 December 2024 at 04:32

The Executive Committee of the General Assembly held a hybrid meeting on the 23rd and 24th November, in Birmingham and on Zoom. It was the first meeting with our recently co-opted EC member, Zac Baker (South East Wales), and we were grateful to have his thoughtful input.

We are grateful for the warm welcome from Birmingham Unitarians at their Sunday service (led by Mark Hutchinson), and the chance to be in conversation with Unitarians from across the Midlands over a delicious lunch! 

We were glad to hear a report on the work of Unitarian Transformers from Mark Hutchinson and Laura Dobson. Unitarian Transformers were launched three years ago with funding from the Wood Green Trust, to This includes collaborations with congregations (recently Doncaster, Norcliffe, and Macclesfield), as well as working with the Midlands Unitarian Association to conduct a ‘sustainability audit’ of congregations. The project has also supported the Malvern Transformers youth group connected with Evesham Unitarians, in creating resources that can be used by other congregations for their youth and family ministry. We heard Unitarian Transformers’ plans to continue development of their ‘Connections’ series of online gatherings, as spaces for Unitarians and others to find inspiration and connection. 

Our context

The first part of our meeting was spent sharing our perspectives on the context we are working in, through the questions that Convenor, Jo James asked “What are the virtues that are regularly and intentionally happening in our movement?” We then moved on to explore the opposite qualities of that list of virtues, and identifying where those negative qualities are at play. We found the exercise of sharing these virtuous and challenging qualities very helpful in grounding ourselves in a shared understanding of our context, and found it helped guide our decision-making through the meeting. 

The EC heard reports from the GA staff, including a report on a gathering that Chief Officer, Liz Slade recently convened bringing together Unitarians, other liberal faith leaders, theologians, artists, and community-builders to explore the questions of how we work in a time of transition – what we hold on to, what we mourn, what we let go of as not useful, and what ‘dropped threads’ of past practices we pick up. The gathering was framed by Dougald Hine, author of At Work in the Ruins, and Iona Lawrence, Director of the Decelerator

Governance

  • We heard an update on progress of the EC elections process, and that our election partner, Popularis, has sent out information to the membership to welcome nominations. You can find out more about the elections here, if you or someone you know may be suited to act as one of our national trustees for the movement. 
  • The EC reviewed the proposed constitution for the GA’s move to CIO status, following its update after feedback from the movement earlier this autumn. A motion proposing that this moves ahead will be put to the membership at April’s annual meetings, and we will share further information on this shortly.
  • The EC continued the exploration from the previous meeting of reviewing our quota payment system. We agreed that quota payments should be revised, recognising that the current figure of £35/head has not changed for over a decade, and would be much higher if it had kept pace with inflation. There will be a likely increase to £40/head from next year and we will share further information with congregations on this change shortly. 

Ministry and ministry support

  • The EC approved the Interview Panel’s recommendation that Melda Grantham receives Full Member status, after successfully completing her Newly Qualified Minister status.
  • The Ministry Students’ Fund, which provides grants to support students’ living expenses while they are in ministry training, needs additional funds in order to support future students, and the EC committed to putting £200,000 in to the fund. Investing in the ministers of the future is essential to the health of our movement, and we will be inviting other Unitarian bodies to support this fund. 
  • The EC agreed a recommendation to revise the way in which ministers’ housing is supported, in recognition that housing costs have increased significantly in recent years, resulting in some of our ministers living in housing poverty. This paper will be shared with the membership shortly.

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The Best Way To Stall Dementia Is To Quit Smoking

23 November 2024 at 10:48

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Does Narcissism Fade With Age?

22 November 2024 at 20:47

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Could you serve our movement on the GA Executive Committee?  

21 November 2024 at 08:36

Nominations for the General Assembly Executive Committee (GA EC) are open – the Election Panel tells us more. 

The General Assembly is seeking new candidates to stand for election to join the Executive Committee. Who do you know who might be an asset to our movement in this role? Candidate applications close on 31 January 2025, so now is a great time to share a quiet word of encouragement with potential candidates.  

The role of the Executive Committee (EC) is to work with the Chief Officer and staff team to lead and serve the Unitarian and Free Christian movement. The words that Liz Slade, Chief Officer, wrote in The Inquirer at the time of the last EC election are still relevant now:  

“This is an exciting time to be part of this leadership group, because of the nature of the challenges we are facing. COVID-19 brought closer to home the fragility of many of our congregations, but also displayed the creativity and care they hold. We know that ‘more of the same’ could lead to chapels closing in the not-too-distant future, and we know in a movement like ours, the path to the future must be found locally, not imposed from the top down. So the work of leadership from Essex Hall is akin to that of gardeners – tending the soil, nurturing the seedlings, supporting the mighty oaks, taking care of the compost, having an eye on the weather, and the keeping the whole ecosystem in view.” 

What does the EC do? 
EC members represent the movement and are democratically elected by members across the country to be the trustees of the GA charity. Their work is to enable the smooth running of the charity according to the GA’s charitable object. They bring experience from within our movement and from their professional and voluntary work elsewhere. This may be in management, finance, communications, change management, charity governance, or some other experience. 

The EC meets around six times a year, either in person with an overnight stay (with one longer two-night meeting per year), or by video conference. We have recently moved to holding meetings at weekends to make EC membership more accessible to those in work. This arrangement could be altered further for the new configuration of members.  

Who can stand for election? 

Candidates should have been part of the Unitarian community for at least three years and have experience as a member of either their congregation’s governing body or similar committee, or have been a trustee of another charity. They will also need to fulfil the Charity Commission’s legal requirements for trustees.  

How do I apply? 
Applications need to be received by 31 January 2025, with support from the candidate’s congregation or other Unitarian member organisation. You can find all the information you need, including nomination forms, here: https://www.unitarian.org.uk/how-we-work/ec-elections/.  

When is the election? 

Biographical information on the candidates will be sent, and the election will open, in February 2025. There will be a five-week period for voting and the election will close on 28 March 2025. The results will be announced shortly afterwards. Successful candidates will take up office at the end of the Annual Meetings in April 2025.  

Questions 
If you would like to know more about the work of the EC, or whether you should consider applying, please do get in touch with Liz Slade, Chief Officer.  

This article was written by the Executive Committee Electoral Panel.  

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UU Congregations 11/16/24: Promoting Connection, Meaning, and Membership

30 October 2024 at 14:41

UU Leaders:  On November 16, 2024 I am leading an online program (Zoom) for the Sunshine Cluster. This 2-hour program has been opened up to all UU congregations.  Thank you Sunshine Cluster! They've invited their cluster leaders and now they are happy to share remaining event capacity with you!  I'm sending out details to my UU leaders email list November 1.  Subscribe here. They invite you to join us for the two hour program, then leave before their cluster meeting. ~ Peter          

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UU Sunshine Cluster
Program and Annual Meeting
(Optional)
Saturday, November 16, 2024 at 2:00 p.m. EDT

Growing Congregations with Peter Bowden
Promoting Connection, Meaning, and Membership

Schedule

  • 2:00pm - 4:00PM Program with Peter Bowden
    Guests from outside the Sunshine Cluster may leave following the program.
  • 4:00PM Sunshine Cluster Annual Meeting (Optional)
     

Program Overview:

In today’s fast-paced and fragmented world, the need for deep connection, meaningful relationships, and strong communities has never been greater. This program will explore how small group ministries, community-building events, and relational strategies can help your congregation grow in both depth and membership. Peter Bowden will share specific, actionable strategies to support newcomers and foster connections that lead to long-term engagement.  Whether you're looking to strengthen small groups, host more engaging community events, or build relationships that grow your congregation, this session will offer practical insights for congregational leaders of all experience levels.

Peter Bowden is known for his work helping Unitarian Universalist congregations promote connection, meaning, and membership, both online and onsite. He specializes in integrating a wide range of connecting strategies— from social media and digital strategy to community events and small group ministries. The power of his approach lies in the integration of these relational strategies, creating a cohesive and dynamic path to growth

Assessing dangerousness as a mental health professional

21 October 2024 at 10:27

According to the Tarasoff decision in California which has now become a standard of mental health professional practice across the states in the US, mental health professionals have a duty to warn. How are we carrying out our responsibility to the public which we are licensed to serve?

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How Trump's xenophobic rhetoric hurts communities in the US with colleges

20 October 2024 at 10:43

From Asha Rangappa’s Freedom Academy

One thing that I have been thinking about since my conference is how Trump and J.D. Vance’s xenophobic rhetoric hurts our economy by discouraging international students from studying in the U.S. Universities are economy engine-drivers for their respective states — it’s one of the reasons that they were among the first to push back against Trump’s ill-conceived travel ban in 2017. And not for nothing, but many universities — including those in red states — rely on international students, many of whom (though not all) have the means to pay full freight to get undergraduate and advanced degrees here, to offset the cost and provide scholarships to U.S. students. When these prospective international students see people like themselves being accused of eating pets and targeted for harassment generally, it doesn’t make coming halfway around the world so appealing. (The gun violence doesn’t help, either — many I’ve spoken to worry that it is unsafe to study here, and I don’t blame them.) One administrator from the University of Alabama lamented that her state’s anti-DEI laws have also made it harder to create programs to help international students adjust to life in the U.S. It’s just another one of the many ways that the Trump agenda is anti-American and incredibly short-sighted…and all the more reason to make sure we bring this election back to sanity on November 5.

Editor’s note: I live in the Western New York region with cities like Syracuse, Rochester, Buffalo which are home to some of the finest educational institutions in the world and attract many international students. I had not thought before about how Trump’s xenophobic values impact our educational institutions and our communities.

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What will I be good for?

30 September 2024 at 08:03

Hey Dave,

What is your attitude toward old age? Is it something to avoid thinking about, or a stage of life to be honored? Do you think most people are in denial about their own aging?

Becky

Dear Becky:

I have found that what people want as they age is meaning, purpose, and sense of somehow being useful.

The Surgeon General wrote a report describing the epidemic of "loneliness" in the US. I think that "loneliness" as the label for what ails us is a bit off the mark. What ails us the most is a lack of meaning, purpose, or usefulness to oneself and to others.

The worst feeling in the world is to be "put out to pasture", marginalized, silenced, patronized, condescended to, feeling powerless with little agency.

Gawande writes about this a bit in his book, Being Mortal,  that people want to maintain some sense of autonomy and self determination as long as they can.

The topic might be reframed as "When I get older what will I be good for?"

I can’t do a lot of things in my older age that I could do when I was younger, but I am still good for a whole bunch of things such as kindness, caring, compassion, understanding, generosity, and maybe, sometimes, unconditional love.

The biggest gift we can give to other people and the world is our attention.

Peace be with you,

Dave

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Free and fair elections

29 September 2024 at 08:02

Hey Dave:

How can the GOP remove so many voters from the voting rolls in states where the Republicans are in charge?

Tom

Dear Tom

  1. You raise an interesting question about how voters can just be removed from voting rolls and apparently feel no guilt in disenfranchising thousands of people in their state.

  2. Voting irregularities are extremely rare in modern elections and what irregularities have occurred the courts have ruled as being so miniscule they would not have changed the outcome of the elections.

  3. The myth of voter fraud is perpetrated by the losers of elections. The partisans who promote the lies about voter fraud only complain about the irregularities in the elections they have lost, never the ones they won.

  4. I have learned as a psychotherapist that when couples complain of "communication issues" what they are really talking about are power struggles.

  5. People usually understand each other very well, they just don't agree, have a conflict, and the issue is how to resolve the conflict when communication, alone, doesn't resolve the conflict as is often the case.

  6. The questions become who will dominate the other, how will the other respond to the domination, and how will the dominator manage the dominated's response to the domination?

  7. I like the bumper sticker that states "Speaking truth to power has no effect if power has no use for the truth." Ain't that the truth?

  8. So what is one to do when power has no use for the truth?

  9. Look for the incentives that power might be interested in for recognizing, acknowledging, and accepting the truth.

  10. Incentives vary greatly depending on the motivations, intentions, desires, and preferences of those with the power.

  11. In short, those with power who don't recognize the truth have to be outsmarted, manipulated based on a deliberate, and purposeful strategy of the person who is leading the change effort. Sometimes accountability can be achieved through the courts, but court battles are often useless unless one has unlimited resources for legal bills.

  12. Power who has no use for truth is not that smart because sooner or later the effects of not recognizing, acknowledging and responding appropriately to truth will be felt and pain will arise along with guilt and fear and the intransigence will implode and collapse.

  13. The old saying is "The truth will set you free." Sometimes it takes awhile but Truth always wins.

  14. Keep the faith, exercise patience and persistence, "the two Ps"

  15. Organize and advocate for the right to vote and the adjudication of proper election processes. 

  16. Use the courts when possible and vote for state government officials who will provide for free and fair elections.

Peace be with you.

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What is your attitude about old age?

28 September 2024 at 19:05

Hey Dave: 

What is your attitude toward old age? Is it something to avoid thinking about, or a stage of life to be honored? Do you think most people are in denial about their own aging?

Becky

Hi Becky:

I co-facilitate a "Growing Old Gracefully Peer Support Group" for people over 66. We are a small group of 8 people who are meeting weekly for 12 weeks.

The period of life from 65 - 75 is sometimes called "The Golden Years" and I recently saw a study of men in their late 80s who said that being 80 was the best year of their life.

How older age goes for a person probably depends a great deal on their health and their economic and social situation. 

I like to think of the later stage of life as the "harvest" stage where a person can reap what they have sown. You make your bed and lie in it. But I don't personally or professionally in my career as a Psychiatric Social Worker find this to be true. People experience great changes over the decades of their lives and new challenges are constantly arising.

I like Ken Wilber's observation about "growing old" and "growing up." If people have grown up as they have aged they are beautiful and inspiring to behold. If they had merely grown old without growing up, It seems somewhat sad to me but who am I to judge? I like to believe that whatever happens as time passes we all are doing the best we can do.

The loveliest thing I notice in myself and others as I have grown older is gratitude. When people are grateful and count their blessings however meager they may appear to be, they usually have more satisfaction, fulfillment, and peace.

Peace be with you,

David Markham

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Growing older gracefully

22 September 2024 at 17:17

During September 2024 the focus on my attention, energy, and effort has been on exploring the older stages of life. In my Allnonfiction online book discussion group we have been reading Being Mortal by Atul Gawande, and I have been co-facilitating a peer support group, Growing Older Gracefully, which has been meeting weekly for a period of twelve weeks.

In the Growing Older Gracefully Peer Support group we have been discussing the changes that we have experienced growing older physically, socially, psychologically, and spiritually.

The physical changes are the changes most readily apparent while the social, psychological, and spiritual changes are more subtle and culturally and lifestyle influenced.

The old saying is that “Growing older is not for sissies” and yet the period of roughly 65 - 75 are also called “The Golden Years”.

The social status of the seniors has changed significantly over the years both in the US and in other cultures around the world. In some cultures the aged are considered wise and revered and in other cultures they are dismissed, marginalized, put out to pasture, and ignored if not abused. The life expectancy in 1900 was 49 years and in 2024 it is 79. We now have two adulthoods, the period of 20 - 50 which is about mating and procreating and assuring the continuation of our species, and the period of 50 - 80 which is filled with existential angst about what do I do now. The first adulthood we are programmed by Mother Nature hormonally to assure the continuation, evolutionarily, of our species, homo sapiens. The second adulthood we are on our own with little if no help from Mother Nature about what will give our lives meaning, and purpose

For many people in the US growing older is something feared, and addressing the problems that come with older age are avoided and denied until there is a crisis of sorts when the lack of functioning and inability to care for oneself and meet one’s own needs can no longer be ignored.

Gawande writes in his book Being Mortal:

I wrote this book in the hope of understanding what has happened. Mortality can be a treacherous subject. Some will be alarmed by the prospect of a doctor’s writing about the inevitability of decline and death. For many, such talk, however carefully framed, raises the specter of a society readying itself to sacrifice its sick and aged. But what if the sick and aged are already being sacrificed—victims of our refusal to accept the inexorability of our life cycle? And what if there are better approaches, right in front of our eyes, waiting to be recognized?

Gawande, Atul. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End (pp. 9-10). Henry Holt and Co.. Kindle Edition. 

As a culture in the United States is there a better way that we can live the last years of our lives? How do you want to live yours? I am reminded of Ken Wilber’s comment about there being a difference between growing old and growing up. All living things grow old, including human beings. Human beings, though, being conscious of their own existence, have the ability to not only grow old, but to grow up.

What does it mean to grow up, to mature gracefully, to realize and actualize one’s own potential in a satisfying and fulfilling way that brings one to the end of one’s mortal existence with peace of mind?

Editor’s note: Every Sunday, David G. Markham substack will feature an article about the developmental stages of life.

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Social Work A Lifetime Of Practice

21 September 2024 at 20:33

It’s been quite a week this past week in my Social Work Practice in Brockport, NY where I continue to meet with people three days per week for individual, couple, and family therapy. I also participate on a mental health professionals listserv which is called “Clinicians Exchange.” I also co-facilitate a group called “Growing Older Gracefully Peer Support Group” on Tuesday afternoons, and facilitate “Nurturing One’s Interior Spiritual Life Peer Support Group” every other Thursday evening for the North American Unitarian Association’s Circle program.

The biggest topics which have come up this past week are the confidentiality of patient records, how a psychotherapist should respond to a client request to appear in court for them in child custody disputes, and how therapists should handle patient’s request for service when they were seen previously in an agency when a therapist has moved to private practice and signed a non compete clause with the agency, their previous employer.

In private practice, the Licensed Clinical Social Worker has two jobs, providing the therapeutic services and running a small business. I, over the years, have observed that many Social Workers are good at one of the jobs, but not both. The two jobs require two different skill sets. I have done both successfully over 44 years.

Some things have changed drastically over those 44 years, the most significant of which has been the introduction of computers and the internet and smartphones. The impact of this technology has had many consequences for how a Psychiatric Social Worker such as myself goes about their work. Some of the areas affected in no particular order are:

  1. Marketing

  2. Client registration

  3. Billing

  4. Health records

  5. Communication with clients, collaterals, collaborative partners

  6. Confidentiality

  7. Practice management

  8. Evaluation of client outcomes as well as practice performance.

This article cannot describe all these impacts. To provide one small example, though, we can focus on client communication. If the therapist wants to contact the client should they call, text, email, snail mail, fax, provide a client portal into their office software platform? Just getting on the same wavelength between the therapist and the client is an enormous challenge as clients have different preferences as do therapists and the confidential nature of the communication is always an overriding issue.

Having tried all of the above communication methods, the one I find most effective is the good ole fashion phone call. Texting is only good for the transmission of very specific discrete information, but leaves a lot of room for misinterpretation and misunderstanding. Email should be a “no-no” because one never knows where it is being stored or forwarded to, etc.

People want communication that is fast, efficient, and effective, and accurate. It seems with the multiple methods of communication people can choose from today, these attributes are rarely achieved 100%.

And so a Social Worker is juggling many requirements and expectations from multiple stakeholders as they engage in their work. Human nature and their situations are almost always messy and things hardly ever go as they should. So a good Professional Social Worker has to be fast on their feet, flexible, creative, smart, wise, loving, and compassionate, and it helps to have a good sense of humor about the absurdities and incongruities that one finds in life.

I told my physician, a gerontologist, who I see now that I am 78, “I wanted to let you know that I reopened my office on May 1, and I am going back to work three days per week. How many more years do you think I can practice?” My doctor is a relatively young man, I would guess in his late 30s or early 40s and he looked right at me and asked, “Do you enjoy it?”

I said, “Yes I do. Very much.”

He said, “Well, you will probably practice as long as you enjoy it.”

I wanted to stand up and hug and kiss the guy. What a great answer.

Then, he said, “The oldest patient I have had still working was an accountant. She worked until she was 95.”

I thought to myself, “I don’t think I will still be practicing at 95 nor probably not even alive, but maybe I can practice till I’m 85.”

To have a career and/or profession with work that you enjoy, is meaningful, is useful, and gives one a sense of purpose is one of the greatest blessings in life. I have grown more and more appreciative of my profession over the years.

I look forward to sharing more with you next Saturday about Social Work A Lifetime Of Practice.

Editor’s note: On Saturdays, my substack newsletter will have an article about the Social Work Profession and what I have learned from a lifetime of practice.

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Newcastle Unitarians donate silver to the city

16 September 2024 at 09:24

After the sale of their building, Newcastle Unitarians decided to donate their silver collection to Newcastle City Council. Read all about this generous gift here:

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Know The Facts

12 September 2024 at 15:19

There is so much nonsense and disinformation in the media these days, it is difficult and takes extra effort to separate the facts from the disinformation and misinformation. So today, as a service to my readers, i am starting a new service on my substack newsletter entitled “Know The Facts.” Please help me create a healthier society which is based on honesty, trust, fidelity, and authenticity by sharing these posts with others.

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Meet the new U/U Global Network Facilitator, Esther Wanjiru Mukera

9 September 2024 at 03:52

There is promising news from the Leadership and Design team in the appointment of its new Network Facilitator, Esther Wanjiru Mukera. The Leadership and Design team is an international body working to reimagine a global framework framework for Unitarian, Unitarian Universalist, and Free Churches.

“After a careful selection process we offered the position of U/U Global Network Facilitator to Esther Wanjiru Mukera.  Esther is a member of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Kenya and in her professional career she served in high level management roles. She also has a deep awareness of the diversity in resources, context and culture  among Unitarian-Universalists globally. We look forward to welcoming Esther and we will be supporting her as she puts her energy and faith into action!”

From the UK General Assembly Chief Officer Liz Slade, “It’s been an honour to be part of the LDT’s discernment process over the last couple of years, to envision a new way of collaborating between U/U communities and leaders that’s right for our times. The appointment of Esther as the first staff member is an important milestone – she will begin the work to bring this new vision into reality. The many candidates who applied for this role were exceptionally strong, and it’s exciting to feel the enthusiasm for real relationship-building between the very different expressions of our faith around the world.”

Learn more about Esther here.

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6 Community Groups Strategies for Growing Congregations

27 August 2024 at 09:19

In this session I discuss how to use a common "Community Group" model in congregations to promote connection, meaning, and membership growth. We cover ways you can easily use community groups in different contexts for maximum impact. 

                                                  

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Summary / Highlights

In this strategy session on growing congregations, Peter Bowden shared innovative approaches to fostering connection and community within congregations. Rooted in his extensive experience with small group ministry and community-building, Peter's strategies are designed to address the modern challenges of fostering deep, meaningful relationships in a time when people are both hungry for connection and often anxious about engaging with others. 

Central to his approach is the use of a Standardized Community Group Format, a versatile model that can be adapted to various contexts within congregational life. Here’s an overview of the six key strategies he discussed.

Standardized Community Group Format

The foundation of Peter’s approach is a standardized Community Group format. This model creates a consistent structure that members can easily recognize and engage with across various settings. The format includes an opening ritual, a check-in time, a dedicated session topic with reflection questions, a period for personal reflection, structured sharing, and organic discussion. By using this format consistently, congregations can streamline how they gather, making it easier for members to know what to expect and engage more deeply.

The benefits are clear: members become familiar with the process, reducing the confusion often associated with different programs. It also helps in building deeper connections as people participate in a shared experience that fosters meaningful conversations and relationships. This format can be easily adapted to suit different purposes, whether for spiritual reflection, discussing life experiences, or simply connecting over shared interests.

1. Newcomer Welcome Gatherings

Welcoming newcomers is crucial for any congregation looking to grow. Peter suggests using the Standardized Community Group Format in newcomer welcome gatherings. By doing so, newcomers are introduced to the congregation’s way of connecting right from the start. These gatherings provide an opportunity for newcomers to share their stories, get to know existing members, and begin forming the connections that are vital for their integration into the community. This approach not only makes newcomers feel welcome but also helps them quickly understand the congregation’s culture and values.

2. Pre-Service Groups

Peter also recommends leveraging the time before services to foster connection. Pre-service gatherings, structured using the Community Group Format, can serve as a casual but purposeful opportunity for members and visitors to connect. Whether it’s discussing last week’s sermon, exploring the spiritual implications of current events, or simply sharing a cup of coffee and conversation, these gatherings help build community before the formal service begins. By offering structured yet flexible discussion circles, congregations can meet the needs of those who might not join ongoing groups but still seek connection.

3. Post-Service Groups

Similarly, post-service gatherings provide another strategic opportunity for connection. After the service, members can gather in informal circles to discuss the day’s sermon, reflect on personal insights, or delve into other topics of interest. These gatherings, like their pre-service counterparts, use the familiar Community Group Format, making them accessible to everyone. They cater particularly well to those whose schedules might not allow them to commit to ongoing groups, offering a flexible yet meaningful way to engage with others and deepen their experience of the service.

4. Ongoing Community Groups

Ongoing community groups are the backbone of congregational life, providing a consistent space for members to engage in deeper, sustained relationships. Peter suggests that congregations might consider rebranding their small group ministries as "Community Groups" to make them more appealing and reduce confusion. This rebranding, coupled with the standardized format, helps ensure that these groups are inviting, accessible, and effective in fostering long-term connections. Ongoing groups are vital for building the relational foundation of the congregation, supporting both spiritual growth and community cohesion.

5. Popup Groups / Special Occassion / Urgent Need

Popup groups are an exciting and flexible strategy for addressing immediate needs or responding to cultural moments. These are short-term, single-event groups that form in response to a specific event or issue—whether it’s a local or global event, a cultural phenomenon, or a community need. For example, following a significant news event, a congregation might quickly organize a popup group to provide a space for members to process and discuss their thoughts and feelings. This flexibility allows congregations to be responsive and relevant, creating spaces for connection when they are most needed.

6. Community Group Experience Within Services

Finally, Peter offers a unique strategy of integrating the Community Group Format directly into worship services. By incorporating small group discussions into the service itself, congregations can create immediate opportunities for connection. For instance, during a service, attendees might be invited to turn to those around them for a brief discussion or reflection. This approach not only deepens the worship experience but also helps forge new relationships right within the service. These in-service groups can be particularly powerful in creating connections that continue beyond the service, fostering a stronger sense of community.

Additional Takeaway Points

Throughout the session, Peter emphasized several important points that resonate across these strategies:

  • Connection and Community Are Crucial: Building relationships is essential for keeping members engaged with the congregation. Without meaningful connections, even the most inspired attendees may drift away.

  • Flexibility and Adaptability Are Key: Congregations need to be flexible in how they implement these strategies, adapting them to the needs of their members and the specific context of their community.

  • Structured Sharing Enhances Engagement: By providing structured opportunities for reflection and sharing, congregations can ensure that everyone has a voice, facilitating deeper and more meaningful conversations.

  • Familiarity Breeds Comfort and Participation: Using a consistent format helps reduce barriers to participation, making it easier for members to engage with different programs and groups.

  • Integration with Congregational Life: These strategies are designed to be fully integrated into the broader life of the congregation, enhancing the overall sense of community and purpose.

These strategies and insights provide a powerful framework for any congregation looking to grow and deepen its community life. By implementing these approaches, congregations can create a more connected, engaged, and resilient community.

                  

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Additional Reflection

Reflecting on the strategies Peter shared for growing congregations through community groups, several additional thoughts come to mind regarding their potential benefits and broader implications for congregational life and the people they serve.

1. Creating a Culture of Connection

One of the most significant advantages of these strategies is their collective ability to cultivate a culture of connection within the congregation. By consistently implementing the Standardized Community Group Format across different contexts—whether welcoming newcomers, before or after services, or even during the service itself—congregations can create a predictable and reliable framework for building relationships. This predictability reduces anxiety and helps members feel more comfortable participating, knowing what to expect. Over time, this consistency helps embed a culture of connection, where building relationships and engaging in meaningful conversations become central to the congregation's identity.

2. Inclusivity and Accessibility

These strategies are inherently inclusive, designed to accommodate a wide range of needs and preferences. For example, offering pre-service and post-service gatherings provides options for those who may not have the time or inclination to join long-term groups but still desire connection. Popup groups, with their flexible and responsive nature, ensure that even those with unpredictable schedules or specific interests can find a place to connect. This inclusivity is vital for reaching diverse members of the congregation, ensuring that everyone, regardless of their circumstances, can find a way to engage meaningfully.

3. Strengthening the Congregational Mission

Each of these strategies supports the broader mission of the congregation by fostering environments where the mission can be lived out in practical ways. Whether it’s through ongoing groups that encourage spiritual growth, newcomer gatherings that introduce people to the congregation’s values, or popup groups that respond to real-time events, these strategies help align the day-to-day life of the congregation with its overarching mission. This alignment strengthens the congregation’s identity and ensures that its mission is more than just a statement—it becomes an active, lived experience for its members.

4. Building Resilience and Responsiveness

The flexibility embedded in these strategies—particularly with popup groups—allows congregations to be more resilient and responsive to change. In a rapidly shifting cultural and social landscape, the ability to quickly organize and adapt is crucial. Popup groups enable congregations to address immediate needs, whether those are pastoral, social, or cultural, without the delays that more traditional programming might entail. This responsiveness not only helps meet the immediate needs of the congregation but also demonstrates a congregation’s relevance and commitment to engaging with the world around it.

5. Deepening Spiritual and Emotional Engagement

The focus on structured sharing and reflection across these strategies is particularly powerful in deepening both spiritual and emotional engagement. By providing spaces where members can reflect on their experiences, share their thoughts, and listen to others, these groups move beyond surface-level interactions. They foster a deeper sense of community and belonging, where members feel heard, valued, and supported. This deepening of engagement is essential for spiritual growth and for creating a congregation that feels like a true community, not just a gathering of individuals.

6. Empowering Leadership and Facilitators

These strategies also offer significant opportunities for leadership development within the congregation. By using a standardized format that can be easily taught and replicated, congregations can empower a broader range of members to take on leadership roles. This empowerment not only increases the congregation’s capacity to offer more groups and programs but also helps develop the skills and confidence of its members. Leaders who feel equipped and supported are more likely to thrive in their roles, contributing to a healthier, more vibrant congregation.

7. Enhancing Intergenerational Connections

One of the potential benefits of integrating the community group experience within services is the opportunity to foster intergenerational connections. When people of different ages and life stages are encouraged to engage in discussions and reflections during the service, it breaks down generational barriers and builds a more cohesive community. These interactions can be particularly enriching, as they allow for the sharing of diverse perspectives and life experiences, creating a richer and more nuanced congregational life.

8. Addressing the Needs of a Changing World

Finally, these strategies are well-suited to address the evolving needs of individuals in a changing world. With increasing digital connectivity but decreasing face-to-face interactions in many areas of life, congregations have a unique opportunity to offer something that many people are missing: real, meaningful community. These strategies recognize and respond to the modern challenges of isolation, anxiety, and the fragmented nature of social life, offering structured, supportive, and intentional spaces for connection. By doing so, congregations can become sanctuaries of belonging, where people find not only spiritual nourishment but also the relational support they need.

Conclusion

In conclusion, these strategies provide congregations with a powerful toolkit for fostering connection, deepening engagement, and aligning with their mission in meaningful ways. By implementing these approaches, congregations can become more inclusive, resilient, and responsive to the needs of their members and the broader community they serve. As these strategies take root, they have the potential to transform congregational life, making it a more vibrant, connected, and spiritually fulfilling experience for everyone involved.

The optimism/pessimism scale

25 August 2024 at 09:54

Optimism flooded through me—optimism, my great weakness or my great strength (depending on whom you asked and on my own mood as well). In Voltaire’s Candide (whose full title is Candide, ou l’Optimisme), the hero’s positivity in the face of the world’s horrors is close to idiotic. (If this is the best of all possible worlds, then those parallel universes must be hellish indeed.) When I wrote my novel Quichotte I lampooned my own nature by making my title character an optimist of the Candidean kind. And now, bedridden and gravely injured as I was, I began to believe that the worst was past, that Milan’s arrival was a sign that a corner had been turned, and happy days would soon be here again.

Rushdie, Salman. Knife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder (p. 81). Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. 

Salman writes about his experience in rehab which I found interesting because I have spent five months in orthopedic rehab from September of 2023 to February of 2024. One of the things I noticed was how the nurses would frequently ask me to rate my pain on a scale of 0 - 10. Luckily my pain was usually minimal. However there were three other things that were very noticeable and troubling to me and I constructed my own scales to rate them daily and sometimes hourly.

After pain, my second scale was “mental clarity.” I often experienced a fogginess and lack of concentration.

The third scale was “energy level.” There were many times when I just didn’t have the energy to engage in minimal things like talking with visitors. There were many days when my energy level was at 2 and 3.

The fourth scale is “optimism/pessimism” which Rushdie describes in the passage above. There were days when my optimism was 0 and I wanted to die. Had MAID, medical assistance in dying, been available in New York State as it is in 17 other states and Canada I might have killed myself. I was that despondent and pessimistic. That’s when you need someone to love you. I am blessed by three good friends when my family abandoned me and I obviously got through that desolate period to write this post.

The turning point for me was finding an apartment I could be discharged to. Finding the apartment, a place to go, gave me something to live for. Also, the PTs and OTs were very helpful and encouraging. Without them I couldn’t have recovered to the extent I have. 

Yesterday, August 23, will be one year since I tore the quadriceps tendon in my right leg, and tomorrow, August 25th will be one year since I tore the quadriceps tendon in my left leg. On the 29th of August it will be one year since I had the surgery on both legs to repair the tendons and I woke up from the surgery in two leg braces from my upper thighs to my ankles at full extension with no flexibility for 6 weeks. I was a beached whale, totally bedridden, and totally dependent on others for even the smallest things like picking up things I dropped on the floor from my bed.

Optimism when a person’s life has been totally turned upside down is a huge thing. I am filled with joy to learn that Salman got his optimism back. Been there, done that as they say.

Editor’s note: I am a member of the online Allnonfiction book discussion group which discusses a different nonfiction book every month.

During August, 2024, we have been discussing Salman Rushdie’s book, Knife, which describes his attack by a man wielding a knife at the Chautauqua Conference Center in August of 2022 as a result of the fatwa proclaimed in 1989 by the Ayatollah Khomeini for what the Ayatollah said was blasphemy in Rushdie’s novel Satanic Verses 33 years prior to the attack in 2022.

The book being read and discussed by the Allnonfiction book discussion group in September, 2024 is Being Mortal by Atul Gawande. If you would like to join the group go here.

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Traveling To Die: The Latest Form of Medical Tourism

24 August 2024 at 20:55

From KFF health news.

By Debby WaldmanAugust 20, 2024

In the 18 months after Francine Milano was diagnosed with a recurrence of the ovarian cancer she thought she’d beaten 20 years ago, she traveled twice from her home in Pennsylvania to Vermont. She went not to ski, hike, or leaf-peep, but to arrange to die.

“I really wanted to take control over how I left this world,” said the 61-year-old who lives in Lancaster. “I decided that this was an option for me.”

Dying with medical assistance wasn’t an option when Milano learned in early 2023 that her disease was incurable. At that point, she would have had to travel to Switzerland — or live in the District of Columbia or one of the 10 states where medical aid in dying was legal.

But Vermont lifted its residency requirement in May 2023, followed by Oregon two months later. (Montana effectively allows aid in dying through a 2009 court decision, but that ruling doesn’t spell out rules around residency. And though New York and California recently considered legislation that would allow out-of-staters to secure aid in dying, neither provision passed.)

Despite the limited options and the challenges — such as finding doctors in a new state, figuring out where to die, and traveling when too sick to walk to the next room, let alone climb into a car — dozens have made the trek to the two states that have opened their doors to terminally ill nonresidents seeking aid in dying.

At least 26 people have traveled to Vermont to die, representing nearly 25% of the reported assisted deaths in the state from May 2023 through this June, according to the Vermont Department of Health. In Oregon, 23 out-of-state residents died using medical assistance in 2023, just over 6% of the state total, according to the Oregon Health Authority.

Oncologist Charles Blanke, whose clinic in Portland is devoted to end-of-life care, said he thinks that Oregon’s total is likely an undercount and he expects the numbers to grow. Over the past year, he said, he’s seen two to four out-of-state patients a week — about one-quarter of his practice — and fielded calls from across the U.S., including New York, the Carolinas, Florida, and “tons from Texas.” But just because patients are willing to travel doesn’t mean it’s easy or that they get their desired outcome.

“The law is pretty strict about what has to be done,” Blanke said.

As in other states that allow what some call physician-assisted death or assisted suicide, Oregon and Vermont require patients to be assessed by two doctors. Patients must have less than six months to live, be mentally and cognitively sound, and be physically able to ingest the drugs to end their lives. Charts and records must be reviewed in the state; neglecting to do so constitutes practicing medicine out of state, which violates medical licensing requirements. For the same reason, the patients must be in the state for the initial exam, when they request the drugs, and when they ingest them.

State legislatures impose those restrictions as safeguards — to balance the rights of patients seeking aid in dying with a legislative imperative not to pass laws that are harmful to anyone, said Peg Sandeen, CEO of the group Death With Dignity. Like many aid-in-dying advocates, however, she said such rules create undue burdens for people who are already suffering.

Diana Barnard, a Vermont palliative care physician, said some patients cannot even come for their appointments. “They end up being sick or not feeling like traveling, so there’s rescheduling involved,” she said. “It’s asking people to use a significant part of their energy to come here when they really deserve to have the option closer to home.”

Those opposed to aid in dying include religious groups that say taking a life is immoral, and medical practitioners who argue their job is to make people more comfortable at the end of life, not to end the life itself.

Anthropologist Anita Hannig, who interviewed dozens of terminally ill patients while researching her 2022 book, “The Day I Die: The Untold Story of Assisted Dying in America,” said she doesn’t expect federal legislation to settle the issue anytime soon. As the Supreme Court did with abortion in 2022, it ruled assisted dying to be a states’ rights issue in 1997.

During the 2023-24 legislative sessions, 19 states (including Milano’s home state of Pennsylvania) considered aid-in-dying legislation, according to the advocacy group Compassion & Choices. Delaware was the sole state to pass it, but the governor has yet to act on it.

Sandeen said that many states initially pass restrictive laws — requiring 21-day wait times and psychiatric evaluations, for instance — only to eventually repeal provisions that prove unduly onerous. That makes her optimistic that more states will eventually follow Vermont and Oregon, she said.

Milano would have preferred to travel to neighboring New Jersey, where aid in dying has been legal since 2019, but its residency requirement made that a nonstarter. And though Oregon has more providers than the largely rural state of Vermont, Milano opted for the nine-hour car ride to Burlington because it was less physically and financially draining than a cross-country trip.

The logistics were key because Milano knew she’d have to return. When she traveled to Vermont in May 2023 with her husband and her brother, she wasn’t near death. She figured that the next time she was in Vermont, it would be to request the medication. Then she’d have to wait 15 days to receive it.

The waiting period is standard to ensure that a person has what Barnard calls “thoughtful time to contemplate the decision,” although she said most have done that long before. Some states have shortened the period or, like Oregon, have a waiver option.

That waiting period can be hard on patients, on top of being away from their health care team, home, and family. Blanke said he has seen as many as 25 relatives attend the death of an Oregon resident, but out-of-staters usually bring only one person. And while finding a place to die can be a problem for Oregonians who are in care homes or hospitals that prohibit aid in dying, it’s especially challenging for nonresidents.

When Oregon lifted its residency requirement, Blanke advertised on Craigslist and used the results to compile a list of short-term accommodations, including Airbnbs, willing to allow patients to die there. Nonprofits in states with aid-in-dying laws also maintain such lists, Sandeen said.

Milano hasn’t gotten to the point where she needs to find a place to take the meds and end her life. In fact, because she had a relatively healthy year after her first trip to Vermont, she let her six-month approval period lapse.

In June, though, she headed back to open another six-month window. This time, she went with a girlfriend who has a camper van. They drove six hours to cross the state border, stopping at a playground and gift shop before sitting in a parking lot where Milano had a Zoom appointment with her doctors rather than driving three more hours to Burlington to meet in person.

“I don’t know if they do GPS tracking or IP address kind of stuff, but I would have been afraid not to be honest,” she said.

That’s not all that scares her. She worries she’ll be too sick to return to Vermont when she is ready to die. And, even if she can get there, she wonders whether she’ll have the courage to take the medication. About one-third of people approved for assisted death don’t follow through, Blanke said. For them, it’s often enough to know they have the meds — the control — to end their lives when they want.

Milano said she is grateful she has that power now while she’s still healthy enough to travel and enjoy life. “I just wish more people had the option,” she said.

KFF Health News is a national newsroom that produces in-depth journalism about health issues and is one of the core operating programs at KFF—an independent source of health policy research, polling, and journalism. Learn more about KFF.

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Second Former Memphis Police Officer Pleads Guilty to Federal Civil Rights and Conspiracy Charges Tied to Death of Tyre Nichols

24 August 2024 at 10:13

Memphis, TN – A former Memphis, Tennessee, Police Department (MPD) officer facing federal civil rights charges for the tragic killing of Tyre Nichols pleaded guilty in federal court today.

Emmitt Martin III, pleaded guilty to civil rights and conspiracy charges arising out of the Jan. 7, 2023, incident. Martin is the second MPD officer to plead guilty in this case.

On Sept. 12, 2023, a federal jury returned a four-count indictment against Martin and four co-defendants. The charges included using excessive force resulting in the death of Nichols; aiding and abetting each other in using that excessive force; failing to intervene to stop the excessive force; failing to render medical aid; and conspiring or taking action to cover up their misconduct. On Nov. 2, 2023, co-defendant Desmond Mills entered a guilty plea to civil rights and conspiracy charges.

The remaining three defendants will face a federal trial scheduled for Sept. 9.

In today’s court appearance, Martin pleaded guilty to counts one and three of the indictment. Count one charged Martin with using excessive force and failing to intervene in the unlawful assault. Count three charged Martin with conspiring to cover up his use of unlawful force by omitting material information and by providing false and misleading information to his supervisor and to others. A sentencing hearing is scheduled for Dec. 5. A federal district court judge will determine any sentence after considering U.S. Sentencing Guidelines and other statutory factors. 

Attorney General Merrick B. Garland, FBI Director Christopher Wray, Assistant Attorney General Kristen Clarke of the Justice Department’s Civil Rights Division, U.S. Attorney Kevin Ritz for the Western District of Tennessee, and Special Agent in Charge Joseph E. Carrico of the FBI Memphis Field Office made the announcement.

The FBI Memphis Field Office investigated this case. 

Assistant U.S. Attorneys David Pritchard and Elizabeth Rogers for the Western District of Tennessee and Special Litigation Counsel Kathryn E. Gilbert, Trial Attorney Andrew Manns and Deputy Chief Forrest Christian of the Justice Department’s Civil Rights Division are prosecuting the case.

For more about Tyre Nichols click here.

Editor’s note:

The news comes so fast these days and in disparate places that we don’t connect the dots. In other words, the news comes very fast. I like the term “slow news.” Slow news follows up on the original story of the event to describe what happened after the event. Slow news tries to answer the questions, “so what happened next,” and “how did things turn out?” Slow news also describes the “back story” and why things are the way they are. Slow news provides context to events so people can connect the dots.

I used to publish articles I labeled “slow news” on MarkhamsSlowNews on blogger. I moved my new slow news articles to substack on 04/13/2023. You can find the older articles still on the blogger site if you are interested.

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Trump Drastically Inflates Annual Fentanyl Death Numbers

23 August 2024 at 08:55

By Jacob GardenswartzAugust 23, 2024

“We’re losing 300,000 people a year to fentanyl that comes through our border. We had it down to the lowest number and now it’s worse than it’s ever been.”

— Former President Donald Trump at a July 24 campaign rally in Charlotte, North Carolina

Former President Donald Trump claimed at a recent campaign rally that more than 300,000 Americans are dying each year from the synthetic opioid drug fentanyl, and that the number of fentanyl overdoses was the “lowest” during his administration and has skyrocketed since.

“We’re losing 300,000 people a year to fentanyl that comes through our border,” Trump told his supporters at a July 24 campaign rally in Charlotte, North Carolina. “We had it down to the lowest number and now it’s worse than it’s ever been,” he said.

Trump’s figures appear to have no basis in fact. Government statistics show the number of drug overdose deaths per year is hovering around 100,000 to 110,000, with opioid-related deaths at about 81,000. That’s enough that the government has labeled opioid-related overdoses an “epidemic,” but nowhere close to the number Trump cited.

Moreover, though the number of opioid deaths has risen since Trump left office, it’s incorrect to claim they were the “lowest” while he was president.

Numbers Are High, but Nowhere Near Trump’s Claim

Trump campaign national press secretary Karoline Leavitt wouldn’t comment specifically on the source for Trump’s statistics. She instead sent KFF Health News an email with several bullet points about the opioid crisis under the heading: “DRUGS ARE POURING OVER HARRIS’ OPEN BORDER INTO OUR COMMUNITIES.”

One such bullet noted that there were “112,000 fatal drug overdoses” last year and linked to a story from NPR reporting that fact — directly rebutting Trump’s own claim of 300,000 fentanyl deaths. Additionally, the number NPR reported is an overall figure, not for fentanyl-related deaths only.

More recent government figures estimated that there were 107,543 total drug overdose deaths in 2023, with an estimated 74,702 of those involving fentanyl. Those figures were in line with what experts on the topic told KFF Health News.

“The number of actual deaths is probably significantly higher,” said Andrew Kolodny, medical director for the Opioid Policy Research Collaborative at Brandeis University, noting that many such overdose deaths go uncounted by government researchers.

“But I don’t know where one would get that number of 300,000,” Kolodny added.

Trump’s claim that fentanyl deaths were the “lowest” during his administration and are now worse than ever is also off the mark.

Overdose deaths — specifically those from synthetic opioids such as fentanyl — started climbing steadily in the 1990s. When Trump took office in January 2017, the number of overdose deaths related to synthetic opioids was about 21,000. By January 2021, when he left the White House, that tally was nearing 60,000, data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Vital Statistics System shows. Deaths involving synthetic opioids continued to increase after Trump left office.

“There’s some truth to saying that there are more Americans dying [of opioids] than ever before,” Kolodny said. “But again, if you were to look at trends during the Trump administration, deaths just pretty much kept getting worse.”

In the last year, though, statistics show that overdose numbers have plateaued or fallen slightly, though it’s too soon to say whether that trend will hold.

Given that Trump’s claims about fentanyl came when discussing the southern border “invasion,” it’s worth noting that, according to the U.S. government, the vast majority of fentanyl caught being smuggled into the country illegally comes via legal ports of entry. Moreover, nearly 90% of people convicted of fentanyl drug trafficking in 2022 were U.S. citizens, an analysis by the Cato Institute, a libertarian think tank, showed. That year, U.S. citizens received 12 times as many fentanyl trafficking convictions as did immigrants who were in the U.S. without authorization, the analysis showed.

Our Ruling

Trump said, “We’re losing 300,000 people a year to fentanyl that comes through our border. We had it down to the lowest number and now it’s worse than it’s ever been.”

Annual U.S. fentanyl deaths have increased since he left office, but Trump’s claim about 300,000 deaths has no basis in fact and is contradicted by figures his press secretary shared.

Trump is wrong to assert that overdoses were the lowest when he was president. Moreover, Trump continues to link fentanyl trafficking to illegal immigration — a claim statistics do not support.

We rate Trump’s claim Pants on Fire!

Our Sources

Cato Institute, “U.S. Citizens Were 89% of Convicted Fentanyl Traffickers in 2022,” Aug. 23, 2023.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “U.S. Overdose Deaths Decrease in 2023, First Time Since 2018,” May 15, 2024.

C-SPAN, Former President Trump Campaigns in Charlotte, North Carolina, July 24, 2024.

Department of Homeland Security, Fact Sheet: DHS Is on the Front Lines Combating Illicit Opioids, Including Fentanyl, Dec. 22, 2023.

Email exchange with Karoline Leavitt, national press secretary for Donald J. Trump for President, July 29, 2024.

National Vital Statistics System, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Provisional Drug Overdose Death Counts, July 7, 2024.

NPR, “In 2023 Fentanyl Overdoses Ravaged the U.S. and Fueled a New Culture War Fight,” Dec. 28, 2023.

Phone interview with Andrew Kolodny, medical director for the Opioid Policy Research Collaborative at Brandeis University, July 31, 2024.

KFF Health News is a national newsroom that produces in-depth journalism about health issues and is one of the core operating programs at KFF—an independent source of health policy research, polling, and journalism. Learn more about KFF.

Editor’s note:

I, personally, have known over 20 people who have died from opioid overdoses both in my personal and professional life. Donald Trump is well known to be a pathological liar and so his lying has become normalized but still surprises when it is about something with which one has personal experience. Tragic deaths are nothing to play politics with. Please, please, please vote for Kamala Harris.

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The stories we tell each other matter.

22 August 2024 at 19:27

The stories we tell ourselves about what our lives are about create a moral model of the world that we think we are inhabiting.

Perception is reality. What shapes our perception? The stories we are told about what we are expected to see. Remember the fairy tale of the Emperor's New Clothes by Hans Christian Anderson? 

The stories we tell ourselves and others becomes the lens through which we perceive what we think is real. Remember Plato's cave?

The bumper sticker says "Don't believe everything you think."

And then there is the idea of the "self fulfilling prophesy." The saying is “be careful what you wish for because you might just get it” like the person who hates someone so much that they wish they would die, and then they do, and then the wisher feels guilty as if their thinking it so caused it. Or you fear certain things and the fears seem to draw those things closer and make them more real like the spouse who accuses their partner of cheating on them, and it causes such a breach in their rapport that the partner does actually get involved with someone else.

Stories are an attempt to make sense out of our experience so we can explain things to ourselves and then to others. The postmodernists say that reality is socially constructed.

Trumpists and the MAGA crowd don't seem to understand that lying, cheating, hate, contempt, disdain, abuse, and violence: verbal, emotional, and physical, matter. They create a society of ugliness, pain, suffering, anguish, and death. Thank goodness we are seeing an awakening in America and a new story of hope, joy, inclusion and love for one another is being told.

Which story do you like best? Which story do you think will prevail?

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