I've been attending a UU church for a while now, and I'm now considering officially joining. As far as I can tell, this means getting voting rights and a copy of UU World in the mail.

I generally agree with most of the liberal stances of the UU, and I find it a breath of fresh air. That said, I do not agree with much of the dialogue around trans rights. While I'm fine with people rocking whatever look they like, I do not agree with males in women's sports (I can't believe they're starting to allow this without even puberty blockers now??). I don't agree with the idea that sex is irrelevant or doesn't exist (when it's the basis of reproduction?).

In countries where infanticide is common, I don't think anyone asks for an infant's "gender identity" before slamming her (it's almost always a her) head in into the ground. I don't think a girl in Africa can say "Actually, I'm a man" and get out of FGM. I can't identify my way into not being property if I were to visit Saudi Arabia, and there's no "boy mode" I can use to protect me. And it infuriates me that we stand by those who abuse, enslave, murder brown women suffer because "it's their culture" - that's something I can't respect.

Not to mention my own life and experience as a woman, where I've had trans friends pressure me to transition because I have no gender identity and I express myself pretty masculinely. I'm grateful that I'm not a few years younger, because otherwise I think I'd be one of the posters on /r/detrans, unable to undo the harm I'd've done to my body.

So, should I join? I could just keep attending (or maybe just stop). I get a lot out of attending church on Sundays, but I'm finding the questions about pronouns and the proclivity to ignore biology rather grating, in a world that abuses us on the basis of biology.

Is this a church-by-church thing? Are some churches more science-based than others? Maybe I should shop around? Or just walk away?